Miserable

secret_barber · 2015-08-11T12:38:43+00:00

Not all women are cunts, like your mom.

workdavework · 2015-08-11T14:02:32+00:00

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What is this?

PemBayliss · 2015-08-11T14:25:55+00:00

How old are you?

If you're over 21 and not living at home anymore, fuck them. That's their problem. Who gives a shit that your mom's nuts and your dad stays with her?

If you're under 21 and living at home: Well, that sucks. Not all women are bitches like your mom. Some are. The trick is finding them, and weeding them out. At least you will at some point be out of your mom's house, and you will not have to deal with her anymore.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-08-11T15:40:15+00:00

There is a whole lotta NAWALT in this thread.

Metalaggeddon · 2015-08-11T17:17:57+00:00

Women are not psychopaths, they simply have a different method of operating. Women act crazy because they don't have to develope agency or accountability, and then are lacking in leadership.

Your mother specifically, is fucking nuts, or has been driven desperate by supreme beta failure to lead. And i must say, even the perfect woman "if such a thing could exist" can be a total psychopathic bitch given the right circumstances. Especially with a Lack of leadership.

Do not hate either of them, though it's fine to hate their actions. I understand fully that you're in pain, and rightfully so, the people who should be most stable and dependable in your life are sorry excuses for people. Shit happens. The world is indiscriminate and unfair.

Also, use it as a lesson, don't think of all women as crazy, but use your experience as vetting knowledge so that you can screen the women who ARE genuinely crazy.

You will make it. I promise. Learn to dissociate, to compartmentalize, and to improve beyond all else, for yourself. You are actually cursed, but lucky too. You have experienced the wrong way to live a life first hand.

Don't waste that knowledge. You may be bound, but you are potentially uncaged and unbroken. With effort, you can be unbreakable.

From: someone who has also seen your situation first hand, and what the lack of such experience can do in the opposite direction.

Addendum. You are miserable because you choose to be.

Barring chemical imbalance, you must, I repeat MUST do anything. To gain small successes EVERY DAY.

S74RK · 2015-08-11T18:11:53+00:00

That's a shitty situation, I feel for you man.

Your best course of action depends on your age and circumstances. If possible I would move the fuck out, that's just a toxic environment. Depending how much you care for your father's dignity and/or financial protection, you might consider alerting him of the situation. Don't be surprised if he won't hear it, these things break people's reality so they don't acknowledge it.

Unlike some of the other posters here, I don't think there's anything special about your mother. All women have the capacity to act like this in a given set of circumstances.

If you're stuck at home and younger, that's kind of shitty. I would make it clear to her that you don't respect her actions, and pull away affection from her. Mothers are supposed to have a strong bond to their children, so this should have some measurable effect.

Best of luck and if you need to talk more feel free to PM me.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-08-12T01:35:03+00:00

When women love you, they love you because of how you make them feel right now. Tomorrow, they might hate you. It doesn't matter if you saved their lives, paid for their tits, bought them the house of their dreams or gave them children they adore - you can't count on them for emotional support.

Also, women have no agency or responsibility. When they feel good, it's because somebody or something makes them feel good. And when they feel bad, it's because somebody or something is making them feel bad. Women always need something to blame, because they are above reproach.

She loved your father once - enough to marry him and have a family - but he failed to maintain her attraction and has become the object of her hatred for "trapping" her. Her new man gives her tingles and is able to calm her a bit, but as you've seen, she will lash out at anybody she can and doesn't care who she hurts.

Your mom isn't a horrible person - she's just a woman who was with a man who didn't understand how women work and what it takes to successfully handle them. She's a direct result of him not stepping up and putting her in her place when she got out of hand. She's what happens when you let a woman lose attraction and allow her to disrespect you as a husband, a man and a human being.

Luckily, you've found this sub, so hopefully you can step up and use the knowledge here to turn things around until you can get the fuck out of there. Use her emotions to your benefit. If you know that women are ruled by their feels, then you know that you can control your mother's emotions by giving her validation, affirmation and agreeing that she is right and good.

This could be a exercise for you. The difference between kissing a woman's ass to get your way and manipulating her emotions to get what you want is frame. If you kiss her ass to try and placate her, you are stepping into her frame. You are making it all about her and she won't respect a man she can steamroll over.

If instead, you pump her up, get her feels rolling, take her side and use that momentum to get your mom to not act like a crazy bitch, then you are having her step into your frame. You're calling the shots, and the validation, attention and good feels will stop if she treats you like shit.

This is manipulation. This is what women do to men all the time and vice versa. This is how the world works. We are all just creatures trying to get what we want out of life. Your father forgot how to get what he wants out of life, and as a result, his nuts are in your mom's purse. Don't be like dad. Get what you want by whatever means necessary. Or continue to be ruled by insane women for the rest of your life.

thisisjacobc · 2015-08-12T14:24:01+00:00

Fuck, you're right. AWALT

cmiovino · 2015-08-11T13:33:06+00:00

Yes and no. Your mom appears to be a bit more emotionally crazy and nuts-o than most. Society keeps most at bay.

However, I do agree that a large majority are nuts-o. I find solace in the fact that women aren't like this biologically, but as a result of the society we belong to today.

fruguy · 2015-08-11T14:51:03+00:00

Why is your dad such a pussy? Or is it just cheaper for him to stay with her? Why hasn't she initiated divorce? Sounds like that's what she wants.

Title	Miserable
Author	TylenolMyLove
Upvotes	14
Comments	19
Date	August 11, 2015 12:25 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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