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[–]FrameWalker3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You're very far off the mark
From what I have read further, they were comfort tests. We were (are?) dating (haven't had sex with her yet)
No sex==no relationship. It's all shit tests until a month of sex at minimum
Hard next you're her orbiter
[–]iamatrplurker -1 points-1 points-1 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Alright. Hard truth I know, but I guess you gotta do what I gotta do. If I hard next her, she is going to come pleading, what do I do then?
[–]avian_buddha 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link
She won't come pleading.
[–]killm3throwaway1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She probably won't come pleading, forget about her. There is plenty more pussy to be slain.
[–]FrameWalker0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You reject her to build abundance. You'll have other women by the
[–]DrBillC0sby1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
One thing that I think is important to be aware of is the difference between comfort tests and shit tests. They are not the same, and it sounded like you were interchanging then as if they were.
Shit tests can be ignored, although that can't be how you deal with every single one. However, and more importantly, comfort tests should /not/ be ignored if you want your relationship/plate to last. You still need to maintain your strong, stoic frame when addressing comfort tests.
[–]iamatrplurker0 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I understood that only later. I'm still a newbie. I fucked up in addressing her comfort tests.
[–]Sir_Distic1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hard Next. Block all contact. Erase her from your existence.
After that work on yourself. Lift, your confidence is shit right now. That'll change. You're insecure and overanalyzing everything. Take it from someone who knows.
Your very text: "..She went out on a vacation with friends, no guys there, I think. I don't care anyway, even if she did, her guy friends are beta orbiters from what I have heard..." Yes you do. You care enough to think about it more than once.
Seriously, she's bad news for you. Develop yourself. You're not going to get better overnight. No one does.
Think about this. You have oneitis for a girl you haven't even fucked yet. You care where she stays, worried about who she's with.
Abundance mentality. Develop it. If one girl leaves so what, you've got others. And you'll get others. Go out tomorrow and get at least 1 girl's phone number. I dare you. Go for 2 if you get 1.
[–]idgaf-0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everything just seems off. You're analyzing every move and full of negativity and conflict.
Let it go, this craving and struggle. You don't need it. She's not your adversary, though she is playing her own game. Until you have sex she may just be using you for validation/practice. So don't get so attached and use her for your own entertainment.
Also if all this is over text, stop. Text only for logistics.
[–]tbh_enough0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If I were you, I'd not initiate any contact with her til you're in her town for work. You can send one text inviting her to an activity. If she declines (and doesn't try rescheduling) you move on.
Either way, move on, she's doing nothing positive for you.
[–]MrFuckupKing1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
The power of game stops when a woman feels like she is being manipulated (gamed) or...
When she thinks she is nothing more than a piece of meat being used by a guy who is to damaged to love (commit) represented by him wanting to fuck as many women as possible (not commit)
Attractive women are particulalry sensitive to this because of how men have reacted to them. They become attuned to being played and become careful, suspicious, defensive, anxious, ect..
One reason beautiful women are often neurotic is because of what they have experienced with men because of their beauty as "sex"
Playing the indifferent aloof independent alpha can easily blow up in your face if you do not understand the internal world of the woman.
She gave you clues through the questions she asked. She was probing you through the questions she asked to protect herself from you.
Most women have gone through a lot of shit with men by the time you reach them.
You want to incorporate that awareness into your frame.
Frame is not a script you rigidly follow. It is fluid and has flow that changes as the circumstances change (she teaches you about her actual motives, fears,wants and needs)
Whenever you are with a woman there should be at least three people in the room. You as the man, her as the woman and another you that stands apart and watches everything transpire (invisible wingman)
You must be completely natural while watching yourself be completely natural.
I won"t lie to you. It is hard as fuck to get to this place because the very act of watching yourself takes you out of being natural (relaxed,calm, in the moment, not anxious, beyond wants).
It becomes an awareness without awareness. A very Zen experience and studying spirituality helps to learn it. You the bow and the arrow become one.
The ability to do this is where holding perfect frame comes from.
It takes practice and it is also important that you can turn it off when you are being sexual because it can fuck up sex by not allowing you to completely immerse yourself into the act
Don't share your bed with your invisible wingman.
[–]EntitledShitHead-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have slight oneitis with this girl because she is out of my league in the looks department. But with gaming I literally got her to say she feels attached to me.
Listen buddy, there's no such thing as a fluke. Rarely do people that haven't put in hard work get great things. Almost never. Women's attraction to men is based on 50% looks and 50% social skills. Don't have that unhealthy mentality that she is too good for you---if you say that again, I'll smack you upside the head. Remember, girls don't date down. You have to genuinely believe you are better than her even if you are garbage.
Recently she felt like I'm only into sex and kept asking me if I care about her etc
Oh, so she shit tested you like always, you probably answered this like a boss and said something along the lines of: "Not true, I also like you're cooking"
We were (are?) dating (haven't had sex with her yet).
Wait, you're telling me you guys haven't banged? I must have read this wrong. Wait, I didn't? Oh shit, its not a comfort test its a shit test.
I know what you guys say. Long distance shit is the worst, but I want to atleast practice my game and try to get her to have sex with me (I am going to her town for work, and she knows that). Maybe
Not to be a dick to you, but I'd give up at this point. You're not gonna practice anything except validate her sorry ass.
Am I overreacting? Should I just let this pass and act like no big deal? I'm thinking of calling her out and soft nexting her, but I think she'll see through it and play that game with me.
Move on man.
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