Confidence being shirtless

AFPJ · 2016-07-14T19:28:10+00:00

This isn't about being shirtless, or the HB9, or "day-game" - these problems arise from you being uncomfortable in your own skin. Do some crazy shit. Have fun. Forget about yourself, focus on things around you/outside of yourself.

herpes_delivery_man · 2016-07-15T02:19:50+00:00

go see a dermatologist.

4thepill · 2016-07-14T19:51:02+00:00

I have no idea how to take a picture of my back (I just tried), or how to post photos on here.

ilovemagicmush · 2016-07-14T20:21:08+00:00

Your life is full of excuses, just reading your replies to comments in these threads, every single one has a "yes, but [obstacle]" - despite the fact that the obstacle can be EASILY overcome. Nobody is going to hold your hand. No amount of hanging out of r/asktrp is going to magically make her number appear in your hands.

YOU have to do the work. And if you'd rather sit at the computer and jerk off to the thought of going up to her and talking to her, then you don't actually want to do it.

Either do it or go find something else to do and stop wasting your time thinking about talking to her.

bornredd · 2016-07-14T20:26:14+00:00

The only way past this is to try going shirtless and get used to it OR to find a way to cure your bacne.

Just go without a shirt when she's not around and BE OBJECTIVE about how people react. You'll probably find it isn't that big of a deal, even if it is inside your head.

CanadaTRP · 2016-07-14T23:22:09+00:00

18 months of my life was plagued with the insecurity and lack of confidence that arose out of face acne and scars, and I am finally over that dreaded phase of my life through a sound routine and the healing power of time. It was actually the primary cause of me turning beta in my 5 year LTR(im 23), and the subsequent breakup that led me to TRP. As far as my back goes what worked for me was an olive and coconut oil based soap with natural plant extracts from a local supplier. Although I've never had significant bacne, compared to my past self with face acne so this may not full cure you if you have a notable problem.

In my experience, if you have a good looking face and confident demeanor, any drawbacks such as the occasional social faux pas' or minor physical downsides (i have several scars, and a weird one on my nose), are overlooked if there are enough positive qualities. It sounds cliche but it is the truth, if you have enough positive, masculine qualities and personality, a couple of negative physical qualities will basically be forgiven by most quality woman. Bacne won't be a problem unless it impacts your personality (ie. you start walking weird to avoid having your back face her).

ponkyol · 2016-07-14T19:36:24+00:00

Let's see it.

SovereignWings · 2016-07-14T20:00:21+00:00

/r/skincare addiction and learning to accept what you cannot change. My wrists are 6". I look scrawny as fuck, though lifting is slowly improving that situation.

I actually GAIN quite a bit of confidence in any situation where I can take my shirt off. Hot dance clubs make it easy. Clothes on I look like a skinny nerd, clothes off girls can see my abs and muscle.

Metalgear222 · 2016-07-14T21:40:13+00:00

"But I just can't do it"

Yes you can. You don't think about if you can do it, because by that time you're already walking up to to talk to them with your shirt off.

Stop psyching yourself out and GO

tridentmark · 2016-07-15T00:23:12+00:00

Im not sure asktrp is for dermatology questions.

oldredder · 2016-07-15T09:52:40+00:00

I ran into her yesterday when we were in the elevator and didn't say a word (my day game is non existent), once we got to the bottom floor she gave me "the flat smile" (similar to -__-), but with more pleasant eye contact (even though I was wearing sun glasses).

you're done. You showed mental weakness. You literally told her with your face you're not good enough for her.

I would go up and initiate conversation, but I just can't do it with my shirt off

You can but it's already too late because of what happened before.

but I have acne on my chest and back that kills my confidence.

Then you need to invest in the proper creams, change of diet and ensuring you shower enough times to keep the skin clean enough to avoid any additional source of infection. If that means 3 showers a day that's what it means. If it means steroid cream that's what it means.

deci-mator · 2016-07-22T08:38:55+00:00

Your are not confident in yourself. It's not like your the only human being on the face of the earth with acne on your chest and back. You think that your not good enough and that your some hideous monster who repels away pussy. IF you do not point out your flaws, no one will notice them. So why are you stressing, you know that you want to approach and you do not want to wait till your acne is cleared up, so do it. Approach. I personally have acne all over my face, it's reduced now. I do not put anything on my skin because I dont give a fuck whether its there or not (unless there's a new outbreak, man has to clear that shit up). I learnt to accept it and live with it, it will go when it goes. At least you, no one can see it with your shirt on, mine, whatever you put on, it will be seen. Ever since I swallowed the redpill, never have I once been afraid to approach because of my acne, even before I swallowed it (as a PUA). I could still make the effort. IF I can why can't you. No girl has ever been disgusted by me. Because I own it, I accept that is there, just like how we have eyes, noses and tongues. I just accept that it is there and let it be, never has it hindered my success.

Title	Confidence being shirtless
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	27
Date	July 14, 2016 7:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4sv2xp/confidence_being_shirtless/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/confidence-being-shirtless.184671 https://theredarchive.com/post/184671

Comments