Came back home then rejected when escalating

MattyAnon · 2020-06-19T14:56:49+00:00

and says I’m too forward and overly confident.

In reality she just isn't attracted enough.

This "you are too forward" criticism is how girls persuade beta men to keep supplying resources while they do not commit to sex.

You escalate-to-find-out. You escalated. She's not into it. NEXT.

Am confused as to why she would’ve came back to my place after already known my personality and expect me to not make a move...

Call me crazy here, but have you noticed that girls like attention?

Pretty strong blow to my confidence but most importantly I’m now cringing at myself for making the move in the first place (I’m pretty sure this is ridiculous considering if I didn’t try I wouldn’t have known).

Nah, you did it all right.

ESCALATE TO FIND OUT.

By escalating you attract the interested girls and you remove the uninterested ones from your life without wasting further time.

Just say "look, we want different things, and that's fine.... I wish you the best of luck out there".

ViolentInteger · 2020-06-19T12:13:51+00:00

Am confused as to why she would’ve came back to my place after already known my personality and expect me to not make a move...

It's called last-minute resistance (LMR). The side-bar covers strategies on how to deal with it.

I’m now cringing at myself for making the move in the first place

It's a shit-test, and you failed it. Study up on shit-tests, too, while you're on the side-bar.

gcaa99 · 2020-06-19T12:26:50+00:00

Did you build enough comfort? You need to make that girl laugh her guts out, be on your frame, seductive voice..etc

What about kino, did you escalate smoothly or all day in? Escalation needs to be smooth, and you always break it of before her, then do it again a little further. Touch her arm, her leg, say you're a professional hand reader and grab her hand...etc

Eye contact? Strong or weak?

Plausible deniability? Did you just invited her to your place or did did you invite her to your place to watch a movie or some other activitie?

kclanton80 · 2020-06-19T13:37:26+00:00

You did the right thing in making a move. How old is this woman? How old are you. What's is she on a 1-10 scale?

all these things are relevant when you factor in a woman's behavior. Depends on what phase she is in right now as to why she may have rejected you. maybe you are giving off boyfriend energy and she wants you to think that she's a good girl not a slut for a relationship.

but in general remember that women make rules for Betas and break rules for Alphas. You did not give her an alpha vibe.....and she did not have a strong genuine attraction for you.

women will come to your house or even go on dates with you because they are time-wasters. They have very few interests or hobbies in their own life so they need a man to entertain them. You should move on to the next unless she pursues you...if she does contact you again she gets an invite back to your place where you try to escalate again.

If she resists again it's a hard final next.

2020-06-19T13:35:16+00:00

I’m now cringing at myself for making the move in the first place (I’m pretty sure this is ridiculous considering if I didn’t try I wouldn’t have known).

You’re right, never be upset for making a move. You’d be more upset at yourself if you had her on your couch and didn’t make a move.

Not gonna lie, same thing happened to me recently. Chick curbed me at her place but I acted like no big deal and just rolled with it. Still couldn’t close that night tho. It had me shook for a day or two after like you, I was fucking pissed thinking I had blown another layup. Definitely my weakest internal frame moment In years. But she ended up texting me two days later and I ended up meeting for a second date where I closed.

comcain · 2020-06-19T21:38:18+00:00

It's like panning for gold. You get a lot of heavy black sand and then one day, poosh!, a gold nugget. This date was black sand. It happens.

You did nothing wrong. Sounds to me like she just wanted attention and wanted more and more and more before gracing you with her stellar Golden Vagina.

When they withhold it, it's never worth the wait.

Super ghost her. That's where you ping her, say you had a good time, look forward to your next date, and then block her on everything. It makes her hamster spin so crazily it'll need an oil change. Lack of closure drives women insane.

Cheers

Fabulous-Craft · 2020-06-19T13:39:06+00:00

Personally, I escalate more before going back to mine or her place.

Ideally I have already kissed/made out before I bring her back. Then there isn't all this pressure/buildup to the kiss.

When you haven't escalated to that point, it's almost as if you have to have an entire second date at your place before she is comfortable.

ddd1337 · 2020-06-19T14:26:20+00:00

You suck if you just went for the kiss lol. Were you cuddling? Were you touching her tights? Were you touching her shoulders, back, hands? Were you kissing her neck, ears, chest before the kiss on the lips?

You didn't build any sexual tension and you went for the kiss?

thrwy75479 · 2020-06-19T17:23:29+00:00

Too fast. Chicks don't want to feel like they're easy.

2 steps forward, 1 step back. It's a dance, even after she's come back to your place.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-06-19T14:31:05+00:00

LMR.. side bar has strategies on handling that.

gcaa99 · 2020-06-19T14:46:18+00:00

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Title	Came back home then rejected when escalating
Author	BroSplit1
Upvotes	5
Comments	20
Date	June 19, 2020 11:54 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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