Summary of my life:

  • 30M
  • Divorced my disgusting, fat, dominating wife
  • Applied TRP, which worked like magic to get me in a relationship with a 22F who's hot and fun

Goal:

  • (added after posting) Get into and maintain LTR with her, because she seems like LTR material: doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, smart and hardworking, good with household, only two boyfriends before (both for more than 2 years)

She says:

  • With other guys, she was dominant; but with me, she doesn't know why but she just gave all control to me. Says yes to everything.
  • Says sex with me is much better than anything she had before; she's insatiable;
  • Says the exact phrase "you fuck me well, this is why I'm not bitchy".

Problem:

  • Fucking her now feels like a job that I have to do in order to keep the relationship, otherwise she's going to leave
  • What's next? How to keep it sustainable? The prospect that in order to keep her (or in any other relationship), I'd have to keep the dates just as awesome and the sex just as good, for the next 30-40 years, without relaxing, is terrifying.

Thoughts:

  • Abundance mentality is not applicable here: if she leaves, I can easily get a new girlfriend in no time, but it would require me to do the same thing (invest tons of effort to maintain an awesome relationship).
  • Need to figure out whether the pressure and intensity of the relationship can go down with time, or you need to stay focused and invest heavily into it until the end of your life.

Possible solutions:

  • Need to work on changing the attitude to sex: I'm doing it to satisfy myself, not her. That works now, but I'm kind of lying to myself.
  • Reverse some of the pressure and put it on her? For example, challenge her to organize a nice date (other than cooking, which she's good at) or a short trip somewhere; or surprise me in sex. On the other hand, that would mean giving some control to her.

Appreciate if you can add something to possible solutions. Cheers.