Dealing with being called abusive

Project_Zero_Betas · 2020-11-05T23:24:12+00:00

Shes trying to get closure. Ghost. Block. Delete.

daproest1 · 2020-11-06T00:03:20+00:00

That’s one of their favorite words to throw around nowadays. Abusive. Toxic. Narcissist. Etc. Nowadays the English language is now used however they feel like using it to appease their feelings.

Musicgoon · 2020-11-06T00:25:09+00:00

Standard fare brother. A bitch scorned will never accept responsibility. She will make up all sorts of bullshit:

You're abusive, you never loved me, you are a narcissist, you are gay, you suck in bed, you need a bigger cock, I never really liked you, you use people ECT...

Ignore that noise. She gave the gift of freedom. Use it to meet and conquer new women.

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cydestiny · 2020-11-05T23:58:29+00:00

I'm not arguing over text

You are not doing what you're saying. From that point onwards, whatever she says /do should be ignored. She "slut shaming" you because she fails to get what she wants. So just move on.

You have to do what you say, else even man won't respect you.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-11-06T06:56:56+00:00

'Tried talking about it' :( :( :(

Frame of steel.

'Babe i know i love you too. But it doesnt work out. I am not in love with you.'

Repeat sending thins without any letter changed if necessary (it is a clever female way of ending things)

Better male frame

She : .......

You : ""

She : Don't you want to say a thing?????

You : ""

She : blubberblubber sobb sobbb blubber

You : ""

She : I allwayhhhhs loooooved youuuuu.... sobb

You : ""

She - calling next chad (tears to dry will take 31 seconds)

Blackhawk2479 · 2020-11-06T09:51:47+00:00

Girls talk shit. All their exes are abusive assholes, etc.

Next time a girl accuses you of something, just ignore it. In this case you should block her on everything and move on with your life.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-11-06T13:09:25+00:00

Next morning I got a text saying I was emotionally abusive and she's breaking up with me blah blah blah.

"OK. I'll drop your stuff in a box on your front door."

Tried talking about it (mistake I know),

The issue seems to be that you let yourself be rolled into providing her with attention and high-pressure drama she was jonesing for.

and she kept saying that what I did that night was abuse.

You're assuming she's an adult and understands what TF abuse actually means, instead of the reality that she's an overgrown teenager with very limited perspective on such things. It's just jargon to her.

Of course she kept saying it.

When she said it, you rewarded her by giving her the thing she was craving the most which was attention and drama, because you think what women say is more than jargon. So what's she going to do? Repeat performance.

This is like giving crack to a cocaine addict just because they tell you you're an asshole and you'd better give it to them or else you're done forever. You don't give more crack to crack addicts just because they insult you and try to reject you.

You say "sorry you feel that way. Here's the number for the local inpatient detox. Give me a call when you're sober, sometime."

2 days later I saw her checking my IG story after she unfollowed me, yesterday her friend did the same thing. Radio silence today.

Using social media to creep on a chick who broke up with you, is pretty weak. I have to say. Nobody cares what she views online. Get off social media for a couple weeks if you feel you don't have the discipline to avoid this kind of mental masturbation.

Make a conscious choice to focus your energy and attention on simple things that actively bring value and joy to your life. Some bitch who thinks you're abusive mainly because it got her attention she wanted, isn't even in the same zip code as that.

Look, I know it's difficult to kick habits and feelings leftover from the relationship, this soon.. What we're asking you to do is one of the most important high value behaviors as a man, which is to turn your back and walk away from disrespect with self-dignity, pride, and stoicism intact.

Leonardslemons · 2020-11-05T23:37:27+00:00

What was your intent by not replying?

Like whats your reason?

whiteindia · 2020-11-05T23:29:44+00:00

“Dealing with being called abusive”

Read that title to yourself and ask yourself if that’s something a man or a pussy would write

Title	Dealing with being called abusive
Author	bodomfan91
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	November 5, 2020 11:22 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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