can a guy like me even change?

HardPillToSwallow · 2014-09-09T02:53:17+00:00

Yes. Only you know your past. Everyone else sees the you right now as you stand.

Take one small step at a time.

Are you working out? Do you have a hobby?

This wont happen overnight my friend. The road is long, dark and uphill. You'll strain, strive and struggle in what feels like vain. But I can promise you its not, you're in a deep dark, shitty place right now. It feels like giving up is easier, to wallow and victimise yourself like this hamster run society conditioned you to. You are a victim, but you can choose not to be.

The pill is hard to swallow, unplugging is scary but it is true freedom and power for yourself.

You owe it to yourself to climb up, for your own sake and happiness.

You are in college with no negative experiences with women. You have incredible potential, to be so young and have so much time to craft your life into what you want it to be. Men would kill to be in your position, to have years and years ahead of them to develop themselves.

SkorchZang · 2014-09-09T03:12:39+00:00

It doesn't come naturally, man. You've been fed lies all your life like most of us. So what do you expect, of course you fail and fail again, and are scared of even trying anything. It's insidious.

It's normal for girls to break eye contact and blush. That's the basic submissive response that you're looking for. She looks away shy, mission accomplished. Just make sure you're not the one who looks away.

If you expect she'll be looking right back into your eyes like Angelina Jolie and sparks will fly, then yeah, that doesn't actually happen very often and that isn't the goal (sure feels great when it does happen though).

Your conversation attempt obviously fucking sucked. You should own that, cause it's fine, so did mine and everyone's at first. Interacting with women is a skill, you can learn it, and even a little bit goes a long fucking way, because you rise head and shoulders above the grey Beta mass all around her. You're you, different, exciting, carefree and natural (thinks she, because she doesn't give a fuck how much you busted ass to learn to be that way).

Break the problem in front of you into manageable chunks. Then attack that shit. Good eyecontact, you get from practicing, practice everywhere. Conversation, read good resources on Game, then join a shitty improv class or something similar at your school; although you won't get any amazing manly feelings from doing so, you'll be talking those girl's ears off in very short order after practicing that "natural" freeflowing bullshit a few hours a week.

Most importantly, lift weights religious, that's the backbone of everything, your core physical/hormonal strength. Girls don't just look at that shit, they can SMELL it on you. Conversely, if you're some "Word of Worldcraft" wanker, they sense that just as easily, and so they'll distance themselves. That's all normal, isn't your fault or shortcoming. It's like having no money, if you don't have it, you don't have it, so start grinding to get some and think on your feet to get it more faster. Same with women, start exactly where you are now, in a shit hopeless-looking place. That's fine, and nobody cares where you start, least of all women. They only care where you are right now and how it's making her feel. It's going to feel all the better for you when you conquer it and make that part of life comfy, fulfilling for yourself.

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Title	can a guy like me even change?
Author	shiversliver
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	September 9, 2014 2:42 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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