react to her talking to her ex without being a little bitch about it?

mrpthrowa · 2018-08-30T15:05:08+00:00

i was supposed to laugh at the conversation they were having

Shit test.

You failed the shit test before it was even given to you. You failed at vetting. You projected a frame where this sort of thing is ok.

You almost certainly made her your gf too soon. Girls who behave like this show tell signs very early on. If she didn't, you'll have spend enough time with her non-exclusive to instinctively know you're not the type of guy she could do something like this with.

t i am asking for advice assuming that i will continue a relationship with her

Negative, we won't give advice to people who want to get cucked.

please don't just tell me i need to breakup with her

Do whatever the fuck you want.

It's all too late at this point. You have scarcity mentality, because you are afraid of losing her, and because of that you're prepared to get cucked.

CainPrice · 2018-08-30T15:33:36+00:00

Good girlfriends don't have sexual text conversations with ex-boyfriends.

Hell, good girlfriends don't have text conversations with their ex-boyfriends at all.

I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that you haven't been casually dating and fucking this 18-year-old woman for 3 years and that you carefully selected her from among multiple women you were having sex with. I'd bet you met her pretty recently, like maybe a few months ago, made her into a girlfriend really quickly because she was your only option and all you could get, and that you're not the kind of guy who has the opportunity to non-exclusively have sex with multiple women.

You should dump your girlfriend (or just downgrade her) and become the kind of guy who non-exclusively has sex with multiple women. Ironically, this will actually make you better suited for picking out girlfriends.

furcryingoutloud · 2018-08-30T17:05:35+00:00

how can i tell her that

Talking to her about your feelings? Do you explain to your car why you want to make a right turn at the next corner? Tell your dog why you chose to walk him in any direction? Ask your neighbor to understand why you want to sleep earlier?

There is no reason to tell her anything. Just do. Reasoning with a woman is the most anti-beneficial activity you can take on. A woman who has these talks is not your girlfriend, she's your friend. You shouldn't fuck your friends. And you should most certainly not make any attempt to waste your time talking. Women don't use words for anything other than filling in time.

Change what you do in order for her to change what she does.

DevilishRogue · 2018-08-30T15:18:53+00:00

i'm not really okay with that, but how can i tell her that without sounding jealous and insecure?

Being that you are jealous and insecure, why not deal with that rather than lying to her and yourself about it? Get yourself another woman and stop wasting any more time or effort on commitment to this one.

Relegate her to a plate. She's shown she doesn't qualify for higher status than that through her actions. If you can't switch off your feelings then end things.

boy_named_su · 2018-08-30T23:05:33+00:00

This is a boundary you need to set before getting into an LTR. She needs to know it's a deal breaker, though her father should have taught her this. And she needs to know that you will enforce this and not come crawling back too (ie you need good frame and will)

You can try to salvage it. But a bitch ain't gonna change. Long soft next. Like 7 days. Zero contact.

HealthInspector0331 · 2018-08-31T04:44:37+00:00

A relationship is nothing more than an agreement between 2 individuals. If one individual falls back on the terms of the agreement, then the deal is off.

No fancy, shmancy moral output here, just objectivity. Pure and simple.

bucSlayer · 2018-08-30T17:04:54+00:00

It’s not her fault, she did this because you’re likely a bitch in this relationship.

The best thing would be to demote her to plate.

If you still wanna be with her, tell her is not aceptable for your girfriend do something like this, and there wont be a second time. If she doens’t like it tell her she can leave if she wants.

Title	react to her talking to her ex without being a little bitch about it?
Author	MarchLightning
Upvotes	4
Comments	30
Date	August 30, 2018 2:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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