Recently Got Back Together With My "Oneitis"

redhawkes · 2017-10-29T10:06:26+00:00

I have a feeling I already know the answer to this one, but here it goes.

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. - Rollo Tomassi

One night, in particular, she watched me close an HB 8 and was very clearly jealous.

Preselection in play.

She sold me the bill of goods about how she'd been with no one else and missed me so much...

Yeah right

Fast forward 6 weeks later and her friend let it slip she'd been seeing some dude since right around the time we broke up.

AWALT always.

On one hand, I love this chick. Feel about her a way I've never felt about any woman.

Don't delude yourself, you have oneitis, GFTOW.

TimeValue · 2017-10-29T15:27:27+00:00

She lied, there will never be any real trust.

Don't feel bad snooping, she earned it.

Keep fucking her, withdrawal emotionally, game girls since it's always easier while having access.. demote to plate at best

ex_addict_bro · 2017-10-29T12:05:00+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/

TheRedPillMonkey · 2017-10-29T14:25:12+00:00

I'm going to agree that you shouldn't root through the garbage.

Let's just realize what happened: she left you originally because you dropped frame and lowered your SMV from when you started. After she left, you raised it back up and now she wants you back. AWALT. She just wants what other hotter girls can have for her own validation and ego and she has fomo. She'll drop you like a bad habit of you drop frame again or lower your smv.

If you're going to ignore advice and keep her around even a little bit, keep an abnormal amount of dread. Flirt hard with other girls in front of her and make her realize you're not getting her back, you're allowing her back. Keep it in your frame. If she even attempts to take frame, lay down the law and instill dread. You're doing her a favor, not the other way around.

Deep_freeze202 · 2017-10-29T16:35:22+00:00

She swung branches until she felt the new guy wasn't the better deal she thought he was, when she saw you doing well she wanted to swing back and you let her, as soon as a new branch she thinks is better she'll swing again and you'll be left holding the pieces.

Take it from someone who knows all too well, she will continue to do this for as long as you let her or until she finds a branch that she is certain is better than you, don't waste your time and set yourself up for heartache end it asap and move on.

DeepRedTomato · 2017-10-29T11:51:00+00:00

Leave her, tiny son. Then take notes from the sidebar.

YouLoveThisBTW · 2017-10-29T15:57:33+00:00

Fuck her hard and dirty.

The cup is already broken.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-10-29T18:45:43+00:00

I love this chick.

No, you love the fantasy you have projected onto her.

And I feel like I'm just a convenient option at this point to be discarded at her earliest convenience.

It's not going to last. At least start preparing yourself, mentally.

And don't slip up, stop lifting and become a betafag.

dandar4600 · 2017-10-29T18:07:42+00:00

And I feel like I'm just a convenient option at this point to be discarded at her earliest convenience.

You are 100% correct. She is that type of a girl. She will dump you in a heart beat if you slip. She will also lie and cut others cold turkey to be with the alpha you.

I don't think she's a marriage material, but if you take care of your shit and take none of hers, she might be fun to keep around. At least you know exactly where you stand with her. Take your time weaning yourself off of her and when you're ready, move on.

_the_shape_ · 2017-10-29T18:59:19+00:00

So let's hear it, brutal truth. I need it.

You want to hear a thousand different ways you can be called a bitch? Is that what you're after?

Here's the template for what you're essentially saying:

"I parted ways with (X). I know (X) is bad for me, I can even go into full detail why (X) is bad for me, but I have an uncontrollable longing for (X). I know, I know, I'm rationalizing, and I know I should turn my back on (X), once and for all, but, I just ...ughhh, I can't! Fellas, go on - tell me how pathetic I am!"

You're better than this, sir.

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2017-10-29T19:44:12+00:00

The more fluff you write, the more you’re justifying bullshit.

catalisto · 2017-10-29T19:58:56+00:00

You'll get dumped again on the next Chad.

If you have a cuckold fetish then get back with her.

FireflyGurl · 2017-10-29T22:18:12+00:00

You handled it better when you refused to talk about what happened when you were broken up. She should have done the same and refused to talk about it.

Has she lied about anything else?

Have you guys talked about why you broke up in the first place? It got stale is the real reason?

APtema · 2017-10-30T15:52:43+00:00

This wasn't a casual thing either. She went on a vacation with him, introduced him to the fam, whole nine yards. And after she moved back to my city for school, she cut it off with him as soon as I came back into the picture.

This is your future.. again.

She did it to you once, she did it to this guy, now that you're back with her its only a matter of time.

You're gonna have to be near consistently ahead of your game in order to keep this chick hanging onto you long term. Have fun living on a tightrope dude.

BetaBluePillAdvice · 2017-10-29T17:49:35+00:00

Wow man you’re so lucky, I think you’ve found the one. Clearly it is destiny that has drawn you two together again. She might have just needed some time to find herself and explore life a little! If I were in your shoes I’d not dodge her questions anymore about those 6 women and not breech her trust by looking at her texts. Clearly this is true love and you need to confess your love for her next time you see her and be honest to her.

TLDR: id put a ring on it!

DJVendetta · 2017-10-29T11:33:27+00:00

Nope nope nope

forwardprog · 2017-10-29T17:27:17+00:00

Don't let yourself get emotional with her. Keep it fun and good sex. As soon as she see's you sink your teeth into this she might start some shit. Obviously she is lying about the other guy so that's a terrible start. People throw out lies like that as no big deal, but in context when compared to a chick who is going to just tell you the straight up truth and maybe act like she's ashamed of it, etc. Its a big deal. So that's a big red flag. But if your account is correct it sounds like you dropped the ball which led to the breakup, or at least played some significant role in it. So all these guys commenting that everything is her fault, sounds like they're a little bitter. You've broken up before, if it happens again you can write her off for good. No harm in riding this wave unless you are going to fall head over heels for her and start waking her up with fucken flowers. If it reaches that point rather quickly then you need to abort. Guess it just comes down to how much and if you trust yourself.

Good luck.

Title	Recently Got Back Together With My "Oneitis"
Author	TopherShelduck
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	October 29, 2017 9:36 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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