How can I survive being alone?

Shamlei · 2016-09-07T21:43:22+00:00

Find people, talk to them, get rejected for being awkward, repeat until you found friends.

Just be prepared to feel uncomfortable.

Peter_B_Long · 2016-09-08T01:46:34+00:00

I tend to naturally like being alone. I'm always very busy. I wake up at sunrise go to the gym, then head straight to work. It's an hour commute so that's 2 hours of my day driving. After work i head home and meal prep. This schedule only gives me about 2 hours of free time. I spend this free time reading, meditating, playing guitar, and i like watching Naruto before bed.

I have a ltr of 4 years so i hang with her a couple times a week. Nobody really texts me besides my gf and that part kinda sucks but I've learned to accept it.

Having my gf helps me not feel alone. I have friends whom i hang with weekends.

I think the best cure for learning to be happy enjoying your time alone is meditating. With meditation I've learned to love myself and enjoy my own company.

You could try to learn some personal hobbies. I like to be alone when i play guitar, when i read, meditate, and even the gym i like to workout alone.

At the gym I've made some buddies whom i just say hello to when we're lifting. I just like to talk and meet people. When i talk to people i like to enjoy myself. For example today i punched in at the gym and went to the locker room and realized i left my earphones in my car. I went back out and came back in. The chick at the front desk was like, 'i swear i just saw you walk in' and i told her 'maybe you got such a good sleep last night that your mind learned to see the future' and i thought that was hilarious' she just replied with 'that would be awesome, but that's impossible' i just left and went to do my workout.

There's so many benefits in meeting people and becoming aquantances. There's this guy whom i have a locker next to whom I've been talking to for a few months and just recently he offered me an opportunity to work at his company in my field. I'm waiting on the call for the interview. And today there was this new chick who came with some buddy i know to the gym. I saw her working out she was pretty fucking hot. I warmed up next to her and she gave me zero attention. 20 minutes into my workout i go up to the dumbells and see my buddy and say what's up to him and the girl was next to him. For the rest of my workout i caught her staring at me a few times. Whatever nothing major but just something to keep in mind.

So just keep meeting people and learn to like being alone.

jellybeanIN89 · 2016-09-07T21:31:08+00:00

Being alone for long periods of time is never a good idea. You're in college and obviously you're studies are top priority in your life right now, but always make time for social interaction, even if it's just walking around campus and chatting up random people. You need that interaction to keep yourself sane.

yellowmonkeyzx93 · 2016-09-08T01:58:14+00:00

I found that the people around me cope with this idea of being alone with drugs and alcohol.

Stay away from drugs and alcohol. It can destroy your body's health. People always want an escape from life. So they turn to drugs and booze, not wanting to fully confront reality.

When you fully immerse yourself in reality and conquer it, that's when life begins to change for you. You do what you gotta do to make your life the way you want it to be.

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-07T21:28:52+00:00

Get a good knife, rope, high calorie food, learn how to hunt and how to make a tent. Clothes shouldn't be cotton, rather nylon or other polymer.

Or get your ass around people since you want it. We're social, just grow beyond needing validation from people and you'll be ok.

onmyownpath · 2016-09-07T22:32:14+00:00

I am mostly an introvert too. Still need interaction with people so I know what you are talking about.

Join some clubs and get hobbies. Then just commit to them.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-09-08T02:11:36+00:00

because it gives me a euphoric feeling and has help me solve a lot of my health related problems.

That's not good, you should learn to be alone, nothing good comes from your well being depending on others.

[deleted] · 2016-09-08T02:21:37+00:00

Be comfortable with yourself. It's the root of self-confidence.

EDIT: Here's a related link. Music serves a similar role as drugs and alcohol.

https://www.reddit.com/r/C_S_T/comments/4zvfa6/whats_the_deal_with_loud_music/

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2016-09-08T06:13:32+00:00

Get some hobbies. You need more time sinks.

Nigbones · 2016-09-08T08:56:10+00:00

Find a social hobby. Lift.

Title	How can I survive being alone?
Author	lbrownlbandit
Upvotes	18
Comments	19
Date	September 7, 2016 9:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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