EX GF cant stop to analyze our LTR

GreeneRed · 2016-07-14T20:34:37+00:00

This is common.... and the best solution is find new girls to fuck. It works like magic, I promise. The way to get over a girl is to fuck an even better girl... it's a form of abundance mentality.

PhoneticJustice · 2016-07-14T18:09:52+00:00

In the words of /u/D-White :

Think of it like an exorcism bro. This person has shared occupancy with your brain for some time, evicting her is going to be a series of physiological withdrawals/chemical misfirings. Acknowledge that for the next month or two, you may have episodes of helplessness, despair, sorrow, and full on depression.

The best thing you can do is, when those emotions start flowing, let them go. Towards the end of the wave, acknowledge that you're experiencing the pain of self pity, and then get up and mentally contrast that pathetic state of mind with normal life. Nothing will seem good for a while because when another person is responsible for your oxytocin fix, and they betray you to this extent, it is just not as simple as mental tricks. Get professional help for suicidal thoughts though. They only seem harmless, until they aren't.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-07-14T18:16:35+00:00

I missed ex until I found a girl which was way more compatible sexually with me. Then I found another one. Then another one.

Ex was cool but it was her fault for not shutting up and not staying in line. Now she has what she deserved. Just like I do.

watch_for_asterick · 2016-07-14T19:30:06+00:00

Good god I hope there is a good answer to this. Going through the same thing. Don't care about cocks, I care about the smiles/ the eye contact/the intimacy.

Let spite be a motivator. Become a stronger man because of this. At least I'm telling myself that right now.

BusterVadge · 2016-07-14T18:33:24+00:00

To be perfectly honest, it takes time man... Time, and I already know that you have the self discipline to not try to contact her. Of course, go fuck other women, but don't beat yourself up over a normal response.

If you can, channel that energy into something else, like the gym, or some creative shit.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-14T19:34:50+00:00

It's because you have a scarcity mindset.

fuck things, the more things you fuck, the less you care about #3, because you're on #13

jb_trp · 2016-07-14T19:58:23+00:00

You're hurting a lot now and that's not unusual. I think we've all gone through it.

My advice: Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Block her on facebook (if you haven't already). Don't text her or check up on her. Don't talk with people about her anymore (the fact that your posting this makes me think you probably talk about her a lot to your family/friends. Stop.).

Next, use this pain you have and harness it into a ball of energy towards self-improvement. Set goals. Read books. Lose weight. Lift.

Third, you need to make new memories and have things to look forward to. Make new friends. Go on some dates with girls. Pick up a new hobby to focus on (I started rock climbing 3 years ago and haven't looked back).

This season of your life will soon pass. Keep moving forward and stop giving this girl any more energy. You have the closure you need.

inspiron3000 · 2016-07-14T18:43:05+00:00

She cheated on you "because we had an argument".

She was never yours.
She has no respect for you.

Go out and celebrate that you dodged a bullet.

Nergaal · 2016-07-14T19:26:43+00:00

Learn to not be surprised/angry when you go agains TRP and reality proves you wrong. The person you knew (at the end at least) is not the same as the one in your head. You are infatuated with a different person than the real-life girl you think about.

Nucka574 · 2016-07-14T21:51:23+00:00

Read Buddhist Boot Camp, takes about 2 hours. Great read to help yourself let things go.

Highlight: Think of feelings/emotions like clouds, they come and they go and are blown away by the wind.

Buddhism teaches us that if we get attached to impermanent things (and feelings are a perfect example of things that are impermanent), then our lives will be full of anguish. But if we live each moment without getting attached to it, then we can eliminate the very cause of suffering right there and then, and joyfully live our lives.

Hawkeye, Timber. Buddhist Boot Camp (Kindle Locations 401-403). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

EDIT: Remember this basic RP principle going into LTR, "She's not yours, it's just your turn."

TheBeardedMarxist · 2016-07-14T18:34:43+00:00

I could play a drinking game using the word "frame" on this sub.

bright_canopus · 2016-07-14T21:21:53+00:00

Be stoic and move on because that's your only option.

It's surely painful to have these thoughts but you need to find new girls to have fun with.YOU need to keep working everyday on becoming the best version of yourself and experiencing breakups will make you better in the long run.

Think about all these guys who are stuck in shitty relations with their first loves for their whole lives, pretty sad if you ask me.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-07-14T21:34:40+00:00

"just kissing for 2sec"

I only sucked his dick, for like, 20 seconds.

I think its my ego that cant get over the fact that i dont "own" her anymore.

You don't own any of them. It's just your turn and, even then, they'd still give older guys another turn if they thought they could get it or get away with it.

MattyAnon · 2016-07-15T02:03:50+00:00

My only problem is that i think EVERY day of her.

Get better than her... and if you can't do that, make up for the quality with quantity. Srsly.

GreatWhiteCuck · 2016-07-15T10:49:55+00:00

They say it takes 1-12 months for most men to get over a lengthy ltr

ecosci · 2016-07-15T16:56:53+00:00

Why do guys think they have to start lifting after a woman leaves them for another d*ck i m in the worst shape of my life 30lbs overweight but i still have many options outside my wife if i wanted to, but thats the thing women are competetive it keeps the vag tingling so lift because you want to get fit or earn more because you want it but never for the sake of a woman dont expect them to be loyal its not in thier nature but they will always play the damn victim awalt.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-15T17:26:59+00:00

Unfortunately, this will pass with time, all you can do to try to accelerate the process is have fun, divert your attention to activities that you like, meeting new people, enjoying yourself.

Title	EX GF cant stop to analyze our LTR
Author	farAwaybra
Upvotes	5
Comments	23
Date	July 14, 2016 5:54 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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