Body count

thesatellite23 · 2020-11-30T19:15:42+00:00

What do I think of a woman with a high body count? She's at least a little more honest than most girls. Beyond that, I don't care.

What are my rules? No remote possibility for an LTR, no more or less attention than my other plates, and always wear a condom.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-11-30T19:21:34+00:00

for a plate? it doesn't matter. all women should begin as plates. so for now, it doesn't matter.

the data on higher N count being inversely proportional to pair-bonding ability (and also inversely affecting the likelihood of marriage after 10 yrs) means it's worth considering for a full "i want kids" type LTR, so it's not just an insecurity question as some white knights scoff.

but you do need to not dwell on this during the plating phase. do seem chill and laid back and she'll open up. if you're judge'y she'll just be more secretive. again, during the plating phase it really shouldn't matter, hell better BJ skills are a plus, etc.

if she has minimal red flags and adds value to your life and you vet over time and she follows your lead, then promote if you desire. but don't start out thinking with that end, it sends the wrong signals (ie: neediness)

willwang2020 · 2020-11-30T19:19:34+00:00

The thing is how do you know the n she tells you is correct? No you’ll never know, and probably she herself doesn’t either. So it doesn’t matter.

beachbbqlover · 2020-11-30T19:25:40+00:00

I assume she has a high body count and can't be trusted to tell me.

I dont hold it against them, because what the fuck is the point. If I'm looking for competency, that doesn't come free.

Casanova-Quinn · 2020-11-30T20:28:43+00:00

It's hard for me to put solid "rules" on it because of various factors. For example, if a girl's number is 10, that can seem high or low depending on if she's in her early 20's or late 20's. Of course it depends on my intentions with her too. FWB? I don't care. LTR? It will depend on her age, body count, personality, lifestyle, etc.

KeyRepresentative · 2020-11-30T21:09:19+00:00

Body Count could just mean she’s experienced life for awhile, or it could be a red flag. I normally don’t care - everyone has had a life and an attractive 30 year old will have some experience.

Except it can be an indication that this person cannot bond outside of sexual attraction- and that’s scary. I have one ex that is likely BPD and her numbers were outrageous. I learned of all this during several of her rage episodes.

Take the whole-person view, but if it’s following other red flags it’s a big no from me.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-11-30T19:12:34+00:00

If i am not in a commited ltr ?

For a fuckbuddy N does not count.

For a ltr - virgin. Sorry. I can afford to be picky.

desiba13 · 2020-11-30T19:11:52+00:00

Given you’re aware of everything in trp world and have worked through the different points of vetting.

1 - 3 = possible marriage material

4 - 9 = LTR / possible cohabitation

10+ = casual dating / plating

That’s how I see it. Everyone has their own measuring stick but you have to be able to set your standards and answer this one for yourself.

PlayBoiPaco · 2020-11-30T20:05:17+00:00

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KillingIsMyBusinesss · 2020-12-01T06:21:09+00:00

Listen, at the end of the day, I don’t give a fuck if you’re 50 bodies under her, or 50 bodies over her. No matter what, you are in the frame of how cute her body count is compared to yours. That’s it. Girls fuck guys like guys fuck girls, everyone has sex, use a condom and get over it.

PlayBoiPaco · 2020-11-30T20:02:41+00:00

Disgusted by girls with high N count. Good for fucking, but nothing else.

LTR needs to be in the lows like 1-2 max. Sounds crazy in modern times, but I've had a virgin as a LTR, although she turned out to be a psychopath and became a huge slut after we broke up (Joined hardcore BDSM communities).

The most important factor is how she handles it. Is she someone who makes everyone aware of her sluttiness? Or is she someone who keeps quite and plays "pure"?

E.g. I know my current LTR doesn't have too much experience, but I know she has had some before me. Could be 1.. could be 3 or 4. I really don't know and don't want to know either. As long as she doesn't talk about it I am fine. It just disgusts me when a girl I see as LTR material talks about past experiences. Sluts however can talk about whatever they want - I don't mind that.

CochinoChingon · 2020-11-30T19:15:33+00:00

Personally I don't care about body count.

Body count does not equal good or bad GF material nor does it correlate to anything. I've been with females that had low body counts (less than five) and had amazing skills, I almost considered marrying. I've been with high counts that are pillow princesses, good in bed and just OK.

Second reason I don't care about body count, mine is high. Doesn't mean I'm a bad person, just poor impulse control when I was younger.

Meloxian · 2020-12-01T02:40:25+00:00

You’ve got to up your body count, let’s get a knife...

HumbleTrees · 2020-12-01T10:48:10+00:00

Firstly this is age dependent. That has to be accounted for.

I've seen studies that suggest women's ability to pair bond is fine for the first three sexual partners, after which it's significantly negatively affected at the levels of oxytocin release after sex.

So if you want the best pair bonding, be one of her first three. After a certain age that's just not likely anymore. More than ten becomes very problematic in my experience.

Title	Body count
Author	PlayBoiPaco
Upvotes	5
Comments	51
Date	November 30, 2020 7:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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