How do I handle this guy?

exilesoul · 2015-11-06T17:09:34+00:00

Give him the "schoolboy error" handshake...

symko · 2015-11-06T17:40:08+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0otnIuQiGG0

Beat him at his own game then shrug it off as no big deal

EdvardMunch · 2015-11-06T18:38:08+00:00

Just say, "damn dude you use a lot of handshake force, you trying to make up for something" laugh and give him a good smile.

A beta problem is not calling shit out. It's not exactly the most conflict free way to live but I go about my days saying what's on my mind as much as possible. "You seem upset, something bothering you?" And if you do that enough it won't just be when you're emotional it will be like putting your socks on. Don't pretend like the stuff you see isn't happening or you're not allowed to call it out. Unless it will really hurt someone emotionally, I draw the line there.

Reddthrown · 2015-11-06T16:48:45+00:00

Just say hello and don't shake his hand.

rurpe · 2015-11-06T17:32:52+00:00

When you lock hands, turn your palm to the ground. His arm will move into an awkward position forcing his body to contort.

s_m_o_u_s_e_ · 2015-11-06T17:44:26+00:00

"I'd try harder but my testicles get smaller every time."

Uf-Dah · 2015-11-06T18:13:58+00:00

Had a similar situation, here's a life hacker article, but I take it one step further. Instead of just extending the index finger, I use my index and middle finger for more power/leverage. It keeps the aggressor from having the leverage to allow you to dominate.

http://lifehacker.com/5903554/keep-your-hand-from-getting-crushed-during-a-handshake-by-touching-the-other-persons-wrist

anooblol · 2015-11-06T18:16:10+00:00

I have a strong (probably too strong) handshake. It's not to assert dominance. It's just what I do.

Shake his hand harder if it hurts. It weakens his grip.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-11-06T18:44:16+00:00

fist bump

I use this b/c I am a musician and I can't have some fucktard with something to prove trying to crush my hand.

McLarenX · 2015-11-06T19:36:16+00:00

Crush his hand back and maintain eye contact or simply correct him in a playful manner. "Hey man, this is a handshake not a grip contest. Let's try this again" You can break down his behaviors and demeanor by not taking him so seriously and encouraging others to see through his bullshit. Or confront it directly and force a power struggle. Only do this if you think you'll win.

killsyou123 · 2015-11-06T19:42:57+00:00

Stick your index and middle finger straight out almost as if you're trying to feel his pulse. Sounds fucking weird but it will make it harder to crush your hand. Try it out with a friend first if you don't believe me but an MMA instructor showed it to me and I do it with everyone I meet

Sementeries · 2015-11-06T17:53:57+00:00

He's testing you. He is seeing how much pain you will endure unnecessarily from him. Two things you can do to equal or on up him. First, use your middle finger to tickle his palm. This handshake important to him. Show him you think its a joke and make a comedy of his display of dominance. You will basically be beta-shaming him for stepping out of his beta-box. Or you can just pull him in for a handshake bro hug and just crush the fuck out of him. This is the social equivalent of two rams butting heads.

BinglesTRP · 2015-11-06T16:58:44+00:00

So what do you want? TRP to tell you how to talk to human beings?

Just say something about it. A lot of people get this mentality that they need to shake hands hard or you won't view them as a man. Firm Handshake /= Death Grip. It doesn't mean he's trying to faggotize you, it just means this is what was pounded in his head.

I would have way more respect for the guy who speaks up and voices his issues face-to-face, as opposed to the guy who slinks off to the internet to mentally masturbate about how to reply.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-11-06T16:54:23+00:00

Squeeze back twice as hard. Exercise your grip muscles. Don't back down from this. EVER. Don't flinch. Don't show it hurts. Don't cower from him. Don't get angry. If you have to, grab his fingers and squeeze hard before he can. This is friendly competition, not really alpha oppression.

Title	How do I handle this guy?
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Date	November 6, 2015 4:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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