GF shady? Thoughts?

TuckedInGoodLk · 2020-12-14T16:38:28+00:00

You spend days without talking anything to a LTR nor meeting up?

Sounds like a plate.

Snowboard18 · 2020-12-14T18:32:48+00:00

It could be a variety of things but my guess is it’s her dread game, in the form of a mind game.

But the important thing to realize here is your girl should not be able to throw you off in any way, that is the essence of a solid frame that we talk about here.

So in order words, don’t be afraid to lose her, don’t think too much about what she’s trying to pull on you, get on your purpose so you get your validation and fulfillment from your purpose and not women, that is how the most solid frames are made

grandorder123 · 2020-12-14T18:40:10+00:00

Just stop messaging her. Ignore any texts or calls and assume you have broken up. If she actually cares she will come find you in person. Tell her you assumed you had broken up because of some bullshit like relationships are built on trust and transparency.

Pretty_Regular_5037 · 2020-12-14T18:59:25+00:00

Firstly, you made a mistake. When she said that, you probably should have just allowed her to say it. But instead you said "no" which is fine but when you make a decision, stick with it. You seem insecure and indecisive if you don't. Regardless, you went back and asked.

Now, she won't tell you most likely because of power play. Because you want to know some information you told her not to tell you in the first place, she feels like she is in control. It is most definitely a mind game. She doesn't want to be in control in the first place but because you have allowed her to, she will. She wants to see you regain your shit.

First off, STOP SEEMING NEEDY. Whatever it was doesn't matter, do not seem needy about it. Also, whether she is introverted or not doesn't matter, she should have told you when you asked. If you feel disrespected because she wouldn't tell you, then you should've soft next until she did.

Now, you are in a situation that calls for three options. 1- You stop giving a shit about what she was going to say. 2- You drop her ass because you don't need chicks like that. 3- You ask one more time and if she doesn't tell you, remove your attention completely until she does.

If you truly are worried she has cheated on you, I would drop her. I would not demand to look through her phone because that can be connected to being insecure and there is no real reason to believe she has cheated on you. She could have wanted to tell you anything, maybe she wants to try butt plugs or something. But if you don't want to drop her and really just want to know, I would ask her what she meant to say, when she refuses to tell you, I would immediately drop communication with her until she on her own tells you. Women aren't stupid. Until she tell you on her own, focus on yourself and do your own shit as you work towards your goal.

Do not accuse her of cheating without any real reason: insecure. Looking through her phone is a last resort, if you would even call it that. If you feel the need to look through her phone, then just fucking leave. If you decide to though, be decisive and explain as little as possible. Say "let me look through your phone." "Why?" "You are acting shady." "How?" "Let me see your phone." Then if she lets you, you can look. If not, turn the fuck around and leave.

Big thing is to figure out how you feel. If it really bothers you, then leave. If you really think she is cheating, it is probably best to leave rather than bring it up. Without a good reason, to think a girl is cheating is simply insecure. If there is a reason, usually you should just dip. In this case, I would forget about whatever it is or demand to hear it and if she doesn't tell you, soft next until she chooses to tell you. Punish her for not following your demand by withdrawing her favorite thing- your attention. Or leave. Everyday girls are turning 18.

SpicyYeetJuice · 2020-12-14T16:42:06+00:00

In the wise words of Bill Burr, “Your gut is always right it’s gonna tell you when somethings fucked up.” If you think shit is off it probably is by the way a quality girl wouldn’t do something like this they would just come out and tell you introverted or not.

embar5 · 2020-12-14T17:07:42+00:00

Accuse her of cheating and prepare to break up. If she wants to defend there's only one way

Tambamwham · 2020-12-14T17:44:33+00:00

“You’re being shady, hand me your phone or leave.”

Title	GF shady? Thoughts?
Author	AGDadabhoy
Upvotes	1
Comments	18
Date	December 14, 2020 4:21 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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