Going clubbing alone?

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2020-01-04T09:05:06+00:00

Yes. This is how I lost my virginity.

1) First reccomendation is to be nomadic. Do what you need to to secure access to as many clubs as possible. Bounce from club to club throughout the night. It disconnects you from any one experience and keeps your head in the game.

There are also logistic reasons for this. Sometimes a room is spent if you've approached most of the women there, and approaching anymore will make you seem desperate, since they just saw you approach the others. Sometimes you'll also have a bad rejection or social interaction and you need to book it. I once made a joke about police brutality ("2 black guys walk into a bar, the police shoot them" badum ts) and a group of aggressive french black dudes tried to fight me - was very glad I had 4 other clubs to go to.

2) approach and befriend men. When you get 5 or 10 straight rejections in a row, for your own mental health it helps to have a little comraderie with another dude, to bro out for a bit. Dance, enjoy the club with some cool dudes, be warm with them, then jump back in the game when you're ready. Men are more than happy to hype each other up.

3) Be friendly to the staff. And I don't just mean polite, actually talk to them, get to know them. Ask them how they got into the clubbing scene. I got in for free at a lot of clubs because so and so would tell me "drop my name at the door" after I talked to him the previous night.

EDIT:

4) Another thing I originally omitted because of length is to infiltrate groups of men and women. Of course, we should always approach an attractive group of women, but in day game guys in the group usually means abort approach. In clubs however, it's the opposite. The guys will actually serve as your in with the group and immediately you get rid of the "random stranger" image. Now you're not a stranger, of course, your a friend of so and so how are you?

How does this work practically? The gist is you approach a guy, you get his name, you "fail to mention" you just met him, introduce yourself to everyone else in the group, then act like a part of it.

Approach the guy with an interesting comment or observation, exactly like day game openers. Then you charm him just like day game and ask for his name. Talk to him a little more, then naturally and smoothly address each new person in the group, introducing yourself as if they ought to know you, like you are such a good friend of whoever ( guy you got name) that your meeting was inevitable. Ask them how they know him. Use all of the magic frame control powers you've learned to assert the idea that the entire group was destined to be your friends, and doing so is fulfilling the will of the universe. The loud music helps, because no one can hear the others' conversations. Charm each one individually, make them feel good about you.

Then, start dancing with the group and escalate with their women as normal, since you're now part of the group effectively. Pull rates with this strategy are great - and it was from this tactic I lost my v card.

Dilduo · 2020-01-04T08:05:48+00:00

I do it all the time.

Just walk up to groups and start conversation

A lot of people will think you have balls for going out alone.

If anyone questions you just say you have fun going out alone and meeting people.

Mingle with people, bounce around, make friends, go dancing

Some groups and convos will be hit or miss, dont let it get you down.

Approach men too, your there to make friends

oooKenshiooo · 2020-01-04T10:52:31+00:00

It's so weird how everyone advises to approach men. In Germany that is a surefire way to instantly be the weirdo. :D

catsdontsmile · 2020-01-04T13:22:56+00:00

I've done it just to hook up, and it worked very well. But I didn't make friends or anything, I just straight up went to hit on girls

RacistMuffin · 2020-01-04T08:13:59+00:00

Funny thing is just clubbed alone tonight.

It's really not as bad as it seems. Just get really drunk and generate some positive momentum with some of the guy groups first. I noticed an easy way to build up confidence is putting some shades on and just vibining with the music. Some person will be down to just dance and you wont really be in your head with the whole "oh fuck I'm alone".

scaevola212 · 2020-01-04T16:37:25+00:00

In my experience even a bad wingman can be better than no wingman, especially for sets larger than 2. Having another guy there to riff off is huge, and its undeniable that having someone there makes you seem less creepy than going alone. As long as the other guy is willing to talk to anyone and isn't aggressively creepy I get way better results than by going out alone.

Mr_Badass · 2020-01-04T23:00:01+00:00

Tell people your're a tourist and this is your first week in the city. Someone will introduce you to their group.

agjrpsl · 2020-01-05T08:06:16+00:00

Dude you did great. Most people can't leave their house without someone holding their hand. This can be done by guys or chics. You don't need anyone to go out to do anything. I would be bored out of my mind if I waited on friends to go out and do something. 98% of the time you will end up meeting people whatever you decide to do .

peacemakerzzz · 2020-01-04T09:48:07+00:00

You know the saying, if it works, then stick to it. To each his own so if it works for you then why not. Who cares if people think it's weird. The only way to know is if you try.

Edit: also I found that going outside your comfort zone helps A LOT so as shiah labeaouf once said in a meme, JUST... DO IT!

hoopingblob · 2020-01-04T12:35:04+00:00

Depends on you. If you don't mind to be alone in large groups sure go ahead. If you do then start slow. Go with 2 friends then with one until you are comfortable going alone

nakedamerasian · 2020-01-04T14:16:30+00:00

Not a fan of clubbing unless it's with good friends or there's a DJ playing that's really good.

I'd prefer to go to a bar instead.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-01-04T15:15:42+00:00

tug on your nuts

XXXMersenne · 2020-01-04T16:13:46+00:00

Do it!!! Youll get used to it. & go sober!

I did this all 2018 and much of 2019 met thousands of ppl and gott 100s who know me when out— city on lock

Its hard but you evolve shit loadsssss

Do it mate

Torrent this make playlists on your phone and shoot for her Moon

second-last-mohican · 2020-01-05T04:58:48+00:00

Was gonna say try and find a local bar/pub to have a few drinks first, make friends with the bartender. After a few drinks you'll be right to go to a club solo.. can always do the "mate just bailed" story.

Hedser91 · 2020-01-04T12:25:28+00:00

You should go clubbing with friends, not alone

trpppp123 · 2020-01-04T18:02:27+00:00

It's unnatural and other clubbers will be wary about you. Because no woman is showing up alone, ever.

And they sniff out singleness as if it's lack-of-value. You enter any group or 1:1 conversation with moderate-to-low SMV. It's harrowing uphill work from there, even if you are lean with charisma.

The best thing to do is just fuck going to clubs. The first step is to take a class or join a hobby where you will meet people and then you all go to a club. Much, much more natural.

solitude-_ · 2020-01-04T11:21:30+00:00

No, I would not recommend it. You could make yourself a target. If you end up going out alone, don't drink too much alcohol and don't accept any drinks from others. I would worry getting my drink spiked and/or getting raped and killed on the way home. I don't think a club is a good place to meet men anyway. Most will be intoxicated.

Why not try a local Meetup group instead? Something in the daytime without any booze involved. Much better conversations and most people there are looking for companionship.

Title	Going clubbing alone?
Author	selfimprovementman3
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Date	January 4, 2020 8:02 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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