I'm gonna try to make this quick. I had been with this girl for almost 9 months and I know unicorns dont exist but this is the closest to one I've been with in the past few years. Sex almost everyday, submissive, great relationship with her parents, actually seems to care about what I say and do.

I say "seem" because she just texted me a picture of a poster her and her ex made last year because she found it as she was moving out and she told me she doesnt want to throw it away so she's "just gonna drop it off" at his place outside of his house so she won't see him. Since I met her she always told me how much she hated him and how much he mistreated her but I know that don't listen to her words, but her actions so I never fully believed her. I've read enough here to know this is bullshit and she's hamstering that she actually wants to see him.

This is where I may or may not have fucked up. I told her that she always said she hated him so there's literally no reason to drop anything off at his house and she kept hamstering "it will only be outside of his house I'm just leaving it at his door!" I told her to put herself in my shoes that if I went to my ex's house she would flip. It seemed to have worked because she told me I was right and that she doesn't want to "disrespect me like that" so she won't drop it off and she'll simply throw it away.

Again, I've lurked here long enough to know what this means so I guess my main question is, is this too much of a red flag to look past and should I just cut her off? If so, how do I do it? I have a hard time ending it with a girl because it always makes me come off as a whiny bitch. Is the relationship still salvageable? Appreciate all the feedback even if it's harsh. Thank you.