Boring life syndrome

DaMrMeth · 2018-09-01T21:28:11+00:00

Chance is that you’ll not like this recommendation, however, if the grind is boring you might not been grinding hard enough.

healthyteacher4 · 2018-09-01T21:15:26+00:00

It's funny how in 2018, anyone who has their shit together, especially in finances, doesn't obsess over social media, isn't covered in tattoos is classified as boring. It's just a bad era for people of your mindset. You will not get quantity of women, but when they come you will get quality. There are some rare women out there who are desperate for the type of things you have to offer. They don't want to ride STD-laden dicks and have to bail their baby's daddys out of prison every other week. In 2018, they are rare but you will find them and they will find you. I say be fucking boring. You sound happy, so what else matters?

criveros · 2018-09-01T22:24:24+00:00

Dude, you don’t have to drink to have fun at bars and clubs.

-tb0ne · 2018-09-01T21:05:20+00:00

Sign up for a couple hobbies in addition to lifting, classes like martial arts or meditation or whatever, just to give you a few more things that make you interesting as well as occupy time on your calendar. Make friends and make an effort to keep an active social life. All of this will make you significantly less boring and you have the time and money to do it since you don’t drink.

MattyAnon · 2018-09-01T22:36:04+00:00

Contrary to popular belief bars are opened to make money, not get you laid. They induce anxiety that entices you to buy their product aka “booze”.

If they existed to get you laid, the music wouldn't be insanely loud.

Kind of ironic I say that as I am asking how to overcome the perception of a boring life. But this is the nature of the beast, the grind. The grind is boring.

The result is amazing though. Show that.

I am talking to a solid 9 off bumble. Hotter than any girl I’ve ever been with. I must admit I am falling into the “out of my league frame”. I am seeing other girls as well, so she’s not my only option.

Solid 9 ON BUMBLE. Who knows in real life.

taa1a · 2018-09-02T00:21:06+00:00

Congrats, you're not a superficial moron. You know what that means? You'll match better with women that aren't looking for men entrenched in debauchery. Like someone else mentioned, that means less quantity but more quality. Wise trade.

DirtJellyBeanz · 2018-09-02T00:12:48+00:00

Listen, I'm that guy that DOES drink socially... I do go out a lot... I'm very out going and like to be funny. I make others laugh and enjoy to have a good time. The one things I'm struggling with now is getting OUT of that and being what you are.. Trust me, It's not as "fun" as it appears.. Anyone who doesn't work a suit and tie job wanna work a suit and tie job until they do that line of work and they wanna be a construction worker. Just enjoy yourself, from my POV you're doing very well. Just lift, do some hobbies that have women in it. Start doing some martial arts and just enjoy life, the simpler the better.

[deleted] · 2018-09-02T02:04:56+00:00

It's all about the people you're hanging out with dude. I often volunteer to drive to have a good reason not to drink, if I really have to, I take an analcoholic drink. Second, you're doing well quitting social media. The only power women comes from validation, more often than not, I've seen girl who looked absolutely plain IRL look (and being treated)like runway models. If you can't see her social media she loses A LOT of power over you. Third, your problem seems to exist only in your mind bro, we just need to get what causes it. Again, I believe you're under heavy social pressure, evaluate your lifestyle and your social circle. Do they make you feel inferior ? Do they cause you to compare your life to theirs ? I've experienced something similiar in my life when I moved back home and I saw my friends posts from college, on instagram everyone seems to have a more interesting life than yours. Maybe you should try going literally monk mode, try spending a few days far from people (both physically and online), go camping, rent an house by the lake/ on the beach for a few days and see how it makes you feel. Do let me know if it's of any help. Best of luck bro.

GucciGangBucks · 2018-09-02T03:51:30+00:00

Just because you don’t drink doesn’t mean you can’t go out. Like yourself I also don’t drink for a variety of reasons. It just isn’t for me. But I can take a pre workout and be the life of the party just as much as any drunk person. Mostly because I still enjoy the presence of my friends. If things get to “hectic” you can just drive home because you’re sober. Women also will be drawn to the fact you be yourself and compromise for no one. This is at least in my experience.

WicKedmk · 2018-09-02T01:49:22+00:00

You have your shit together , you're a role model and some people should look up to tbh , you'll find someone who admires such qualities because they're rare , keep grinding bro because legends are born from this age , I recommend listening to what steve Harvey said about wishing to buckle up and grind for success from a young age

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hQ6fZDo9LGE

Pieisgood186 · 2018-09-01T21:58:05+00:00

I’m the same way. Stopped partying/drinking as much in college and now I only grab a beer or two during office happy hours. Like the top comment mentioned, it’s definitely a “rare breed” and while your days can be boring, I have noticed that it attracts and keeps around the women who tend to have their shit together.

Some random things I’ve done to stay active: Look for trivia nights. Depending on how big your city is I’m sure there’s multiple places that hold these and in my experience there’s usually a few groups of girlfriends that go as well.

Go outside more. Even if that means going for a walk (bring your dog if you have one). Get a bike and ride around trails. I used to hate doing this but it has become one of the best ways to relax and meditate.

Sign up for other athletic courses. Boxing, mma, or even some type of yoga. Great alternative to lifting and there’s always girls in those classes, especially the latter.

vandaalen · 2018-09-01T21:09:54+00:00

2127301090 · 2018-09-02T00:28:35+00:00

I FEEL YOUR “PAIN”.

I’m only 18, a freshman in college and just as you, I don’t see the joy in doing any drugs as they aren’t beneficial to me, etc

In which I can see the shock on people’s face when I say I don’t drink and what not— it’s crazy to me how I have to explain why I am not an alcoholic

My advice to you and myself is to just get some hobbies aside from lifting and what not

mikeyd03 · 2018-09-02T02:09:50+00:00

Upvoted. Very solid advice on the social media.

HannibalBacara · 2018-09-02T02:37:04+00:00

Yeah I feel you man. I used to be a boozehound during college and since graduation I just have almost zero desire to drink. I haven't given it up completely but I probably go out once every 6-8 weeks.

You might have a harder time getting casual sex but like others have said the quality of girls you will meet will probably be better.

thoughts_prayers · 2018-09-02T04:58:06+00:00

I commend you on asking this question. Is your life boring, or are you boring?

If you're boring, I have nothing for you. If your life is boring, but you're an otherwise engaging person, then don't worry about dating.

If you're bored, then I recommend a hobby - something that helps with self-sufficiency such as auto repair, wood working, gardening, or electronic repair. Find something you have that's broken & fix it. Instead of taking your car for an oil change, do it yourself. Things like that.

Scuzzin · 2018-09-02T06:30:27+00:00

Don't try to be something you're not as it will be transparent to her (especially as an HB9) that you are being fake to try and impress her which will make you seem weak and undesirable in her eyes.

Now try this mental exercise. Imagine the finest girl you've slept with and now imagine how her pussy felt if you were doing her with your eyes closed. Now imagine the ugliest girl you've fucked and how her pussy felt if you had your eyes closed. It all felt the same right? Whether you had your eyes open or not, whether she was hot or not, pussy doesn't really feel different from one another (unless you've got a loose cannon on your rod... I mean hands). So what does it matter that this chick is hot? Her pussy feels like every other woman's, there are a million+ other women out there as hot as her and some even hotter, you have options and don't need her and the worse that could happen is she thinks your boring, you don't excite her or give her the tingles, and she doesn't fuck you and you continue being you and fucking other women. The worst case scenario sounds really mild to me.

So don't change what's been working so far, have abundance mentality, and realize that this one isn't special and doesn't belong on a pedestal and treat her/act as such.

Fox_Red · 2018-09-02T07:04:50+00:00

What classifies you as boring life sydrome? Does getting wasted every Friday and Saturday and hitting the clubs with your Jersey Shore boys make you life interesting?

You should have some hobbies / life goals that make you interesting. You don't need to be a party guy to have an interesting life.

Get some life goals and you won't be asking yourself this question, tbh sounds like you don't even have a job.

that_italia_guy · 2018-09-02T14:31:42+00:00

You can enjoy more culture in your life if you can find, orchestra symphonies, dance/ballet performances, and concerts/jazz/guitar players to go to, local talent or not super famous tallent. Also cool events, such as car shows, rib fest's, craft beer/cooking events. A lot of this will cost about $55 CAD max, but typically less to attend. It will add more culture to your life and leave you with more memories and your life wont just be the grind. It won't be boring. I'm not to sure how big a city you live in but if it's possible this is what I would recommend and start looking into.

iLLprincipLeS · 2018-09-02T09:34:55+00:00

I am talking to a solid 9 off bumble.

So basically a 4 in reality.

Title	Boring life syndrome
Author	mikeyd03
Upvotes	58
Comments	51
Date	September 1, 2018 8:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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