Checked her phone. Don't know how to react now

Hecticchow · 2017-01-07T14:34:08+00:00

This is why you need to spin more than one plate. That is why it is called spinning plates rather than holding one plate in your hand.

redpill_odyssey · 2017-01-07T14:34:57+00:00

You said she's a plate, treat her as such.

You need more outcome independence and at least one more plate because you've become invested in this girl. Soft ghost, accept the fact she's doing what single people do, and start looking for more plates.

Eldudearino89 · 2017-01-07T14:32:36+00:00

You gotta work on IDGAF with a plate dude. You are not in a relationship with her. She is just as free to do as she pleases as you. Also don't be checking her phone. Who cares dude.

Tankquilizer · 2017-01-07T14:31:24+00:00

It's a matter of whether you want to put up with it or not. Girls come and go. By being angry you know that you're invested in this girl, so you care.

I'd end things before getting too hung up on the girl. Radio silence won't work really, she has another dick to go back to. Plus, if you stayed with her you know she has and/or will "cheat".

Fredo100 · 2017-01-07T14:59:57+00:00

Get more plates so you are less bothered by it if they decide to slut around, also she will get more competitive for you if she knows there are other girls in your life.

tylertgbh · 2017-01-07T17:31:54+00:00

She's a plate, you can't expect a plate to stay loyal or monogamous with you. She isn't obligated to.

Anyways, it looks to me like she didn't fuck the guy cause you got there first. Maybe he's a beta she's keeping around for attention. Don't say anything about it (checking her phone is petty and not something you want to admit) but use this knowledge in how you treat her in the future. If she's being flakey/not giving sex, you know it's time to next her. You can avoid wasting time.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-01-07T17:34:49+00:00

I smell bluepill tendencies here, possibly a bit of ONEitis...

She's a woman, playing the field. Trying to keep you and the other guy. If it's only a plate, and you enjoy the sex, keep fucking her. If you don't want her to suck other dick, tell her so. If she doesn't agree, ditch her.

There's many things you can do. But what you don't wanna do is getting mad and angry. If you do, she's under your skin. ONEitis is not too far away.

anabolic92 · 2017-01-07T20:28:19+00:00

I know you already got a lot of answers, but I'd check the post around here 'She is not yours, its just your turn'.

Where I think you can get a good point of view of the problem you have.

do_it_or_leave · 2017-01-07T21:57:57+00:00

You are her plate.

Willow-girl · 2017-01-07T15:20:25+00:00

It's easy for women to get sex, so if you want one to be exclusive, you'll probably have to offer her a commitment. Otherwise, if you want to play the field, accept that she is probably doing the same.

quicklogaccount · 2017-01-07T15:22:12+00:00

Well, while it is REALLY upsetting that women shamelessly tell lies like that (I only belong to you) to raise their own LTR value, you, having been here, was expected to know better man.

Overall score is, she told you a lie she believed she could make into truth in order to qualify herself as girlfriend material. She tried to trick you. This is a bad and it hurts you.
You went beta and mate guarded. This is a bad and it hurts you.

All in all, assume all girls you meet in hook up environments, virtual or real, will tell that lie. If they solicit the info, you can take it as confirmation. That particular lie is no reason to drop a plate, but having bonded with such a girl is. But I don't think you bonded, I guess this bond comes out of scarcity. You'll probably be ok by doing the same thing she did. lol

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-01-07T18:16:56+00:00

tbh the only plate I spin at the moment

So she's your girlfriend, not a plate. This is why you are pissed, because 100% of your Pussy Supply is at risk. There is nothing that makes dropping plates easier than knowing that you are 1 phone call or text message away from bottoming out in another plate's pussy.

but I can't trust ~~Tinder~~ girls.

FTFY.

the evening before she was less horny than usual.

The dude gave her oral and she came a few times.

So I decided to check her phone - not sure if it was the right move but I did it.

"When there is doubt, there is no doubt."

-From "The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev".

Him: I was so horny yesterday :P:P Her: Yea sorry I was too tired. (I fucked her the morning before that her pussy hurt so much, probably this.)

This is why I said "oral" and not "banged her".

Him: Next time :) Her: yes :)

Actually, from the sound of things, it's you who is (or is about to become) the plate.

I know that this shouldn't phase me - especially because it's just a plate - but when I read this I got angry inside.

Because she's your girlfriend, not a plate.

Now what the fuck do I do now.

Now your eyes have been opened regarding this girl. Verdict: "These hoes ain't loyal."

What to do? Spin multiple plates, so you won't get worked up when you lose one.

I know you probably think I overreact but how to handle that? I decided 7-10 days radio silence. Or drop the plate completely? Or just go on as nothing happened?

Spin multiple plates, and this tension will vanish like teardrops in the rain....

LeadSlinger11 · 2017-01-07T20:17:23+00:00

If she's a plate, then it doesn't matter. Stop being a chick.

DadOnDabs · 2017-01-08T00:06:14+00:00

Don't expect someone else to do what you won't. If you aren't exclusive to her then why should she be exclusive to you? Find more plates

rpisnotpua · 2017-01-08T02:24:48+00:00

If you haven't ESTABLISHED that you're non exclusive, then confront her, but be vague. Don't tell her what you know. Tell her something like, you don't want to catch her fucking around with other guys. Which means she'll ghost on him or become more discreet, and both of those are what you want. Being passive-aggressive WONT GET YOU ANYTHING. YOU have to BE the conflict in YOUR plate-ionship. If she controls the conflict, it's over.

But if she knows you two are not exclusive, then you got nothing.

Or course, you could have a relationship talk with her. Tell her what's expected of her. (What DO you expect of her?) (Don't make promises about what you do unless she presses you, and don't promise anything you don't want to.)

ecosci · 2017-01-08T03:37:36+00:00

Cure your oneitis man then get more options.

Kalidane · 2017-01-08T07:37:13+00:00

Next time you see her, treat that pussy like a rental.

Later, message her that you don't know how you feel about your relationship and you need some time alone. Go make new friends.

The end.

omega_dawg93 · 2017-01-08T14:37:27+00:00

LOL. this sumbitch is in love and this broad is his gf.

if she's a PLATE, you shouldn't give a single fuck about what she's doing when you're not fucking her. and it's easy to do because YOU SHOULD BE SPINNING OTHER PLATES and don't have time to worry about (just) her.

and don't be totally honest with plates. lie. fuck it. you don't TELL a plate she's a plate... or tell her you're seeing other women. just give enough time to maintain a physical relationship with the remainder of your time TAKEN... with no ability to adjust the schedule.

let her imagination and her famous female intuition arrive at the conclusion that you are either james bond in your spare time, or you're fucking other women. do not fully disclose your schedule, availability, or whereabouts.

fcb98292 · 2017-01-07T15:31:39+00:00

Hidden mp3 recorders in the kitchen, living room and bedroom. Replace smoke detector in bedroom with spy smk det with HD cam.

Chill. Change nothing. Make an excuse of a urinary tract infection for a week, to avoid sex with a potentially infected and/or impregnated female AND allow her more hunger for cock.

If she is playing you, you will catch her on tape. How you NEXT her should be the subject of another thread.

Title	Checked her phone. Don't know how to react now
Author	Cloud1995
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	January 7, 2017 2:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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