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[–]NazoXIII14 points15 points16 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Pftt, Continue the dread.
She met a gaggle of betas through Xbox Live, and she's probably enjoying all the validation that comes with being a "GamerGrrl". She probably hasn't even met the kid in real life, I'd honestly be amused and find it adorably stupid of her to even say something like she has a crush on him, what is she, 12 years old?
She is right about one thing though, you probably aren't challenging her enough, I'd start doing that, but I wouldn't throw any compliments her way unless of course I feel like it.
Good luck, man.
[–]OnceUponAMan3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you. You are right about not challenging her, we had a week long vacation and came back and she mentioned things felt to 'comfortable'. I didn't think too much of it then thought.
[–]teeelo1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're the guy she goes to for sex. They are the ones she goes to for validation.
Pretty standard Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks situation to me. Keep on Dread game. She knows every gamer guy would drop everything for her, no hesitation. You on the other hand are aloof and don't give a fuck. She'll need you for her recharge. They are low value, you are higher value.
Enjoy the ride while it lasts.
[–]M3_Drifter0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
adorably stupid
This so much.
[–]abdada10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She said.
Start working on spending your own time doing what is good for you, not for her. If she wants your attention make her earn it.
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
"I don't challange her enough and give her enough compliments. "
Comfort test, dead ahead!
[–]OnceUponAMan1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Her example was I should say good morning beautiful. Should I actually use this?
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Fuck no. Try "Good morning, ugly." and follow up with, "Am I doing this right?" Then continue to fuck with her.
She's trying to turn you into a validation machine. Do what she says and in 6 months she will be fucking the kid from her xbox crew and you will be wondering what happened....
[–]OnceUponAMan0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is a good point. She hasn't been throwing out many shit tests recently since we got back from vacation.
[–]OnceUponAMan-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Did what you said. She got butthurt, called me an asshole and a twat ass. The gist is I made her feel ugly, "I wasn't kidding about the compliment take it seriously or don't text me" and "Or stop making it a fucking joke."
[–]rollhax 5 points5 points5 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Do not do this over text. Vocal inflection and shit-eating-grin are important here.
[–]Endorsed Contributorfnordsnord0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link
10,000 times this.
[–]OnceUponAMan-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To late haha
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then you're doing it right. Either she runs things and turns you into Billy Beta, or you run things. If you get drawn into her frame, you lose.
[–]Endorsed Contributorfnordsnord0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
facepalm
Test? Seriously?
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's telling you how she feels right at that moment.
If you text her again, go with "Good morning, pretty okay-looking chick" then "Am I getting better at this?"
If she gets all butthurt over this stuff then she's going to be a PITA. The next stop will be addressing her as "Princess Velvettwat" or something equally retarded.
At this point, might as well double down. Anyway, worst thing you could have done was get sucked into her frame. That ends badly.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She said I don't challange her enough
What is this a MMA fight?
[–]watch_ping0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is great. He gives her emotional validation and you fuck her. It's win/win.
[–]OnceUponAMan0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Isn't the fact she is seeking emotional validation from other people bad though?
[–]steelpuppy0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes it is.
[–]OnceUponAMan0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
The annoying thing was this morning, was she had written the kids name a few times on a few different pieces of paper. Should I even mention this? I don't know if it matters but I fucked her last night.
[–]NazoXIII2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If it bothers you, soft next her. Plain and simple.
She wants to act like a middle-schooler head over heels for the first Beta to show her kindness, that's on her. Bringing it up would only come off as insecure.
To put it in perspective, you laid pipe and all she can think about is Him, do I have to say anything else.
[–]OnceUponAMan0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I read up about soft nexting. Problem is I live with her.
[–]ThrowingMyslfOutther1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's running, gaining speed on that branch swing. Either you leave her, or she'll leave you. This is no longer (ever?) a LTR.
[–]NazoXIII1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh dear god, she's trying to beta you up and get a provider while she preps a branch swing...
Dude, she got way too comfortable with you and now she shopping around, proceed with caution, this might not be salvagable
Is there a way a can find out without a shadow of doubt? Or do I have to go full Agent Mulder?
[–]symko1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As long as you are in her comfort zone, she doesn't feel threatened. This is a shit test and if/when you fail, this will escalate. Right now it's Xbox chump. Later, it could be a Chad.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=96n15NpTw-g
Patrice O'Neal does a great job of explaining dread game. It's important and right now the best thing you can do is distance yourself from her comfort zone and get her to act right.
[–]_smosbol_-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She's poking you for a reaction and validation. Ignore her tween shenanigans, seriously.
Should I just straight up say stop fishing for compliments?
[–]_smosbol_0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, don't straight up say that. She's comfort testing you with some loser she met on xbox live so there's no need for you to be a decent person and be straight to the point. Dread on.
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