Is this even possible for a guy like me?

Al_Pachinko · 2014-09-10T16:41:12+00:00

Every father of every living human on earth has pulled it off. You can too.

I_am_not_funny_ · 2014-09-10T16:50:22+00:00

Listen man, you're suicidal, clearly have no self esteem and no goals or ambition in life at the moment.

Read the book "Models" by Mark Manson then read the book "No More Mister Nice Guy", work on your inner game too, one that helped me was "What to Say When You Talk to Yourself".

Work on your outer appearance, are you fat? Go to the gym and start dieting. Are you scrawny? Start eating more and hit the gym start lifting. Do you smell like shit? Start showering every day and washing your clothes. Are you still wearing the same clothes you wore in highschool? Hit up H&M and buy a bunch of 7$ t-shirts and a couple pairs of nice fitting pants.

You seriously have to try and make a change if you're depressed, nobody can help you but yourself and it seems like you've been fishing for attention on reddit for 4 days now.

So instead of wallowing and loathing just start doing some shit.

slappywhyte · 2014-09-10T16:51:53+00:00

Most guys who come to this stuff are similar to you (or maybe even worse off). They want to learn about this stuff precisely because they are clueless and haven't been able to do it on their own -- but they can see and analyze that other guys are doing it. You're not alone.

InFa-MoUs · 2014-09-10T16:43:03+00:00

Dude, think about it like this.. I've never met you or seen you and just from how you just described yourself if I was a girl I would never sleep with you. And take notice that you never described how you looked or much about yourself. It's all about attitude, If you think you can't seduce women you never will.. unless you're Ryan Gosling with a trust fund.. but if you're not (I'm assuming you're not) nothing will ever happen until you start to belive it can.. hope this helps.. I'd really hate to see you fall deeper into that mindset.

DaygameCoach · 2014-09-10T16:45:32+00:00

You can do this. Stopping thinking of women as sluts/DTF would be a start. There is nothing wrong with sex or having it.

I_am_not_funny_ · 2014-09-10T16:43:00+00:00

Whoops, misread.

itsmevichet · 2014-09-10T18:50:04+00:00

Well, with terrible self esteem and no motivation, it's impossible.

Do you WANT to try? If you do, fix your self esteem and your possible depression. It's not a lack of women causing those.

Actually, scratch that. I don't give a fuck whether you want to try or not. Tomorrow, you will either try, or you won't. And that decision will be made every day from now on. And if you start trying, you'll start asking the right questions, and even though you mess up you'll learn things and get better.

Right now, you just "want" to be good with girls. If you never said that, I wouldn't be able to tell because there are no actions associated with it.

It's kinda like how I say I "want" to learn how to play an instrument. Until I pick up a guitar and start, it's a meaningless thing to say.

joshsway · 2014-09-10T19:57:31+00:00

Stop worrying about why you can't get girls, and just keep trying to get them until you succeed. Eventually, you will.

shiversliver · 2014-09-11T02:43:00+00:00

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oneNite · 2014-09-11T04:56:36+00:00

If you don't mind providing these details...

What do you do for fun? What are you good at?

What are your (current) goals in life?

What do you hope to get out of school (besides girls)?

Title	Is this even possible for a guy like me?
Author	shiversliver
Upvotes	4
Comments	38
Date	September 10, 2014 4:23 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2g0mhr/is_this_even_possible_for_a_guy_like_me/
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