LTR Problem - she says that I am passive aggressive

superbad4life · 2018-09-09T00:52:42+00:00

I'd like to remind commenters that TRP is amoral. If you don't know what that means, look it up.

If you want to stay in an LTR, then you're going to have to a bit of give and take. LTRs do not happen without it. The mom thing is whatever, I'd ignore that comment, but you're going to come off as someone trying to hide shit if you continue to act this way (and really childish... women hate that). If you want to keep her, tell her what she wants to hear (refer to 48 Laws of Power), and then continue to press with life. If you don't care for her, continue with used tactics.

As for this plate, if you need to keep her a secret, don't do that in front of your LTR. If you can justify why you need to text plate, then tell LTR why you're texting her.

bestsparkyalive · 2018-09-09T01:19:29+00:00

Yeah you sound like a dick. There’s a difference between red pilled and what you’re doing.

jagdecat · 2018-09-09T05:17:25+00:00

Im no expert but part of being with a LTR is also knowing when to be blue pilled. It's about being a provider not just using her and you have to provide more then money.

Here you are just an abuser to someone who possibly sees a future with you. It's the stuff of domestic abuse

koedeloe · 2018-09-09T07:42:05+00:00

So you have a LTR who's good for you and she sees you dm'ing a plate, a girl you have sex with (hence a plate). She gets offended and you act like a little bitch and ignore her. Are you autistic? If your gf was a plate the thing you're doing would be alright but she's your LTR.

People on this sub are a joke holy shit hahahaha

bestsparkyalive · 2018-09-09T01:36:08+00:00

You’re just being a cunt plain and simple.

Quaternionz · 2018-09-09T00:28:15+00:00

You sound like a piece of a shit. You don't spin plates when you're in an LTR. I guess if you want to really not give a fuck and spin plates anyway that's fine, but you're fucked in the head if you think it's on her to openly bear the stress of that when shit hits the fan.

volvostupidshit · 2018-09-09T02:26:40+00:00

You sound like a narcissist to me. I bet you already know what you need to do.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-09-09T06:43:46+00:00

Cheats on good LTR then treats her like shit, comes here asking for advice on how to keep LTR going. Youre a piece of trash dude.

boy_named_su · 2018-09-09T00:26:14+00:00

An LTR means exclusivity, dumdum

If you dont want that, don't LTR. Or be in an open one

Terdmuffin · 2018-09-09T00:34:28+00:00

It seems like you two have different expectations of what an ltr is. How do you think she's gonna react when you're texting your side chick in front of her and she catches you? The fact that she felt the need to contact you from blocked numbers (Which you seem okay with?) and the fact that you seemingly keep lying to Her speaks to the level of misunderstanding and dysfunction present. If you're gonna be in an ltr why not find a girl you're compatible with?

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-09-09T03:31:51+00:00

It doesn't sound to me like you're looking for the same thing. Just tell her that and go find a girl that's a better match for you.

Of course there is going to be drama when you agree that your LTR isn't open (you said that in the comments) and then are texting a girl you are fucking on the side.

Davidfosford · 2018-09-09T06:04:24+00:00

LTR means exclusivity, unless previously stated otherwise, you cant be in an ltr and also spin plates,

if you want multiple girls, fuck multiple girls and be honest with them.

You're clearly in scarcity, there are plenty of girls that wouldn't mind an open relationship and also give you the comforting motherly attributes you enjoy from an ltr, but the difference is they know about it and agreed.

Abeham10 · 2018-09-09T07:44:19+00:00

Don’t LTR her if you want other women. This girl sounds like good LTR material and you’re over here plating girls. If you really don’t give a damn about your LTR then continue because she’ll eventually get tired and call it off.

furcryingoutloud · 2018-09-09T08:54:31+00:00

Again today asktrp feels like I just walked into Sunday school.

OP. You do not have to justify anything to anyone. Ignore questions about who you talk to and why. Ignore the text and call her up like if nothing happened. Just ignore the noise. But for a better relationship. Just don text with anyone while in her presence.

When youŕe with a woman, BE with her. No paying attention to anyone else. Concentrate on whoever is physically in front of you. Get everyone used to waiting until you can free yourself to get back to them. If necessary, turn off your phone.

Show all women respect. Give them your attention 100% when they are physically with you.

aleksa_ivkovic · 2018-09-09T11:18:53+00:00

Jesus

k8mariee · 2018-09-09T00:19:16+00:00

You’re in a long term relationship.

If you want to stay in one, apologize to her and do not talk to other women. You made a pact with each other to stay faithful. You will lose your integrity if you are pursuing or interacting with other women inappropriately.

If you want to pursue other women, then don’t be in a long term relationship. End it and flirt to your heart’s content.

MisplacedSanityP · 2018-09-09T11:03:45+00:00

A lot of blue pillers in here. Let's clarify a few things, as someone previously stated, TRP is amoral meaning to achieve one's goals independent of right and wrong. Yeah, he's being a dick by societal standards AKA the blue-pilled world. LTR does not mean exclusivity is you play it right, in the red pilled world, you can have your cake and eat it too I.E. have your girl stay committed and fuck other girls on the side either overtly or covertly.

Moving onto your problem, eventually you'll have to have a talk with her if you want to fuck other women and keep her around. I recommend having that talk now. I ran into this situation with my LTR and I told her this is going to happen whether she likes it or not I.E. me fucking other girls while she stays committed. If she doesn't like it, she can leave. She stayed, and now I use the plates I fuck as a constant dread situation I.E. talking about how much better they are than her at certain things so she shapes up. It works quite well. In my opinion, that should be the ultimate goal for an LTR and is very possible if you have high enough SMV. So in closing, don't justify, state you're going to do it and it's up to her if she wants to stay around.

Title	LTR Problem - she says that I am passive aggressive
Author	JackOfNoTrades81
Upvotes	6
Comments	29
Date	September 9, 2018 12:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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