N count for LTR

frontyer0077 · 2018-09-25T13:42:49+00:00

I prefer no one. But honestly I usually look at who they are. If they have been in 2/3 long term relationships its good. If they have been single all life and had multiple ons I stay away.

I find that is the best way to gauge it, because a women will always lie about their amounts of sexual partners.

Bruchibre · 2018-09-25T13:43:22+00:00

I think optimal N count varies on age. Be reasonable, be sensitive to the context. It’s not about the new mujer itself, it’s about not LTRing a whore/slut. Listen to your guts.

This being said, 13 at 23 seems way too much for a real LTR. I’d say middle term contract at best.

red_philosopher · 2018-09-25T13:56:25+00:00

12 at 23? She's been busy on the CC and won't stop anytime soon.

oytrp · 2018-09-25T15:03:12+00:00

Optimal is 0.

Whatever N count she tells you, know that it's likely much higher.

All you can do is vet her for red flags and decide accordingly.

Auxfite · 2018-09-25T15:43:06+00:00

12 guys at 23 is a red flag. Because women never tell the truth about it. Like J cole said you gotta multiply the number she gives you by 3.

The more partners a women sleeps with the less likely she’s able to bond with her partner. I experienced this few months ago with my last relationship. It won’t show in the honeymoon phase but 3-6 months later you’ll start paying attention to the red flags more.. I’d stay away from that girl

MattyAnon · 2018-09-25T14:58:41+00:00

What is an optimal N count for your LTR to have, in your opinion?

2.

She can still bond, but isn't curious to experience "men other than me".

What do you think about 12 guys at 23 years old?

Totally fine and normal for a woman who doesn't want to be exclusive.

DiscordantMonk · 2018-09-25T15:29:09+00:00

Had more ons and str than I can count and a 7 year LTR. Its not too much to expect that a woman would do the same shit if presented good opportunities. I don't put much stock in n count. Have you vetted properly? Are you getting what you want? Does she treat you like a king?

The__Tren__Train · 2018-09-25T16:03:23+00:00

she's not yours, it's just your turn

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-09-25T15:54:41+00:00

12 at 23 is a lot. She’s definitely down playing it as well, along with the guys that “didn’t count”. She’s most likely around 17-20. No dice.

freew33zy · 2018-09-25T16:21:44+00:00

My soft rule used to be less than 3, but my current LTR was at 3 when we met so I bent it a little for an otherwise great LTR girl who does 3somes and doesn't stop me from fucking other girls.

I would still say under 5 is ideal, regardless of age. You don't want an experienced girl--everything has been much better with my LTR because she was inexperienced. Her pair bonding was still super strong.

A hard rule you should have though is that you should get anything she gave to other guys with equal or less commitment than they got it. Done a threesome? You now do threesomes. Had a ONS? I hope you started with her as a ONS. You get the point.

fade2clear · 2018-09-25T18:31:59+00:00

Just assume it's over 9000, because you will never really know anyway.

Remember to always multiply by at least 3 with whatever number they give you.

Title	N count for LTR
Author	Victonios
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Date	September 25, 2018 1:35 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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