I need some RP advice on how to deal with this. For some reason, I psyche myself out from hooking up with the sexually liberated women. E.g. Girls that flat out tell me that they just want to have sex, girls that come to my apartment with very little effort.

I get anxious and either fail to get hard or just flat out reject it, fearing failure.

I have been a sensitive person all my life, but due to getting fucked over by "the one", the last few years have toughed up to where I am either a Jerk or can dish out the alpha vibe, depending on what we are talking about.

I am not ashamed of needing intimacy before sex, but I would like to not be so anxious around "sexually liberated" women and convert them to sexual encounters rather than chickening out. Any RP advice?

To give this more of a context, I do better with women that are shy.. go figure.

Thank you