Hey guys, need help on a situation.

I was talking to a girl over the weekend and basically I told her to “call me and let me know if she could come over” - she didn’t call - I left her a miss call and still no response. Then I call her up today. She flat out says I was hoping you’d be like to me now ‘why didn’t you come...where were you?’. I said “you want a controlling boyfriend?”. She said she “craves that”. I said - “For that side of me to come out you have to get to my heart ”. I have only seen her like 4-5 times so don’t feel any emotional attachment to her. I was a bit pissed that she just blew me off like that over the weekend but I didn’t say anything and brushed it off as I thought it would look needy if I brought that up as it’s COVID and difficult to get around in my city so Meetup was not possible. My question is was I wrong to not bring it up? Would be better to come across as controlling (but needy) or emotionally detached?!

As a side question - what is it with girls wanting controlling boyfriends and do you get more results the more controlling you become over girls?!

My strategy is emotional detachment. I don’t even let them in. This unfortunately means that I get no girls as I don’t even initiate or try my chances with potential girls. I just let it fizzle out. I have some intimacy issues. But the next step I see to emotional detachment is controlling behaviour. I guess I need practise in that.