Got flaked on boys

redhorndog · 2020-06-28T14:41:11+00:00

Perfectly done.

At least she offered to reschedule.

dani098 · 2020-06-28T15:28:30+00:00

That’s not a flake. That’s a human rescheduling. You weak muther fuckers get your feeling hurt to easy.

This is incel level shit

FirstName_LastName4 · 2020-06-28T15:02:06+00:00

At least she offered to reschedule. In this situation I’ll sometimes throw in that I’ll let her make it up to me.

vandaalen · 2020-06-28T14:19:23+00:00

No. Good.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-06-28T14:24:50+00:00

You’re good.

Next time you engage her, play it cool, calm and collective.

Set something up next week.

MatheusKeller · 2020-06-28T15:31:08+00:00

If she didn’t offer another date i would say it was as bad as you’re making it out to be, but she did. This girl is a person who has her priorities, things she has to do and, in her case, a family she want to be with. You can’t expect any girl to make you her priority as soon as in a 2º date, despite what some people here say. And your reaction was good, now wait a few days and hit her up again.

boy_named_su · 2020-06-28T15:31:18+00:00

you did good. make sure you don't hit her up first

unless you don't hear back at all. in which case, wait 2-3 weeks, figure out something fun YOU wanna do, and invite her to tag along

IXseed · 2020-06-28T14:47:20+00:00

You good. Honestly if a girl flakes and you wanna next her you don't even need to respond. How you come across as butthurt is if you get in your feelings about being flaked and make it apparent.

MattyAnon · 2020-06-28T15:50:15+00:00

Does this come off as butthurt? Any tips on how i should have replied?

It's ok, but the best response is no response.

Look at what no response says:

Her behaviour is out of line
She is no longer worth responding to
You might never speak to her again.

Women hate being ignored.

Personally I'd say "sure" to mean "that's ok". If you are ok with it, then this is good.

But if you're not ok with it (and it sounds like you're not), don't say sure. Say "Understood, but this is not ok". And THEN you stop responding.

Or just "Not acceptable".

But really, what's the problem? She's running late and trying to juggle her day. And she's telling you about it in advance. Personally I'd be fine with this and would say "Ok I guess, but you gotta make it up to me".

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-06-28T16:28:30+00:00

they flake as like a leverage grab .. their own abundance mentality, only they actually have the abundance to flake without batting an eye

It's under the same umbrella as waiting hours to text someone back. They do everything they can to not show interest in you.

god I remember being upset years ago when I realized it's all just this game of who can pretend they're indifferent of the other person better

FrickOffAHS · 2020-06-28T17:09:46+00:00

They don’t flake on you all the time?

Idk if it’s a cultural thing or just my fault but here in america girls flake at least 50% of the time

BluzzKill · 2020-06-28T15:21:36+00:00

Perfect reaponse

TXJohn83 · 2020-06-28T15:34:57+00:00

Your fine, don’t worry about it if she comes around go with it otherwise just keep moving.

FirstName_LastName4 · 2020-06-28T16:45:53+00:00

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Mr_Badass · 2020-06-28T17:57:59+00:00

2020-06-28T18:20:20+00:00

"That's unfortunate" sounds less butthurt but still doesn't give validation but that are just the little details.

skyrunner22 · 2020-06-28T23:22:55+00:00

Sure can seem passive aggressive. Back in day they used to say if she cancels but offer to reschedule then from there you respond in a "ok but you gonna have to make it up to me" kinda way, and then when she responds, you game accordingly.

That has to be in the sidebar or something right?

dani098 · 2020-06-29T01:39:37+00:00

..... still not buttt hurt. Lol. “Ok cooo”.

Title	Got flaked on boys
Author	FirstName_LastName4
Upvotes	12
Comments	49
Date	June 28, 2020 2:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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