Getting oneitis with abundance mentality

whispersafterdark · 2016-11-14T14:08:11+00:00

Oneitis is believing that this one single girl will ever fill your needs and none other. Oneitis is BP mentality, because you'll let her walk over you, disrespect you and run amok, because you'll be fearing that setting boundaries will make her go away.

Contrary to what Chads here'll tell you, RP is not about banging all dem gurlz, but about understanding yourself, setting your frame and holding to it. It can shift only when you allow it to shift. If your frame is "banging plates", but you want to move to an exclusive relationship, it's a frame shift on your behalf.

but shit guys there are some things in life that you have to compromise for

Yes, but too many BPs believe that compromise in relationship is one-sided, because how can you expect unicorns to compromise?

Loalty. Duty. Respect. Selfless service. Honor. Integrity. Personal courage.

These are values I always saw as ones worthy following. Alpha Plus to say, as opposed to Alpha Minus' get money, smoke trees, fuck bitches, avoid responsbility.

Just... keep yourself in check, because shit test ain't going away.

FurrowBeard · 2016-11-14T14:01:51+00:00

Perhaps you're a little more naturally attracted to this woman. Pheromones, chemistry. Nothing wrong with that. However...

Don't forget the true nature of women. When you say something like "I don't think she'll ever disrespect me" that makes me think you see her as your unicorn, your evidence for NAWALT when most certainly AWALT is how it is. So be cautious. Make sure you're prepared to enter the realms of a relationship with a Red Pill mentality. Reevaluate your perception of her and remind yourself, she's not so different from the rest. If you feel comfortable and secure in your knowledge, there's nothing wrong with entertaining a relationship.

Ascended_One · 2016-11-14T19:42:30+00:00

I would say go for it. Fall in love, enjoy. If you feel her to be special, give it a try. If it turns out to be a unicorn then good for you, if it proves to be an AWALT then also good for you, as it will make you wiser and stronger.

I guess you can hold your frame pretty well now so you're good to experiment with LTRs if you wish.

Igetitnow2 · 2016-11-14T18:50:50+00:00

I was in a similar situation. My other plates could tell I liked another more, so be wary of that.

I ended up dropping the one I liked the best. Good luck.

redditatt · 2016-11-14T21:14:16+00:00

As long as you have realistic expectations and healthy boundaries, there's nothing wrong with GF'ing this girl.

But watch yourself when it comes to "opening up" to her. 48 Laws of Power remind us to "Always say less than is necessary".

You have to retain that sense of mystery in order to keep her interested. As soon as she "knows you", she's bored and it's over. This is the great challenge of LTR's.

It should go without saying, but watch out for Beta backsliding

throwthehoeaway69 · 2016-11-15T07:52:52+00:00

I'm in the same boat brother. I'm currently talking to 3 different girls, but one of them I actually like and seems very LTR material. I worry about this as well because my last relationship was a mess.

Like you I've worked on being more Alpha, I've picked up new habits and dropped bad ones, I wake up everyday feeling confident, driven, and even happy sometimes etc ... I just hope if I end up in an LTR, these habits / traits quality are still there, I'll work on my best to keep them there while working on what I have to do in life regardless. Once shit starts getting hectic or you feel yourself getting downgraded to a beta bux, you need to fuck right off. Don't forget whatever you're doing in life work on that. She's just part of the story man.

Title	Getting oneitis with abundance mentality
Author	notgivefuck
Upvotes	16
Comments	15
Date	November 14, 2016 1:54 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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