Caught LTR cheating, lying to my face.

abdada · 2017-01-31T22:28:05+00:00

Move for a job, not a woman.

alltrueism · 2017-01-31T22:36:41+00:00

Dude, there's nothing you can say or do that will get to her. Right now, you are probably numb. Later, you will be angry, obsessive, and may even come to reflect "fondly" of the good times.

You will be looking for closure where there is none. I wish someone told me this when I experienced this type of betrayal, but you have to ghost her completely and don't look back.

During your healing process, you will always come up with something you should have said to strike at her core. Truth is, there's nothing you can say that will make you feel better. Same with any reaction you may or may not get out of her.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-02-01T00:11:23+00:00

but half of it has been long distance

You can have "long distance" or you can have a "relationship". All an LDR is, is an "imaginary girlfriend" who cockblocks you wherever you happen to be.

I do not live in the same country as her

Holy fuck.

things felt seriously distant.

Hint: Things were NOT "distant" between her and other cocks.

She happens to have the oh so famous ADHD and other bullshit.

So she's one of those girls who is so hot she doesn't even have to be a rational human being.

There's a reason it's called 'crazy hot'.

Bedroom died during the first week

Bing! a clue!

what would be the best way to break up with her?

Walk out the door and ghost her. Block, etc.

This is not salvageable

Yep. Hoes gonna ho.

but I want to hear suggestions on how to word this in a way she will consider puling this shit on another guy twice.

Um, why? You are hamstering for some "closure". That's for girls. If you really want to fuck with her, ghost her ass.

jttjt · 2017-01-31T22:37:43+00:00

how to word this in a way she will consider puling this shit on another guy twice.

You don't. The most effective and brutal thing you can do is just ghost her. Disappear without a word. She will hear the message much louder and much clearer than she would if you tried to explain yourself like a bitch

quicklogaccount · 2017-01-31T23:13:04+00:00

Ok, you didn't say you caught her cheating there.
I'm one to encourage you to stay in the country that offers better prospects but not with the chick. She has ADHD, her attention is fickle and she's medically justified on it.

what would be the best way to break up with her?

Dude, there is no closure in the break up for you. Closure for you would be "proving that she is shit". If you caught her cheating, that's it. You won't get any better closure.
Be glad, the best most men get is "we suck together".

She's probably looking for closure too. For her that'd be confirming you're a doormat. Once you break up, you'll take that away from her. There's no way to prevent that from happening.

Just tell her you moved too fast and you see that, provided that things aren't working out now, they won't get any better later, and find your way.
Once you break up, whether you ghost her or do it overtly, her perception of your SMV will rise. A LOT. This isn't a given but you should expect her to do everything she can in order to "win you back". If you never saw her picking up another guy, she'll convince you she was just toying and stringing him along for fun.
I suggest you to do it overtly so you reduce the possibilities of her trying to "fight for you". Deal with the drama only once.
She's a woman, and is completely free at enacting her natural drives. She won't repress them for you, nor for anyone.

Kalidane · 2017-02-01T01:54:51+00:00

So you've moved to a better country and are talking about leaving?

How about find a new place to live, put your stuff in a taxi and move there. Get a job and enjoy.

She'll notice you aren't there sooner or later. You do not owe her anything, including an explanation.

Be smart and block/delete her.

FloridaNSUplz · 2017-01-31T23:23:37+00:00

Just go completely ghost. Leave. No contact left.

7Fig · 2017-01-31T23:30:17+00:00

On to the next, she is no longer your concern. Pulling yourself into the right frame of mind (abundance) is the only thing you should be doing right now.

failingtheturingtest · 2017-01-31T23:33:28+00:00

What would be the best way to break up with her?

She has already broken up with you. She just hasn't admitted it yet. You get your things when she isn't around, and you leave. She can figure out the rest on her own.
You owe her NOTHING, because she clearly felt she owed nothing to you.

She doesn't deserve an explanation, you don't need closure. Talking to her will never do you any good. NEVER.

ex_addict_bro · 2017-01-31T23:34:35+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/20/letting-go-of-invisible-friend/

but I want to hear suggestions on how to word this in a way she will consider puling this shit on another guy twice.

bwahahahahahah.

Dude, just leave, ghost her, you're done with her. Count your losses, regroup, lift, sidebar, but what's more important for you, READ MORE ROLLO. Here, this is what you're going to do for the next 12 months. No need to thank me.

raisins3142 · 2017-02-01T01:36:18+00:00

You could just ghost. Get all your shit straight while she is out and then get on the plane.

If anything, don't give her closure or drama. Ghost or just tell her it isn't working and then don't explain, just go.

MediciMan14 · 2017-02-01T01:40:21+00:00

Can you put her ADHD into context?

People are misdiagnosed with that condition all the time.

You moved to the US for a relationship? da fuck.

mismm · 2017-02-01T01:45:31+00:00

It's funny how every dude in TRP is dating a 9

This is a 9 http://imgur.com/a/pkcx0

ecosci · 2017-02-01T03:21:08+00:00

Just leave her never try and fix shit with women or talk it out she knows shes is a whore but will never admit it so why bother, your fine.

Title	Caught LTR cheating, lying to my face.
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Date	January 31, 2017 10:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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