I’m 20. I’ve been with a conservative girl for almost 2 and a half years. She doesn’t go out, drink or party, she goes to church, works at church, and has a strong family, but the problem is that she doesn’t put out. She’ll give me oral and handjobs frequently, but every time I try to initiate sex she breaks down. She was hit by her parents when she was younger and thinks that it was good for her development. I don’t know if she’s been sexually abused.

I broke up with her once and the time we broke up (about a year into the relationship) she told me she was ready. Now this came as no surprise to me, being that I think she’d do anything to keep me in the relationship. There have been so many instances of her mentioning sex as if it were to happen soon. Here I am a year and a half later and I want to end it. I’m sick of trying to initiate sex with someone who wants to wait until they think it’s the right time. I am on a leash. I don’t understand the point of a relationship without laying pipe.

Do I tell her it’s over and never talk to her again? I’ve grown rather close with her family (namely her parents and younger brother) and I am almost certain I will lose those relationships with it. What the fuck do I do