How to not fall into rational / serious mode?

bluffking1 · 2019-10-06T19:07:23+00:00

I definitely can relate to this mindset. One thing that has helped me is reading The Book of Pook. Most important takeaway from that is to realize this:

Perfect is boring.

So basically when it’s self improvement time, take it seriously. But when it’s time to have fun, let loose and realize you are more than enough.

MotiMorphosys · 2019-10-06T18:57:26+00:00

Spend time every week gaming women.

Spend time every week conversing with women.

ScooopWoopScoup · 2019-10-06T18:20:21+00:00

Girls act exactly like children.

Treat them like one

IamBetter28 · 2019-10-06T20:02:25+00:00

Interesting, I've had the exact opposite thoughts on this just this week. I feel girls only like me when I'm in super serious mission seeking mode. It goes hand in hand with being dominant. The moment I loose my serious mode I get less dominant and more into beta territory. I just made plans to start next week more serious but relaxed.

Why do you think being serious is bad thing? I've been told by every single girl that they like a dominant and serious man with a plan. One got super aroused when I told her I've certain rules etc.

acp_rdit · 2019-10-07T01:00:44+00:00

you can be serious without being somber

you can pursue with dire purpose while laughing the whole time

your inevitable demise is what makes the enjoyment of this very moment, no matter what the circumstances, a moral good that is worth finding

cydestiny · 2019-10-07T05:59:47+00:00

Don't pretend to be someone you're not.

Reading and comprehending is two different thing. From what you described and your comments, you seems to have had read too much and not applying them in life, then got overwhelmed as yourself seems pale in comparison to others. You're not lacking goals, you just have too many of them and too far stretched.

What I would suggest is, cut out all the noises and listen to only you. Next time you read something, try to relate and apply into your daily life, no matter how small the steps is. For example, the "Get Muscular" goal should be changed to "Hit the gym", then progressively increase the difficult from there based on your situation.

A quick bonus tip, next time you thought about improving yourself after reading some shit, give yourself 5 seconds to mark that shit on your calendar and actually do it.

shark30k · 2019-10-07T06:23:37+00:00

Don't let them see you sweat, seem effortlessly perfect. Otherwise you look like a tryhard.

robbiedigital001 · 2019-10-07T10:04:11+00:00

Are you saying here you get stuck in your head in social situations

sebastianconcept · 2019-10-07T11:46:26+00:00

By being playful. Is good not to be a clown but you would be playful if you are surrounded by toddlers that you want them to like you, right?

Well, same with girls.

They want to feel fun, girly and properly dicked

wawakaka · 2019-10-07T04:16:53+00:00

carry a small flask of your favorite charm elixir.

this what men have done for ages. just enough to dumb you down to be social.

they don't call it a social lubricant for nothing.

[deleted] · 2019-10-06T22:06:02+00:00

She’s a toy nothing else

willieblackbean · 2019-10-07T04:39:45+00:00

Just like making money, if all you know is to go earn those money but you forgot how to spend em, what's the point?

Title	How to not fall into rational / serious mode?
Author	orieva
Upvotes	139
Comments	40
Date	October 6, 2019 6:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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