When I met my LTR 2.5 years ago I was in the best shape of my life. Since then, I've only dabbled in the gym here and there (as many people in LTRs do).

My LTR has always been a HB8, skinny-fat but pretty, and has a very respectable job.

I am 31 years old, a bigger dude, and severely desire a woman with curves much greater than what I presently have. Hips, ass, and pretty much anything decent on the lower body of a woman drives my libido sky high.

I've recently been doing NoFap and been hitting the gym for four straight weeks, starting to look increasingly better. I have been trying to get her to come to the gym with me. My testosterone has been going crazy and I can't take looking at these other women at the gym anymore!

Here's the problem: her work and apartment are both 40 minutes away, but she stays with me 6 or 7 nights out of the week. She threw a tantrum earlier because I have been asking her to come to the gym with me but she uses living and working 40 minutes away as an excuse and hung up on me when I asked her why not. For the record, she has a gym membership in her own town and doesn't always need to come as a guest to mine.

I'm starting to think it isn't in her blood to get better/be fit and that I need to understand she will turn out to look just like her mother (hasn't exercised in 20 years). Maybe I need to just accept reality.