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'Perfect guy but not right now' Thoughts?

funfitguyb · 2016-12-03T10:40:22+00:00

Hey guys, Basically heard my ex was saying this. Before TRP I probably would have had a glimpse of hope haha but now this kind of translates to: I want 100...

funfitguyb

December 3, 2016

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Title	'Perfect guy but not right now' Thoughts?
Author	funfitguyb
Upvotes	15
Comments	37
Date	December 3, 2016 10:40 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5g91jh/perfect_guy_but_not_right_now_thoughts/
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[–]1DonaldBaelish58 points59 points60 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Scurvemuch 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Story time.

Hung out with a stereotype Cheerleader/quarterback couple from HS when I was in college. Friendly with both. Wasn't fucking the girl, but we were in all the same classes 5 days a week and from the same hometown so why not just hang out. AlphaQBboy started resenting the fuck out of the fact that I could tell her to do something, and she would. Mind you, wasn't fucking her, just hanging out. I like em shorter anyway.

One day he got pretty butt hurt over Beta Boy (me), ordering his girl around. Threw a fit. She calls me over, upset. Wants to vent. ( mind you I knew or understood nothing on a conscious level at the time). Ok, no biggie, I was around so I stopped by. 25 min later, she has my dick in her, because I told her to. AlphaQB shows up, she gets the door in her birthday suit. He sees me with with my pants down and leaves. It was a fun couple of months and then she met her BetaInWaiting.

Anyway, point is, Giving no fucks helps. And a comfort fuck is still a fuck.

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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

Hey, how long between meeting a girl on that age range and laying?

Depends on the girl. I tend to favor introverts so they can take a bit longer. It also depends on if the girl is in the category of "actively prefers older men" or "is open to older men".

The 21 year old I fucked last week took 4 days. She follows me around like a puppy, now. She's also a knockout, so basically every guy she has ever talked to from age 14 on has been trying to fuck her. Guys she was in school with, her teachers, her dad's friends. Not that they were going to do anything untoward, but she understood it.

How much comfort do you need to offer? (I wonder how this can be answered).

I don't know how to quantify it, or even if it's "comfort". I simply provide confident leadership, and the girls I like dig it that I can handle all problems, etc. I'm good at "adulting", I guess. I overheard the same 21 y.o. talking with her mom on the phone--her mom knows about me, her dad does not--basically saying, "I found a man who can protect me." This was in relation to us having been out the night before, some asshat bothering her and me straightening him out.¹ So I don't really "quantify" it I just do what I do.

Girls of that age who prefer older men like structure. So my 20 y.o. FB understands that when she comes over, we will chat for approximately 15 minutes, I will take her by the hand and she will undress, put on the stockings that I like, and then we'll have sex. After that, I will feed her if she's hungry, and she's also free to relax, with me, far from her parents and her 3 y.o. brother. She can rest, play on her phone, whatever, until I start stroking her ass and it's time for Round 2. She likes the comfort in knowing what is expected of her.²

Incidentally, when she comes over we basically never leave the house. I'd be happy to take her out for a nice steak, because I like nice steaks, but she would prefer to stay in, be naked, and not have any responsibilities beyond looking pretty and getting fucked. /shrugs

¹ I have noticed an uptick in this sort of behavior relative to her as opposed to other girls. Once my buddy basically called her a 10 it clicked. The other male primates don't like that I'm getting her and they're not.

² I think this is primarily a function of her introversion. I've taken her with me on a trip or two, and if she could have gotten me to agree to eating every meal in the room, she would have.

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When you said they remain marriage eligible, did you mean they actually think they can lock you down, that you actually consider it, or that you let them think you do? In other words, do you overtly inform them you're not looking for giving someone a ring?

I don't lead them on. Generally, they want to lock me down, and assume that they can, but as they are younger, they don't feel the need to pressure me. They also have these ideas about being successful in business or whatever, but they just don't get it in terms of what it takes to be successful and how miserable they will be. For example, the 21 y.o. actually has her own small business, she's always stressed about it. Assuming I was amenable, she would be much better off simply looking pretty, sucking my cock, and tidying my house up on a longer term basis. I am not necessarily encouraging her to think this way, it is just an observation. Women just aren't built for it the way men are. And yeah "But some women, blah, blah" but I'm talking overall.

If she's not careful, she's going to wind up like an ex of mine who texted me the other day about how all she thinks about is marriage and kids, taking care of husband and family. She told me she "worries about survival every day" - a man would simply just accept this as part of being a man - and did I know someone who wanted to get married (Translation: "Vasya, will you not marry me?")

I do sometimes toy with the idea of an LTR and being a dad, but the reality is that it would have to be an open LTR on my end. So when I say a girl remains "Marriage Eligible" it's really just shorthand for her giving me her young, high-SMV years. It shows some faith and respect.

Y'now I listened to an interview with the author of a book called "Smart Women Marry Rich". She was a double-ivy or something similar, high achiever, blah, blah. And she observed that while she was out doing all that, some of her sorority sisters (or whatever) had married rich guys and were off shopping and getting hot stone massages while she was busy "achieving" and being totally stressed out, which led her to the conclusion, "Who was actually 'smarter'?" Now the flip side to that is, those wives would have to, as my ex (above) put it "play by husband's rules", but that might not be all that bad.

I supposed it wouldn't be needed because of the age difference (might not apply to me, being 29 and looking younger).

Girls who prefer older men dream of "barbie" weddings, too.

I was always under the impression you played for the hardcore CC riders, but 4 days doesn't sound unreasonable.

I basically have multiple open (on my end) LTRs. I am not orthodox on the terminology, but the 20 y.o. turns 21 later this month and I've been fucking her since she was 19, so yeah, she's basically an LTR now.

Where do you meet these girls? I've been meeting them at clubs.

I day game like a motherfucker. And I night game when I choose. And I front my own band. And I sit in with two other bands, from time to time. And I'm massively extroverted. An introvert asked me once how I knew a person was "approachable", to which I replyed, "I'm an extrovert. To me, EVERYONE is approachable."

Remember, there is no 'Big Rock Candy Mountain' where there's a corral of 75,000 hotties. You have to go out and find them (unless you Tinder, or whatever, of course, but I have to be 3 dimensional.)

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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Are they aware of it?

They are aware that I have not pledged commitment to them, exclusively. They are also aware that they can walk if they want. Women will share a high-status man, even if they prefer to lock him down themselves.

Funny you approached the career women thing.

It's observational. I see it with some of them and think they would be far better off having much calmer lives involving more traditional--and natural--gender roles.

I wonder if men in general are. I guess just some people.

I had a conversation with one of my girls, once. She was older than my usual, and has a very responsible job, and a lot of responsibilities outside of her work. Thus, in addition to her innate sexual submissiveness, she is quite happy to have someone else--someone competent--make all the decisions and take all the responsibility. She correctly pointed out that I also have an (even more) responsible job as having leadership roles in other activities, yet I have zero desire to be submissive at sex or otherwise. So I looked at her with a bit of a quizzical look my face and said, "Well, right, but I'm a MAN."

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Based on your experience, you think it's possible to find a woman that age willing to be a mom?

Yes, but it also depends on the girl also, not just the age. For example, the 21 y.o. is pretty terrified of getting pregnant at the moment, to the point where, the first time we banged, she asked to see that the condom was still on my cock after. The 20 y.o. would be more amenable, if, say, we were married, and my 24 y.o. ex has accelerated baby rabies at the moment, because life has become a bit of a struggle for her, her uterus is reminding her that she has an "out".

Based on the 18-24 year old women you've dated, do you think any of them were fit to be a mother/a reliable LTR?

Yes, to various degrees. The 20 y.o., as I have pointed out, is great with kids. With the 21 y.o., it's too early to judge.

Would any of them have been willing to have your kids without you putting a ring on it?

Some more than others. Depends on their own level of baby rabies.

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