Becoming desperate need advice

kap1pa · 2018-12-18T13:30:24+00:00

Your game is weak, which is okay cause you can get better. And I guarantee if you can get numbers but no dates you're not escalating, having a man to woman conversation, making the women realize you have a dick.

I'd say instead of approaching one a day, approach 5 a day. Research push-pull method and practice only that in your interactions.

inspiredshane · 2018-12-18T15:40:05+00:00

You sound like a guy who wants to quit a marathon halfway through because he can’t stop fantasizing about crossing the finish line.

tacospitter · 2018-12-18T14:34:04+00:00

Sorry to hear how difficult things have been for you lately.

It's important to remember everyone has ups and downs. It's totally possible you're nearing the bottom of your personal life, and things are going to turn around in the next couple years. You could look back and think, "man, imagine if I had given up right when things were the worst." If you're looking for motivation, changing how you begin each day is a powerful technique. If the first thing you do in the morning is focus on women you've been talking to, you reaffirm that's what matters more than anything else. It'll overshadow everything you do the rest of the day. Pick a morning routine that focuses on YOU. It could be something as simple as: "I'm going to wake up, shower, eat breakfast, workout, THEN look at my phone for the first time." Now you're starting each day focusing on improving yourself, instead of glancing at your phone and worrying about texts and forums that focus on receiving validation from women.
You should only pay for sex if you're a virgin, IMO. If you've never had sex, paying for it is worth doing so just to remove the nameless power it has over you. It removes all of it's 'magical wonder', and kicks it off a pedestal. If you've already had sex, paying for it won't do much for where you're at.
Clubs are not great places to meet women, unless you're just super attractive and bad at actually conversing. You need to be able to hear each other speak. You need to connect if you want stuff to go somewhere. It's very common for women to just hand their numbers out to guys in clubs to get them to leave them alone, for example. If a woman has a chance to actually talk to you and connect, she is much more likely to follow through after you get her number. I usually recommend dive bars on weekends or popular spots on weekdays. The overall goal is just to find a place where it's busy, but not shoulder to shoulder. You don't want a packed place with super loud music, and it also shouldn't be dead. This creates a fun atmosphere to meet new people.

P.S. - It's not blue pill to NOT want to fuck a girl you don't like. That's just being human. It's much easier to want to have sex with a girl you connect with in some way. It's also healthier for you, especially considering your current situation. Don't give up, things WILL turn around eventually, but you have to keep pushing forward.

FireDrillem · 2018-12-18T15:30:05+00:00

See if you can find the guys that are succeeding. Take what they’re doing and make it your own. There could be small nuances in your game that need tweaking. Try different angles.

Bilskee1 · 2018-12-18T18:52:21+00:00

You need to be honest with yourself. Everything you have done for the past 2+ years is for validation from women, not to improve yourself. You dont believe you are the prize. Guaranteed the women are picking up on your desperation, neediness and being turned off.

You didnt sleep with her because she didnt make your dick hard.

What have you learned from your interactions with these girls ?Doesnt sound like anything. You just go through the motions and expect results. Not how it works. Really just sounds like you think TRP is a toolbox to get a new oneitis.

I can relate to a good bit of how you are thinking. At times I have wanted to say fuck it and give up. Dont give up because you haven't had the success you wanted yet in the time frame you think it should be. Keep building your own value and the girls will follow.

masterpiece00 · 2018-12-18T13:06:50+00:00

Go to brothel, fuck, pay, get on with your week - repeat.
What's so complicated? those girls can be way hotter than girls in public too.

[deleted] · 2018-12-18T12:26:04+00:00

Something's wrong with your game/interactions. My best guess is that you may not be escalating properly.

Should I go to brothel? Do you think my desparation would go away when I release this or will it just increase my dependency for women?

No. No.

According to people club is the best place to meet women

Wrong.

Is it worth it practicing club gaming or should I find more alternatives to meet women?

There are women everywhere.

TheCiph3r · 2018-12-18T19:31:30+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I know most of the stuff you guys have been saying. I just need the reminder and the encouragement. Thanks a lot

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2018-12-19T09:44:25+00:00

You're probably not getting any emotional investment from the girls you're approaching. Get them to laugh...qualify...pull/push...they wanna get a hint that you can take them somewhere emotionally...they chase emotions.

Title	Becoming desperate need advice
Author	TheCiph3r
Upvotes	10
Comments	10
Date	December 18, 2018 11:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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