Can't understand what's my problem

50billionz · 2018-07-21T10:58:59+00:00

STOP focusing on Girls keep Lifting, hobby’s, start your own bussiness, fucking build skills join martial-arts organize some fucking awesome party’s with your buddy’s , Grow , get to next level in whatever you do... once you get this mind state they will come to you in great numbers. Done

JinkiesGangAClue · 2018-07-21T10:58:11+00:00

You’re either not as attractive as you think you are, or your gaming technique sucks. More than likely both.

Increase your SMV. Lift, job, read, eat healthy, repeat. Read sidebar and strengthen your game. I’m almost positive your gaming sucks as the way you described it sounds pussified and you’re way to caught up in rejection which is hit heavily in the sidebar.

Go read the sidebar.

pro-complainer · 2018-07-21T12:01:15+00:00

You're following the same pattern and your getting the same outcome ... You need to change your patterns of living ... You're living too comfortably and maybe you need to challenge yourself

My guess is too read more redpill books and focus on those things.

One thing I can pickup, that the game book speaks about, is that you have to be willing to lose a girl to be able to sleep with her ... So in your examples, you walk away when a girl shows disinterest ... Maybe do something slightly really to confirm the disinterest because there's really nothing to lose

Pushnikov · 2018-07-21T13:25:50+00:00

I have a similar experience some days. And to me it’s a subtext of redpill that is addressed only occasionally. When you’re culturally an outlier from the norm. So, here’s some food for thought.

I’ve been noticing a pattern with younger girls. They’re more insecure than ever. No matter how much they pretend otherwise. When they reject you it’s out of insecurity more than you.

For example:: The last girl I dated told me she almost swiped left on tinder because she thought I wouldn’t like her. She preemptively wanted to reject me. I wonder how often that happens with most girls.

I’ve seen hot girls with really unattractive guys. They just make the girl feel or seem secure. And cultural insecurity is at an all time high. If you’re really different from your culture, it can get complicated to get the reaction you want.

I’d start by saying you should look at some day time game, try and just talk a girl up like it’s nothing, go from there to an instant date, and just have fun and be outcome independent. See what you can connect on socially.

I have an asshole demeanor too, it’s not about not being an asshole anymore, it’s about being “THEIR asshole”. In the sense of, you’re the guy on their side, that will stick up for them, but still a tough guy. At least for now.

Hope that Helps.

TheDisillusionist · 2018-07-21T13:57:31+00:00

You sound like you are lost in theory, stuck in your own head, and frankly not very charming/fun to be around.

I think you read somewhere that being stoic/hard is the key to pussy and just ran with it. Wrong. It's one slice of things.

You have to be stoic in response to hardship, negativity, and rejection but you have to be charming and fun as a baseline for most women, especially at the age you are.

You also have to get some confidence.

GoldZone1 · 2018-07-21T14:41:20+00:00

Its simple OP Real all from Uncle Vasiliy you wont be disappointed

morescoobysnacks · 2018-07-21T14:41:57+00:00

I'm confused as fuck too. There's no way you've done 60 cold approaches and not gotten a single number. Did you forget to get a number every single time?

> After having read a shitton of theory it seems like I got worse instead of better. When I approach women I look too energetic and it seems like it comes off as needy/beta behavior (Actually energetic behavior (showing too many positive emotions) is feminine so it makes sense.) When I used to be more aloof/asshole/silent I got way further with attracting the girl.

You can smile and laugh too much at the shit a girl says, which is supplicating and can come off poorly, but there's nothing feminine or beta about being positive and energetic. You're misinterpreting theory.

redisthetruth · 2018-07-21T15:29:28+00:00

You’re young. You are on a good path. We all have to go through myriad failures to achieve success. Any hobbies? Are you exercising? Keep your head up. Keep working on yourself and the results will come. Don’t try to be anything other than what you already are....

MattyAnon · 2018-07-21T17:52:42+00:00

People often tell me I'm good looking, and maybe it's true (I can't really tell if I am, why am I getting rejected so often then? Doesn't makes sense, does it?) .

You need skills as well as looks... something else is likely wrong.

My social status is honestly low (for status I refer to "how famous" I am in the small city I live).

how is your status within groups you're in?

In the past girls told me I look like a mafioso (I'm half russian and half italian) which seems to be a positive thing in the attraction phase, but I often come off as intimidating so I really don't know. This is a really neglectable aspect so I doubt it has any real connection with having success or not.

build comfort

When I approach women I look too energetic and it seems like it comes off as needy/beta behavior (Actually energetic behavior (showing too many positive emotions) is feminine so it makes sense.) When I used to be more aloof/asshole/silent I got way further with attracting the girl.

both work, do what works for you. be careful though, being non-threatening can make it feel like you get further, but they still don't fuck you. judge by results (as you are doing).

I also have a problem with maintaining the interest high when talking to a girl,

This is the main problem. Her interest is generated from her attraction. If she was interested/attracted you'd find it easier.

And if she doesn't make questions she is probably not interested, right?

yes and no.

Do you ask questions or just talk? Does she talk? Do you make observations about her? Do you physically escalate? Do you take your time? Do you push things forward? Are you slightly dominant without being terrifying?

Where are you talking to these girls?

abudun79 · 2018-07-21T12:45:06+00:00

From what you told us about yourself and your situation the only logic explanation is: Your self-perception is very different from what girls see in you.

Or it takes more to be an attractive person than just the typical red pill-checklist ...

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-07-21T13:12:16+00:00

5'9"

Girls are dumb, and they see height before everything. So you have to find the girls who aren't fixated on your being over 6'0". They exist, but you might have to lower your standards.

You're 18, so you're still an unfinished project. You are just beginning to increase your SMV, and the 18 year old girls are at the height of theirs. So, while you can rail them just fine, you can't take them out to $100 dinners and drive them around in your Ferrari.

Focus on you.

I'm shorter than you are, and things have worked out just fine for me.

Title	Can't understand what's my problem
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Date	July 21, 2018 10:31 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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