How do I get back on track?

alisemihc · 2018-03-15T06:28:15+00:00

Your motivation is finished. Now you need to build dedication and discipline.And that only comes with a long term goal or ideal.Basically you need to find a goal for yourself.

hirokinae · 2018-03-15T07:44:32+00:00

Motivation doesn’t do shit for you. The other commenter has it right. Find that goal. Envision it. Own it. Now get off your lazy ass and work towards it.

Successful people aren’t there because they wake up every day ready to tackle the world full of motivation to take in their next project. That’s bullshit and anyone who tells you motivation is key is feeding you lies.

Motivation only helps you plan. When you feel a ton of motivation don’t actually go out and do one or two things. Use that energy to PLAN. One year goals. One month goals. Tomorrow’s goals. Plan as much as you can with that limited motivation. Then when you’re sick of it turn to....

Discipline

I’m in law school. You think I wake up in the morning saying fuck yeah time to read civil procedure? Hell no. I hate that shit. Briefing cases is boring as fuck. But I need to. I move my body that screams no to the professors office hours at 8:30 am. I finish my outline and head directly from the library to my planned hiit class because if I don’t I lose the money I paid for that stupid fucking class. If you want to incentivize sticking to a routine then put some money into it. You’ll naturally force yourself to go to avoid wasting money. Or do something that’s fun like Football so it Doesn’t become a chore and it’s more of a reward.

You need to stop relying on motivation and turn to habits and discipline. I can give you all the pretty motivational words in the world but it’s you that needs to get up and drag yourself to class even though you dun wanna. Get yourself into the gym even though you dun wanna.

Guys live in the realm of logic. Do what’s good for you, and stop doing what you FEEL like. Leave the feelings to the females. Now get your lazy ass into the gym.

Good luck.

Xoramung · 2018-03-15T10:48:06+00:00

keeping women around.

Is that your goal? its a crap goal.

Find a better goal to focus on, the rest should come.

Isbjornsolo · 2018-03-15T13:12:41+00:00

Are you getting enough sleep? Eating enough high quality food or enough protein? Drinking enough water etc?

Might sound basic, but if it's a case of not being able to get out of bed it could be just that. Could be a basic lack of energy/insuffcient recovery.

redpilldick · 2018-03-15T13:45:49+00:00

Stop masturbating. The hardest part of swallowing the pill was working to better myself without a goal in sight. Once I saw improvements in my life it made it miles easier to build discipline to keep going

CorglyMcDougerSquats · 2018-03-15T13:53:42+00:00

Jocko Willink - Discipline

Read it and embrace it.

RM_Slays · 2018-03-15T14:47:05+00:00

First tell me, you haven't worked out a sigle minute for 16 yrs, can you do 100 push ups, bench press 100 kgs, deadlift 150 kgs on the first day of your gym? You can't. Then why are you doing the same thing with other things.

As you mentioned you used to play videogames all day, hardly went to my college classes, wasn't great with keeping women around, then how the fuck are you gonna start doing productive shits 9 hrs a day, get an A in every examination and become like James Bond with womens instantly?

Just as in gym, you start from absolutely nothing and gradually move up, do the same thing with other things in life.

Take one thing that is absolutely must (might be getting good grades, waking up early, stop playing video games) and start working on that one thing for about a months. Give your all focus to that thing.
After a month, add another thing, after another month, add another thing and keep going.

Just remember four things: Start small, Go slow and up, stay consistent, don't give up.

warwolverinewarrior · 2018-03-15T12:42:04+00:00

You're probably in a routine which turns to repetition which gets boring. Try new things.

bootruman · 2018-03-15T15:12:58+00:00

I think a big challenge people in early 20’s come across is energy management. Ever had a really productive start to a day, mark off half of the things on your to-do-list, then come home and all of the focus/willpower/focus is gone? Around college we start to really test our mental and physical limits: stay up for days at a time, heavy workout sprees, and deep study grinds. I would spend 10 hours doing school/exercise/eating/chores, 10 hours of video games/ and then 4 hours sleep average per day. What happened? Well I flunked out of school! I couldn’t remember anything I studied for and I felt like I was on the verge of collapse all the time. 4 years later I have a 2-year Associates and 1 year worth of credit into a new field for my Bachelors degree. I had to make alot of choices. But eventually I stuck with the right ones. Its all give and take. 8 hours of sleep, school from 8AM -4PM every day. Very important to treat this time period like a full time job. Do NOT go home and play video games of there is a 3-hour gap between classes. Find a spot in a library or at home and look at your weekly planner. Work ahead of schedule if there really is not any immediate assignments or tests. 4-6 working out. After eating, driving, and showering its 8 PM and I’m spent by that time. But thats okay. Your life is not spiraling out of control at this point and you can go rest assured that you will wake up actually looking forward to the coming day. Last point about energy is that we get much more efficient at activities over long periods of time. Playing video games for ten hours feels like the same mental strain of two hours of school work. Some people who do much more of the other could feel the opposite way. The virtue of “Knowing yourself” doesnt mean that your favorite color is x and favorite food is y. Growing up and knowing yourself is knowing what strengths and weaknesses are and how to micromanage your life around your habits and tendencies.

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-03-15T17:41:08+00:00

You need goals or passion. Passion is better imo because discipline and motivation come easily.

If you love your work, it's easy and very rewarding.

Also go to the gym or try a new workout. But get off your ass.

Title	How do I get back on track?
Author	Popthesepopps
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Date	March 15, 2018 5:16 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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