DIFFICULTY MAINTAINING COOL WHEN BULLIED

serynada · 2019-12-05T04:44:44+00:00

it angers you because you’re insecure.

don’t try and cure a symptom - get to the root of the issue.

fix your self-esteem, first. the bullying will be rendered ineffective.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2019-12-05T05:08:47+00:00

Read “when I say no I feel guilty.”

serynada · 2019-12-05T04:52:35+00:00

Stronglifts 5x5. there’s an app. start there. easy at first. but you’re going to be stressing your body and it will need time to get used to the sudden change. don’t cheat. you’ll be very happy you didn’t later. this way you prevent injuries.

twinpeakhotel666 · 2019-12-05T05:42:45+00:00

people bully, or say mean things to you because they themselves are insecure. its called self-projecting. they feel weak so they want to be on the other side and make someone else feel weak.

learn psychology and social engineering, you’ll understand why people do and say certain things and it wont bother you as much

qlaalex · 2019-12-05T05:36:50+00:00

Meditation, learning to be still and breath from in front of you. Look up Elliott Hulse, he's excellent on describing how a man should be under pressure.

Bluedog5x5 · 2019-12-05T05:46:10+00:00

You need confidence. Stronglifts/Gym and your purpose. Now get to it young man.

fartt123 · 2019-12-05T06:20:10+00:00

if you are pussy everyone will attack you. Always be dearing. don't be afraid. With guys there is always undertone of getting in a fight. so if you act like you can't fight and hanging out with aggressive and bold people you will be bullied. learn martial arts, boxing, these are fun activities that help you build masculinity.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-12-05T17:14:19+00:00

You need to build your strengths and accept / minimize your weaknesses.

I used to get bullied when I was younger for having a large mole on my face but I've grown my facial hair out which dramatically reduces the attention on it.

I've been made fun of for my deep voice but by doing some bio-energetic stretching and singing I've added more power and energy to my voice.

I've been given shit for my career choice because of how competitive and low paying it is but I've found an awesome position that's 10 minutes from home, I have my own private office and I make a competitive wage. Best of all I fucking love what I do which is most important IMO.

All these fixes and improvements build your frame. There's shit you can't do anything about like your shoe size or height so you just have to own it.

Also, when it comes to bullies, it's best to just be indifferent and ignore / avoid them. These people live off of attention and getting reactions from others. They are lonely and mask their insecurities by trying to make others feel down. Don't give them any time and attention and watch as their audience grows smaller and smaller until they're forced to live in their own toxic bubble or they hopefully learn how to be a decent individual.

Enlightened_Chimp · 2019-12-05T05:56:46+00:00

If you're getting bullied, join an MMA gym and lift. Become someone people won't bully.

TBtgoat · 2019-12-05T07:07:13+00:00

I speak from someone who used to be a short fused hothead to someone who gets riled up a bit more often than the average person. In the sixth grade I walked up to a kid (albeit one that nobody liked. A douchebag) and socked him square in the jaw, broke his braces, duked it out all bc he threw string cheese at me. Crazy part is it happened to be my best friend who threw it, not even him.

When I began my journey of self improvement, personal development, my temper was one of my first focuses. I still work on it to this day, but I quickly learned that it wasn’t necessarily my short temper, but the way I handled it and expressed it.

Over the years as I experienced more and more situations exacerbated by my anger I realized how little it achieved. Separating emotions from actions is a great skill to have. If you get angry, often times the other person wins. The one who loses control of their emotions and allow the emotions to control them, is weaker and less capable. Less coherent and put together.

It will take time, try to make smart decisions. Use cues, count to 10, simply walk away. It won’t happen over night, but it’ll happen if you keep at it

[deleted] · 2019-12-05T12:43:22+00:00

Amused mastery

and

Amplify and flip

kclanton80 · 2019-12-05T14:52:35+00:00

Bullies only bully people that they know are bothered by it. If you laugh it off or act like it doesn't affect you it will stop. The appeal of bullying is to get a rise out of the target, to upset them, to sadden them etc.

You're not a fun Target if you don't do these things.

Now I've said bully gets physical with you, promptly place your foot in his nuts bad santa style.

XXXMersenne · 2019-12-05T15:45:28+00:00

LIFT, GAME INTIMIDATINGLY HOT GIRLS, DROP ACID

throwitdownman · 2019-12-05T18:28:45+00:00

I really do not understand why people don’t just roast people back. Men, even friends, will break your balls every once in a while, so return the favor. An eye for an eye.

VividFall7 · 2019-12-05T20:35:11+00:00

I got bullied for months, not just verbal, but deep psychological abuse and physical. It left a huge mark in my psyche and I haven't recovered at all, despite all the therapy.

If you're really being bullied and it isnt just some random idiot calling you names, I'd say give him a bad time with the help of friends, or if people don't care about snitching, then do report it at your school/work whatever. Of course, if he's your friend and he's bullying you, he shouldn't be your friend.

Title	DIFFICULTY MAINTAINING COOL WHEN BULLIED
Author	Yesicomeback
Upvotes	14
Comments	41
Date	December 5, 2019 4:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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