Oneitis ghosted me

2030isCloserThan2003 · 2020-01-08T05:14:52+00:00

You will get better from this, it’s simply a part of life.

Anyone who has spun enough HB7+ plates will know that every now & then u may favor one of them a little bit more than the others & will be a little disappointed when that plate breaks.

We’re all humans with chemical reactions going out through our bodies. Obviously being ghosted by a 9 is a hit to one’s ego, but you will get over it easily by continue to better yourself & spin other plates.

Look back at how u acted towards her, be 100% honest with yourself. Where there any BP mistakes made? Was the sex bad? Where there any red flags that she gave off before ghosting u?

In the end it doesn’t matter bc there’s other women out there and she was simply a plate. Perhaps she lost interest & moved on or got back with an ex. It doesn’t matter. Maybe someday she will come back, if not who cares.

Alpha_Fucks · 2020-01-08T05:17:34+00:00

Yes to all of it. Go climb a mountain and picture her getting fucked by dudes more alpha than you. Let it hurt. Then stop being a faggot and become the man you need to be. Let the pain and anger at yourself transform you into a better version of yourself. This is redpill. You are sparring. She was your sparring partner and fucked you up. Be better. Learn from the mistakes. Ask me how I know.

DarkestShadeOfRed · 2020-01-08T05:27:35+00:00

But how can I get over being so stupid to fall for Oneitis when i should have known better?

Stop being so hard on yourself and use this as a learning lesson. Don't make the same mistakes twice.

Has this happened to any of you guys?

It happens to pretty much every single person.

Is pain and heartbreak necessary to burn this information into your soul and kill the beta?

Yes. Exactly.

Will i be better from this experience?

As long as you learn from this and continue to improve absolutely.

Domebeers · 2020-01-08T18:07:50+00:00

Lose frame, lose the girl. This is actually a good thing OP, that's one of the greatest lessons you can learn while you play this game.

BusterVadge · 2020-01-08T20:24:07+00:00

You got too emotionally invested and it showed. It's okay to feel something for a plate. We all do, Just don't see it for more than it really is.

Girls can see this from a mile away too and if you show emotional investment before they do, it can turn a hot plate cold within seconds. Most of us made that mistake at least once.

Best thing you can do is realize that there are a million others just like her or better then move on.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-01-08T20:53:29+00:00

Happens. Part of the internalization process of TRP. Learn and move on.

Spets87 · 2020-01-08T05:21:46+00:00

I had a similar experience. Was a perfect time to go through some emotional integration work, to integrate those feelings of loss and despair. "The Presence Process" was a book that really helped. And keep slamming those HB7s while hunting for HB9s

Fuktiga_mejmejs · 2020-01-08T18:46:15+00:00

NEVER put any girl on a pedestal.

Everyone has that one girl which was the best they've had but so what? Bitches come and go there will always be more.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-01-08T21:58:20+00:00

Good. Now grow a spine.

THE_SQUEEZER · 2020-01-08T05:28:58+00:00

all about perspective brother. time will give it to you.

FatmanO · 2020-01-08T21:02:30+00:00

HB9 plate

I stopped reading here

Title	Oneitis ghosted me
Author	watchguy45
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	January 8, 2020 5:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/elo212/oneitis_ghosted_me/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/oneitis-ghosted-me.305961 https://theredarchive.com/post/305961

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