First tinder date

AbusiveFather1 · 2020-03-10T17:54:41+00:00

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i-am-the-prize · 2020-03-10T19:00:09+00:00

maybe she was tired after walking 6 miles?

deeznutsbeswingin · 2020-03-10T19:17:02+00:00

It’s a tinder date. Instead of buying her coffee and taking her on the disney romance starter pack you should’ve met her for drinks and pulled her back to your place after

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-03-10T18:02:50+00:00

Yes you fucked up. This shit corny as hell. Kinda date her granddad would take her on

All your dates should be at a bar and should last no more than 2 hours

Domebeers · 2020-03-10T22:03:31+00:00

If you were going to walk around for hours you should have been asexual, like given her no kino at all.

Instead you are giving her kino (not a bad move in isolation) but you didn't have in your head you were going to fuck her then and there. If you don't have that in your head it will leak out. Like, they will smell it on you that you don't intend to fuck them. So it comes out as "this is me giving you sexual validation without you having to fuck me".

If you walk around don't stroll aimlessly. Take her somewhere. It's called "Venue switch" not "walk aimlessly". If you take her multiple places time 'speeds up' in her head. If you just walk around time sloooooows.

Now you know the vibe between you two better than we do. If I take a girl from tinder out I expect sex, if I don't get it I basically go radio silent. If she texts I respond with short answers. She knows what she did, if she wants to see me again she knows she has to put out. You might want to set that frame.

If you do want to 'court' her (bro why she was on tinder lol) just watch out, don't get burned. In english that means pursue other girls while you pursue her.

Mundane-Violinist · 2020-03-10T18:01:05+00:00

went for a stroll for a couple of hours

Could you elaborate on this part a little further please? Did you just leave the coffee shop and didn't have a plan afterward?

beingamannotadayjob · 2020-03-10T19:10:27+00:00

Maybe you were free food.

Big mistake was that you made it to comfortable for her. Comfort is important when dating but attraction and arousal are important, especially if you want to fuck her and make it so she sees you as an HVM.

Next date(if there is one) go to your place in the evening (about 8:30). Meet her, buy wine together. Don’t put her on a pedestal.

Good luck!

Domebeers · 2020-03-10T22:04:22+00:00

Sorry, one more thought: When you went to kiss her and she didn't accept the kiss, did you take two steps down the escalation ladder? If you didn't, you did it wrong.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-03-10T22:32:27+00:00

She either sees you as a complete beta or she is a prude and has some bullshit 'take it slow' principles(which they generally break for alphas anyway). Either way, keep it moving. Hard next.

Next time, dont waste that much time before going for your close.

RedDeAngelo · 2020-03-10T22:58:01+00:00

Lmao this fool is having a romantic slow dance with a tinder thot

MotiMorphosys · 2020-03-10T18:43:49+00:00

hard to really draw any serious conclusions from just one sample. Have you tried this coffee / walk format with other girls and had a better time escalating?

in terms of straight pickup, it takes seven hours on average for a girl that you don't know at all to get naked with you.

It would be better to try this again with three more girls rather than spend that time analyzing what you could have done better with this one girl. The questions will answer themselves as your experience increases.

Stop listening to all the speculation here..

comcain · 2020-03-10T18:21:17+00:00

Yes.

Title	First tinder date
Author	AbusiveFather1
Upvotes	5
Comments	41
Date	March 10, 2020 5:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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