How Do You Break Constant Texting Habit?

dazbekzul · 2014-10-29T21:10:28+00:00

I am almost constantly texting 3-4 people at a time when I'm not busy.

Find a way to make yourself busy. Whether that be finding a new hobby or working another job, do it.

CNThrow · 2014-10-29T20:52:35+00:00

One thing I found that helped me was turning my text ringtone to silent. If I don't hear my phone go off, I don't check it immediately.

When I get to a break in my work and check my phone, I give myself about a 10 minute window to send and reply to texts. If I don't get a reply within that period, the person has to wait until my next break (usually at least an hour)

truchisoft · 2014-10-29T14:54:44+00:00

I deactivate notification for the apps i use to pick up, hence only when I have time and open them, i get notified.

byronshadow · 2014-10-29T14:49:02+00:00

Change her name in your contacts to "Respect Yourself". Keep your eye on the ball. You want to hang out with her in real life instead being a long-distance validation dispenser, right?

The hardest part for me is shaking the feeling that if I'm not talking to them something is wrong and they'll just be talking with someone else.

They will be talking to someone else. They'll be texting beta orbiters who will shower them with compliments and play 20 questions with them thinking it could get them laid. But if you're an interesting guy who is witty but brief when texting you'll be the one they're getting together with in the real world.

primefunk1 · 2014-10-29T14:56:45+00:00

You're a habitual texter. When girls find out you like to text, that you enjoy texting as something you love to do in your free time, most likely that'll frame you as some sort of feminine loser with nothing better to do with his time (sure, it's probably unfair but what does it matter?). Women love men who do things, so ironically they would rather see you ignore them in favor of a hobby you enjoy. In their mind they might see it as sort of a preview of what it might be like to be with you long term. Is he off doing his own thing, working out, writing music, hunting, etc. etc., or is he sitting around the house waiting for me to come home to take care of him, to entertain him? Being a habitual texter suggests the latter.

I enjoy texting and generally speaking you can text the women you're interested in (as much as you'd like in some cases), but before you do, ask yourself if you're doing it because you're bored or because you're looking for something from the girl you're texting. If you're just bored, don't text (unless you're sitting around in a waiting room somewhere with nothing else to do). If you're looking for validation or seeking a girl's approval, or wanting her to reaffirm that she's still interested in you, then don't send the text. Texting is generally a losing game for a guy. Text only when you have something to say.

Finally, girls text all the time. You can't worry about whether she's talking to another guy she met on tinder. You have to make her want to talk to you more than she wants to talk to those other guys. Quality over quantity.

tombreck2 · 2014-10-29T15:23:37+00:00

Self control:

If you are looking at your phone screen waiting for a text from a girl then you are failing

Text only for logistics (When are you free) and (Ok meet at X at 8pm)

lost_2_apathy · 2014-10-29T15:32:13+00:00

Airplane mode or Do not disturb.

Choparker · 2014-10-29T16:18:58+00:00

Had this too... One way is to leave your phone next to your bed, or in your kitchen etc. Check it in the morning, check it at night. Carry a book and learn in the time saved, or talk to people etc.

aaron_the_just · 2014-10-29T19:06:55+00:00

Get a flip phone

SuperPhiSwag · 2014-10-29T19:51:40+00:00

Don't use your phone for a week. This will get you out of sync. Btw.. the average person will spend 3.9 years on their iPhones... Don't be one of them.

guymanthing · 2014-10-29T20:47:19+00:00

set your phone to silent and turn off vibration so that you aren't notified of their texts until you actually check your phone.

Or,

Find something productive and self beneficial that you can occupy your time with. If that is the case.

I_Wear_Jorts5 · 2014-10-29T20:50:07+00:00

I used to be like you. Breaking my phone, then losing my phone in consecutive weeks helped a lot in getting me out of the "cycle" that you seem to be caught in.

However, the biggest thing for me was the realization that I don't really give a shit what some girl I'm texting is doing or how she is perceiving the length between responses. You'd be surprised how many girls will text you twice in a row when you don't immediately respond.

Ultimately, you need to realize that texting is not something that should consume your spare time. And outside of family emergencies, I've hardly ever a text that couldn't wait a few minutes (or even hours/days) to be responded to. This is actually a great RP lesson that you need to learn about restraint and self control.

HiddenPools · 2014-10-29T22:56:04+00:00

Either find something more rewarding to yourself, or punish yourself for texting constantly, by promising to donate $5 for every text over 10 you make per day or some other achievable number.

This is, of course, assuming you're actually driving people crazy with your text and not making dates, etc.

dukeluce · 2014-10-30T18:27:19+00:00

I had myself this habit. Stopped it when started meeting different chicks and couldn't handle anymore texting. To me this habit is formed on people who in their teen, didn't have girls to text to, cause that is the age when you like this stuff(because it's more difficult to meet the girl in that age). So you compensate this now.

But after a while it becomes very annoying, unless you have that one girl that teases you with sms or phone calls in late nights.

oldredder · 2014-10-31T02:54:20+00:00

Turn the damn phone off.

Title	How Do You Break Constant Texting Habit?
Author	elethal
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Date	October 29, 2014 2:32 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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