No bjs unless I go down on her too?

Zanford · 2018-06-18T00:11:37+00:00

If you're doing it b/c she told you to do it, then yes it's very beta. You've let her know that she can get what she wants using BJs or lack thereof as leverage.

DiggerClam · 2018-06-18T04:27:21+00:00

Well if you won't do it give me her # - I'll eat it all day long.

Whisper · 2018-06-18T04:35:14+00:00

If you were doing this on your own, because you wanted her happy, that would be fine.

But now she's ruined it. You can't do this, not because you can't go down, but because you can't give in. You cannot allow sex to be something she gives you as a favour or reward. You are not a dog, you do not fetch sticks for biscuits.

Stop performing oral sex altogether, stop initiating sex, stop seeing her as often, present the appearance of losing interest, apply dread game.

npplz · 2018-06-18T00:36:20+00:00

Sounds fair to me. I personally wouldn’t go down on a girl if she refused to go down on me. However, if she’s withholding head to get you to do anything else then you’ve fucked up

bannedfromWTFmod · 2018-06-18T00:49:43+00:00

How hot is she and how banging is her body? One girl has the best body and is super sexy and I est that pussy like no tomorrow but she will give me a bj if I ask.

MattyAnon · 2018-06-18T02:01:46+00:00

Is it too beta if I agree and always reciprocate? Will it come back to bite me?

Meh.... see how it goes..... but she's negotiating/transacting, so you need to up your perceived value / smv.

korewarp · 2018-06-18T00:49:05+00:00

Something something king pimp commandment something something do not accept, do me if i do you.

bigdale001 · 2018-06-18T05:11:24+00:00

It's Beta because she's essentially telling you what to do. If it's something you want to do then only go down after she gives you the blow job, if not you are submitting to her. That's something no guy should do.

friendandadvisor · 2018-06-18T13:39:19+00:00

Go down on her once. Then, after that, refuse any more blow jobs from her, and don't go down on her again. Should make her hamster a bit confused...

Soderbergh · 2018-06-18T02:01:01+00:00

It will. You are giving into her ideas of fairness. Stupid for her to do. Stupid for you to be OK with. Never make sex a give and take situation or you will fuck yourself before long.

MoebiusMedium · 2018-06-18T12:24:13+00:00

Blowjobs are an evolutionary mate guarding adaptation. I’m not kidding, google scholar it. It tells provides olfacation information as to whether your partner is straying or not so you can mate guard effectively.

Now, why do we use blowjobs as a metric of attraction here?

Because a woman in soft dread will WANT to provide blowjobs. If she sees you as a man with options her mate guarding instincts will kick in and she will WANT to act out those scripts, including performing oral.

If she isn’t enthusiastically giving oral a few times a week, she sees you as Dad material, end of discussion.

You need to use some dread (gently now, young padawan, oftentimes a touch is all it takes) to re-establish yourself as her Cad.

Rsdreddit · 2018-06-18T21:50:35+00:00

I always eat girls out cause I love it. Then I'll just say 'give me head' and they'll do it

wawakaka · 2018-06-18T01:42:31+00:00

it might bite your later with ORAL CANCER

mouth, throat, and stomach cancer are on the rise from HPV and other std infections...

Quantum_Jiraiya · 2018-06-18T04:08:13+00:00

Don’t make it a “oh no I have to give you head” ordeal, just go after it before and/or after next time. It would suck to be giving head to your partner all the time and never receive any.

Interesting option: You could slide a finger in her butt while going down on her and try to put anal on the table if you are going to be going down on her.

Title	No bjs unless I go down on her too?
Author	ShoddyPlatypus
Upvotes	4
Comments	29
Date	June 17, 2018 11:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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