Do you have problems being in public alone?

Andgelyo · 2018-10-10T03:17:42+00:00

Nobody gives a fuck about you, stop being so self conscious. It’s weak.

UnbreakableFrame · 2018-10-10T03:10:04+00:00

I gotta be honest, you are sounding a little narcissistic here. The vast majority of people are way too focused on themselves to give you much more than a moment's thought unless you are behaving really weirdly or look really weird.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-10-10T02:10:26+00:00

I'm scared to be alone

Surprise buttsex. It can happen any place, any time.

chazthundergut · 2018-10-10T02:58:02+00:00

You sound a little creepy.

Maybe go out to have some fun. Instead of eyeballing everyone to see how they react to your alpha aura.

Red-Lantern · 2018-10-10T00:54:03+00:00

I feel it too but a disarming smile melts through it all.

You're right. Its like they're waiting on your cue that everything checks out.

Best thing is to chat them up. They don't expect it and they fall into your frame.

Wjourney · 2018-10-10T03:18:55+00:00

This post gave me aids

OfficerWade · 2018-10-10T06:40:55+00:00

It sounds to me like you’re looking for validation which isn’t a sign of confidence. But now what do I know about confidence? I’ve been on a dry spell all year so be careful who you get your game from young man.

flashcash12 · 2018-10-10T04:25:23+00:00

No not at all. Other than getting IOIs from girls and some guys that’s all I notice.

I’m also pretty tall and muscular so if I’m walking and someone is in my path they will usually move out of my way.

People are way too focused on themselves or their phones to care.

exscionewhuman · 2018-10-10T07:03:19+00:00

Projection. If it wasn't already inside you, you wouldn't be aware of it. You don't feel comfortable, probably to an unhealthy degree. You look for reasons.

Read what you wrote as if you were confessing to yourself how you really feel. Intimidated. Obsessively reacting. You carry yourself and others are beneath you.

Actually caring and having a connection with someone is terrifying. You can't help but smile when you see them and they do the same. You wake up glad to know them. It's the unknown.

Something like that what do I know

I've been there though, it will always be a part of me. How afraid I was. How it blinded me.

You aren't alone.

thexrayluver · 2018-10-10T09:11:02+00:00

Man I feel you 100%, it is hard to explain how people react to you when you're self aware and have confidence in your demeanor. I feel that people are intimidated/sketchy towards me when I’m alone (or maybe I’m ugly and I don’t rly smile tbh). It feels like people are more on they’re guard around me. And honestly as of recently it’s become pretty annoying. But when I’m with my girl then everything is all good and feel like I’m not being watched as much. Also fuck some of these replies, I go on asktrp to ask a simple question and the replies I get on here are straight garbage most of the time, not constructive at all. What do u think OP?

imtheoneimmortal · 2018-10-10T17:34:58+00:00

Is really cool going out alone. In future will be problem because I'll be famous

Whoisaryan · 2018-10-10T08:13:01+00:00

LMAO

8700nonK · 2018-10-10T07:48:17+00:00

If you are looking at them most people will look at you. I am not alpha or good looking, but when I observe people around me I get a lot more looks, which boosts my confidence but it's just an illusion of being admired really.

redhawkes · 2018-10-10T08:19:02+00:00

Dunning–Kruger effect. No one gives a fuck really.

zeekt12 · 2018-10-10T03:32:57+00:00

Dont listen to these dudes, i get what you’re saying. I frame myself as superman (not trying to be narcissistic) but its just the way i view my reality and it feeds into my body language. I see dudes trying to minick my body posture and movements, and grab there girls when i walk walk past them (im not creepy btw lmao)

This has all the time, but i guess its rare for people to see a man unplugged from societies rule, healthy, driven, walking with a purpose, and being comfortable being a man.

MattMan970 · 2018-10-10T06:52:51+00:00

I didn't notice that when I started readjusting to my frame. However, I started giving a fuck about everybody and started doing whatever the fuck that I want.

Once, I brought out of my bag my carnivorous meal. It was a mixture of chicken, liver, duck, pork and some sausage. I gotta admit, it didn't look that delicious. But fuck me, it is. And I enjoy it so much.

Before TRP, I used to eat it alone without anyone looking. Now, I eat in front of people and zero fucks given. It happened many times that people hold strong eye contact with me and I catch then doing that. Last time, there was a dude and he was looking at me with jaw dropped. So I looked at him back and we held eye contact for a few second. After that, I just raised my hand, since I'm eating, like "Hi?"

He smiled back, held for a few more seconds, and then fucked off.

I look very caucasian with a slight tan because I'm Arab. People most of the time assume that I'm a native of the country where I'm living here. All the time, I'm hanging with seriously EXOTIC girls: Brazilian, Japanese, Mexican, ethnic Russian...etc and in doing so, especially with the Japanese, a good percentage of people that we meet in our way, say 30-40% would look at us like "Wtf?"

Once a girl was looking at me with interest just because I was with a Japanese girl. I looked at her back (damn I love doing this lol) and again, she'd hold eye contact for a few seconds and then turn away.

Others would look at us and laugh or make some joke about the children we'll be having (I heard them). But zero fucks given.

Making jokes is probably the worst they'll be able to do. Don't worry. Just ignore them, make others self-conscious back, and keep on being yourself.

joner888 · 2018-10-10T07:03:07+00:00

Maybe they think youre ugly.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2018-10-10T10:10:28+00:00

Sounds like this dude is on drugs, or having a psychotic break.

Delusions of grandeur.

Title	Do you have problems being in public alone?
Author	MattMan970
Upvotes	17
Comments	55
Date	October 10, 2018 12:50 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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