I'm almost close to a state of total acceptance of my physical disability. I cannot change it therefore it does not warrant endless insecure self-pity thoughtloops. However I'm completely baffled on how to display an IDGAF attitude about it in the follow type of scenario:

Person A: "I'm going to be menial_optimist for halloween"

Person B after a short pause: "You mean a total badass?"

I know person A well, and I'm sure they meant no offense by it. Person B however, a woman, quickly piped that in due to a perceived frailness of my ego fearing I'd be hurt by the comment.

I sat there a few moments afterwards perplexed at how I could in the future display an IDGAF attitude especially towards women.

The last thing I want others to think, especially women I'm interested in is "He's a special guy!" or mentally walking on eggshells around me because of perceived mental fragility.