Lifting is lowering my SMV

dukes1998 · 2018-10-26T00:43:50+00:00

Sounds like you go to a wack ass school haha

Just make a joke of it and don’t take yourself too seriously because girls will be attracted to in shape guys whether they consciously want to or not

falecf4 · 2018-10-26T01:53:22+00:00

Sounds like 21 jump street where the are back in school like 7 years later and Schmitt is the cool one.

First of all, who cares what some teenage bimbo says?! Get girls elsewhere.

TheBrokenRuler · 2018-10-26T01:27:34+00:00

Be the best of both worlds, get popular and do theatre, but do sports and be jacked, too. You'll be fucking King if you put in the work

HurricaneHugues · 2018-10-26T02:15:38+00:00

You go to school with faggots. Your best bet is to not base your whole oersona around you being a lifter or wrestler. She may see "I don't like fit men who work out" but trust me, once u get naked with her she won't be abke to stop touching you or complimenting you. You're dealing with high school girls and they're very insecure. They're used to being the attractive ones. Guys are not supposed to improve themselves and be more attractive

Quaternionz · 2018-10-26T08:41:18+00:00

Lifting is not lowering your SMV, your game is just not calibrated for this new environment yet.

No, these girls are not genuinely expressing a distaste for muscular men. Yes, these are all shit tests. You’re just failing them super hard right now.

You can’t really be blamed for fucking up here. You’re still young and you’re running into the big society-wide meta shit test that is feminism as a whole. It’s the biggest shit test of all, almost nobody passes.

People will make fun of you for being physically fit and attractive your whole life. Get used to it. This will be worse in environments where you’re more attractive than average, because you stand out as an easy target.

For example, I wear something like this out when I go bar hopping:

http://www.projectq.us/images/uploads/marine.jpg

I’m not quite that jacked, but you get the idea. Extra small skin tight shirt. Pectoral definition clearly visible. Tight around the biceps. Shirt tucked in to keep it all tight and show off your flat stomach. Etc...

I catch A LOT of shit for dressing like I do, because nobody at my regular bars lifts or dresses even remotely like that.

“Did you spray paint that shirt on this morning?” “Yeah, I do it every morning actually. I’m starting to get sick from the paint fumes, I think” Then I playfully waft away some imaginary paint fumes. (Agree and amplify).

“Oh, Jesus, don’t tuck your shirt in like that. Who does that?” “I does that. Why don’t you does that?” Then you tug on the guy’s/girl’s loose shirt to implicitly give them shit about it. (Cocky/funny/playful).

“Damn bro, that shirt is loud.” “Yeah, I was trying to find a louder one, but this was all they had.” (Agree and amplify).

If you’re not used to merciless shit testing then all of this will be genuinely discouraging and you’ll stop dressing sexy just to make the comments go away. This is exactly what’s happening to you right now. You’re getting shit tested above your caliber in a new weird environment. You don’t know how to handle it yet, so you’re flirting with the idea that maybe you should stop doing the “offending” behaviors like lifting, just to make the shit tests go away. You shouldn’t. Revel in the shit tests. Improve your game.

Needless to stay, dressing like that pays off. A cute girl runs up to you giggling, out of nowhere. “Hey, can I tell you something weird and out of the blue?” “Sure, fire away.” “You look really hot in that shirt.” “Oh, man, that was so weird. I’m offended now, get the fuck outta here.” (Agree and Amplify). You shoo her away for now then and fuck her at your place later than same night.

It was indeed a shit test when that girl said “ew, that sport where guys touch each other?” You just failed it with a big giant face plant to the pavement. Your response was “Sweaty guys aren’t what I want to touch right now.” That was creepy and sounded sexually thirsty, so of course it failed. Alphas are getting laid and never come off as sexually thirsty. Your grin didn’t help, in the context of failing answer it was probably seen as weird.

Agree and Amplify is usually a safe bet. “Yeah, that’s the one. We usually go have big gay sex orgies in the locker room after each match. It’s hot.” That would have passed.

It’s not surprising that physical violence is made fun of and put down. This isn’t a shit test, it’s legitimate. Using physical violence when it’s not really warranted is a sign of lack of emotional control, which is beta. You’re under pressure, you can’t keep your cool and pass the shit tests, you desperately want to regain control, so you punch someone. Beta, beta, beta. You’ve failed. Only use physical violence when it’s actually necessary, like when you’re literally getting robbed or something, or someone does something really egregious.

Here’s a good example of when to use violence:

Some seriously weirdo socially dysfunctional dude at a bar is arguing with you about something, so he grabs your phone out of your hands abruptly and says “Here, let me google it and prove I’m right.” What he did there was majorly socially inappropriate and acutely physically confrontational. Who the fuck grabs a stranger’s phone without asking and starts casually using it? Grab it back and shove him in the chest. “Don’t fucking grab my phone, weirdo.” If turns into a fist fight then fine. There was no way to diffuse that calmly with some witty banter, he grabbed your phone. These people are usually mentally ill somehow, and they respond better to physical assertiveness than social cues.

On the other hand, betas will often get into physical confrontations just because they feel weak and helpless, and sense that they’re being out Alpha’d by another dude.

Here’s an example of beta violence:

You’re at a bar and you leave your seat to go to the bathroom. You leave your drink to mark the seat as taken. When you get back someone has taken your seat. You say “Hey, excuse me, I was sitting there. That’s my drink.” The guy just says “Nah,” and casually turns away from you. This is an annoying and potentially humiliating position to be in. He’s a full grown man. You can’t just remove him from your seat like a feather. A legit beta will just take his drink and skulk away, defeated. A beta who thinks he’s an Alpha will let the frustration boil over and will grab the guy by the guy by the collar to provoke a fight, or will just outright shove him and start fighting.

The Alpha move is to sit next to the guy and start casually sipping his drink. The first one to resort to physical violence loses, so you flip it on him by sipping his drink and making him feel helpless instead. Now he’s in the beta position. He can

1) Let you drink his drink (beta)

2) Move from the seat (beta)

3) Resort to physical violence (beta)

If he grabs you by the wrist and says “Hey asshole, that’s my drink.” Just say “Nah,” and keep your cool. If there’s a tension and a silence while you’re locked hand-in-hand say “Look dude, that’s my drink. I was sitting here, you need to move.” Be 100% chill even while he’s holding your wrist. When you tell him to move do it in a casual tone, not an aggressive one.

The key is to do a more playful type move, like sipping his drink, and then show unflinching lack of fear about physical violence when he grabs your wrist. Never punch first, but do escalate the interaction, and do IMPLICITLY show that you’re not afraid of a physical confrontation by not being phased when he grabs you.

Maybe if you’re a gang member or something you can just put a knife in the guy’s throat and then rob the bar and leave, or something. But in normal-people land unnecessary physical violence is usually seen as beta. The only time physical violence works as an Alpha marker is if you’re so indiscriminately physically violent that everyone is scared shitless of you. But that doesn’t really fly these days. Damn those “law” things.

The person to actually throw the first punch is usually seen as the “loser,” because they lost their cool and couldn’t think of anything more clever to do or say. That’s the effect you’re seeing with the guy beating someone up at school and then getting made fun of. If you go for physical violence out of extreme frustration, or out of desperation for social status, then that’s seen as weak, and people pick up on it.

You’re not at home in your new environment yet. You don’t own your Alphaness there, and people can tell.

Keep lifting. Keep calibrating your game. Don’t cave to shit tests. Don’t cave to the larger meta shit test that is your new feminist environment as a whole. Don’t be a mushy beta turd who molds his views according to his social surroundings to gain acceptance from women, if you do that they’ll just start to see you as good beta bux potential. Stay true to your principles and your mission.

Johnnadawearsglasses · 2018-10-26T01:36:23+00:00

Is it a boarding school

floresw4 · 2018-10-26T01:44:01+00:00

Where the fuck do you go to school? I went to a big state school and if you were muscular that already put you above so many normal ass dudes

chazthundergut · 2018-10-26T06:54:16+00:00

It was a shit test. You flinched, she detected weakness, and she buzzed you on it.

Next time some chick says some stupid shit like that, wrinkle your nose at her and say you're weird

NightwingTRP · 2018-10-26T22:04:19+00:00

Sounds like you moved to social justice central. Time to add some more strings to your bow. It sounds like you relied too heavily on your physique and previous social status for pussy. You're getting a first hand look at how shit changes and why I've pointed out many times that social status trumps all.

friendandadvisor · 2018-10-27T02:27:31+00:00

This is almost a mirror of another post. I'm doubtful that you two go to the same school.

propranolol22 · 2018-10-26T01:14:56+00:00

'ew, that sport where guys touch each other'

"Shut the fuck up bitch I could beat your boyfriends ass."

This demonstrates several things.

You dont tolerate her saying things like that
Insulting her demonstrates a IDGAF attitude, implies abundance mentality
Bringing up boyfriend subtly implies you find her attractive while probing her availability.
You imply her boyfriend/orbiters are less masculine because you are more physically imposing; an AMOG tactic essentially.

You'll notice that the statement is very polarizing. She'll either decide you are a rude asshole and that she never wants to talk to you again, which is fine because you weren't going to fuck her anyway, OR, she'll notice your displaying more masculine characteristics than most guys and become attracted to you. Dont be afraid to make people dislike you, its a big world.

TheTrenTrannyTrain · 2018-10-26T01:39:42+00:00

Sounds like a gayass school out west.

Title	Lifting is lowering my SMV
Author	Isitconfusing
Upvotes	2
Comments	34
Date	October 26, 2018 12:39 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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