RPW Anger Phase?

PhantomDream09 · 2014-08-13T14:44:36+00:00

Channel your frustration into constructive activities (working out for example). People have always, and will always make mistakes. You need to use your knowledge base to help and guide other people, but understand that many will choose not to listen. You can reach a point where you start burning out and feeling disgruntled, especially online. Know your limits and be sure to step away and do something else when you start reaching that point. Take your time when reading threads and writing comments, and only respond to someone if you feel you have the time and energy to explain things thoroughly (because you may end up having to repeat yourself several times).

Focus on finding ways to feel content, and happy. No one in your personal life is going to take your views seriously if you radiate frustration and anger. On the other hand, finding happiness, and being joyful day in and day out will catch other people's attention. Eventually they'll begin to wonder what your secret is. Accept that you cannot change other people, but you can change the way you react to their presence.

If your sister's or friends usually come to you with their problems, use those moments as precious opportunities to help. When it comes to friends and family, I always make sure I have plenty of time to talk. I let them vent and rage until they get it all out of their system while I adopt a comforting role. Once they run out of steam, I usually start to ask a few questions to get a more well rounded understanding of the situation, and begin pointing out aspects that I think 'stick-out' or that they have tried to gloss over. Remember that trickle-truth is all but certain when a woman is distraught and has a problem. We see this all the time on the RPW sub - ladies come to us with issues, and we find out a few hours later some really big pieces that she conveniently forgot to mention. From there, it's your job to gently but firmly give the other person some honest advice (even if it's hard to say). This system has always worked well for me, and I think it's partially why I have always been someone that friends seek-out when they are in distress.

Just remember that your anger serves no purpose right now. It's not helping you write better comments, it's not giving you an extra boost of motivation to accomplish something meaningful -- but it can. Diverting negative energy into constructive activities will prevent these emotions from putting a damper on your mood and stalling the forward momentum of your life.

Do things you are proud of, and that fall in line with your morality/beliefs. Be a good woman and find happiness, and accept the fact that you aren't going to save the world. What you can do is nudge the perspective of the people around you a little bit at a time if you're really lucky, and they're sincerely open to change.

Be well nyar_lolwe.

:0)

648262 · 2014-08-13T17:13:45+00:00

Feeling anger after uncovering you're being deceived is not a gender thing.

[deleted] · 2014-08-13T14:45:02+00:00

You are a woman and still you are angry after swallowing the red pill.

Now imagine how angry you would be if you were a man and attracted to women and just realized that you will never find the partner you wanted because unicorns don't exist.

That is the red pill anger phase for men.

Average_Black_Man · 2014-08-13T20:31:07+00:00

You could ask /r/RedPillWomen

FinnianWhitefir · 2014-08-13T21:09:45+00:00

I think TRP should come with a link to Stoicism, such as: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the%20art%20of%20living&sprefix=the+art+of+living%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Athe%20art%20of%20living&ajr=2

Your frustration is caused by your lack of acceptance in truths, in how the world works, and how much you can change or deal with. This book and similar helped me to just sit back and go "The world is how it is, I will change things that are within my possibility to change, and I will not get frustrated over things I cannot change because they 'just are'"

frequentlywrong · 2014-08-13T19:23:03+00:00

Accept the fact that it is what it is and there is nothing you can do about it. It is completely pointless in getting upset over someone else's mistakes. If someone asks for advice give it to them, but try not to get attached. The best thing you can do is lead by example.

kick6 · 2014-08-13T19:32:33+00:00

breaking any kind of addiction/habit/long held belief/pattern of behavior is going to have an anger phase. People have anger phases when mourning for lost loved ones even. It's just part of the recovery process for our species.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-08-14T18:48:52+00:00

This is refreshing! I feel your pain but imagine how guys feel in this day and age? This is a woman who "gets it."

I think unplugging can be difficult for women (to the extent they are not already Red Pill aware since birth) and the solution is the same. Channel your anger into physical activity. Recognize that women are acting like this because men are letting them. It is not he fault of the scorpion when he stings the frog. The frog bears considerable responsibility. Our society and culture are in much more dire straights than it is generally acknowledged.

IN54N3 · 2014-08-15T22:47:54+00:00

My LTR of 2 years went through something similar when I informed her about what was wrong with her mindset and her friends. Ever since she felt the utmost contempt for her ladyfriends. She was disgusted by her colleagues for the whole of her internship. It fucks you up yeah but the guilt she later felt concerning some of the shit she pulled in her younger years was worse. She accepted it but it definately was a bitter pill to swallow, regardless she is now happier and way more focused and determined, this makes her considerably more attractive too. Think long-term and "get your act together" so you can do something useful.

etcomro · 2014-08-13T14:10:03+00:00

First of all, you should be meditating everyday. If you're getting this upset over a little thing like sexuality, then daily meditation may help you see that none of it really fucking matters. Life, death, and everything in between.. just a part of the game of it all.

Next, as enlightening as realizing women are not the princesses we've been taught they are is; it should not be used as justification for hating them. Trust me dude, if you had been born with a slit instead of a dick, you'd be adopting the same behavior. So climb off that high horse you're riding.

Lastly, I believe the way that this information is presented on TRP is ridiculous. Of course it's presented by men who are typically still in this "anger phase." And as helpful as peers can be, I think it's more useful to get information free from personal hangups. I highly recommend this talk at the '08 Real Man conference by Johnny Soporno as an alternative. Fair warning: unlike TRP, Mr. Soporno does not subscribe to the typical monogamous construct.

Also.. you really want to work on this because this right here is going to kill your odds of getting laid.

All_the_Dank · 2014-08-13T14:01:06+00:00

I imagine everyone goes through it. but good on you for recognizing it. I think getting past it is just a matter of time, how much depends on the person. I've personally been in and out of the anger phase for about 6 months now. Women suck, it's very sad... hopefully it gets better soon. I want to find a unicorn so badly...

Title	RPW Anger Phase?
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Date	August 13, 2014 1:52 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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