Asking out a cashier.

fnordsnord · 2016-05-05T09:23:45+00:00

Critical point: She's paid to be nice to you. It's part of her job description. This also goes for baristas, bartenders, bank tellers, waitresses, and strippers.

ANYONE whose job is dealing with the public is paid to be nice to you.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't throw a line in the water and see if she bites. But what might be IOI's in a bar or in class may just be business-as-usual for her.

So be more prepared than usual to get shot down. Do NOT be butthurt about it. Do NOT take it personally. If she's remotely hot, she gets hit on ALL DAY at work.

For a woman in this position, I'd suggest going with a straightforward, "I enjoy talking to you. Let's get coffee after you get off work so that we can do that some more."

play_time_is_over · 2016-05-02T12:09:56+00:00

"Hey i think you're kind of cute, can I grab your number?"

There's no real golden answer.

Your intention is to ask her out so ask her out.

If you arent explicit ir direct she won't get the message.

"Hey so later this week Im going to X, you should come hang"

Again no real golden answer. You will have a better idea on what to say as you understand the context better.

Just be direct and explicit.

EssexMum · 2016-05-02T08:20:24+00:00

"You know, I'm going to go get coffee on Saturday at Starbucks at 2pm... join me!"

Adderallabuse · 2016-05-02T14:29:43+00:00

"Nice call on the shampoo, my now hair glistens in the sunlight. Listen, I think you're kind of cute and thought we should get coffee. Type your number into my phone and ill call you to set that up"

Even if she says no. Even if she laughs. Even if she rips off her blouse and hits her knees to suck you off right there.....it doesnt mean anything about your value. The goal is not to date this unspecial cashier, its to become a man who DGAF and goes for what he wants

quicklogaccount · 2016-05-02T18:49:33+00:00

Just ask her out, but I suppose there's a way to maximize chances.

Is she a hired gun, like, cashier on a place they hire pretty woman, or a common cashier?
There's plenty of PUA literature on hired guns. The short is you prove high value as fast as you can, you talk to her towards removing her from her place of advantage and begin regular game.

If she's a common cashier though, there won't be a lot of need to remove her from her place of advantage. Since you don't have a lot of time to talk to her, you still have to prove a lot of high value as fast as you can and just call her out.

JimFury · 2016-05-02T20:12:40+00:00

I like picking up cashiers/waitresses the more you do it the more you can pick up on the subtle differences between normal shop talk and her wanting to spend time with you. If it's one you often see just ask for her number. I was at an electronics store a week or two ago and there was this hot sales chick. She came over and asked what I was looking for, I said oh just cute girls phone numbers. She kind of blushed laughed and looked away I laughed and said I like this model, motioned in her direction, wanna grab a drink this week? She looked at her friend, one of her co-workers was waiting around I'm guessing waiting to go on break and her friend looked kind of shocked that this was even happening I guess not a lot of guys do this, and she turned back and seemed super stoked. She took out her paper name tag from her lanyard and wrote her number on the back and gave it to me and said to text her later that night. Moral of the story is just go for it. You'll regret not asking more than getting rejected if it doesn't go well. Plus it's fun chicks talk about that kind of shit all day after it happens they love it.

disgruntledearthling · 2016-05-02T22:15:59+00:00

When I was young and stupid I flirted with a bank teller for a few weeks (the job required I deposit cheque for the company) and finally asked here out. She broke my heart a few months later.

Just go for it but it might help to get that playful flirt vibe going beforehand. Not sure how that can be done in a cashier situation.

Benny757 · 2016-05-02T23:35:49+00:00

It's all about getting used to the approach.
"Hey, lets go grab a drink, maybe stir some mischief later" or something like it is just plain good practice. Approaching like the skill of sales, and cold calls is hard. You have to practice, and what have you got to lose? If you get turned down, be cool, be social, maintain that frame of yours. So what? What did you learn from it? The loss is hers, because your are a pretty cool guy, right? Could'a been a wild time. And you. You gain even if turned down. Skill. Resilience. Risk. All gained in your favor. For you, it is the approach that is of most value. Frame building and game practicing in action and being honed and sharpened.

Go for it.

BeHere2234 · 2016-05-08T12:32:34+00:00

Well, here's how you approach it like a champ: buy some bananas, and when she starts grabbing them, say: "would you like to handle something bigger later on?"

Seriously, she's paid to be nice, ask her out and be done with it.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-05-02T18:03:09+00:00

No, don't do this. Cashiers are paid to smile and be nice and answer questions. Do NOT take this as flirting as it clearly is not. The ONLY way you might consider her being datable material is if she talks about different things. But since this isn't the case, you are SOL.

Cashiers are the first step in being comfortable around girls and gaining abundance mentality. You first need to treat women like humans and not like pussy.

Title	Asking out a cashier.
Author	investorstock
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Date	May 2, 2016 8:18 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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