Same shit test over and over....

frequentlywrong · 2015-02-16T05:12:20+00:00

Your response is absolutely awful. It shows zero abundance mentality. It's just something way out of left field that makes you sound like a weirdo.

"And whoever wins can keep her".

Said matter of factly without emotion.

abcd_z · 2015-02-16T07:05:22+00:00

"Like hell. I'll be sleeping in the bed, you can sleep wherever the hell you want."

Of course, if she actually shared a couch with somebody else I'd take a break from the relationship, immediately downgrade her to plate status, and GFTOW (Go Fuck Ten Other Women).

Tiway22 · 2015-02-16T06:28:27+00:00

What a bitchy thing to say. What amazing qualities does this woman have which excuses this sort of offensive behavior?

Pretty dump worthy imo.

SBxFlacko · 2015-02-16T04:43:57+00:00

You're her boyfriend.. Why wouldn't you be in her bed WITH HER.

Does she say it seriously or jokingly?

you_take_the_veil · 2015-02-16T04:46:14+00:00

Too wordy.

There are two possibilities:

a) The fact that you're blatantly falling into her frame with your try-hard response shows her how much this statement bothers you, and she's laughing at your dumb ass.

b) She's being literal and legitimately wants to fuck your roommates. Does she perhaps legitimately want to fuck your roommates dude? How many times has she said this same thing to you?

Next time she pulls this, try responding with something other than your B-list Joss-Whedon-script pseudo-witty bullshit. Ignore the statement if you think she's full of shit, or try another technique. Dudes on here need to realize that these things are simply concepts you're supposed to reach as extensions of your own personality, not a script. This over-the-top nonsense doesn't work unless you're regularly calling her m'lady, and if you're regularly calling her m'lady, I think you dropped your fedora.

Calling her out is always a weak move, and necessitates facing the fact that she legitimately might be hinting at something.

asd1100 · 2015-02-17T08:14:39+00:00

YOU ARE 31 AND HAVE ROOMATES!!!

YOu are begging to be shit on. That is the appropriate attitude a woman will have when you are a looser. Your response is also in line with just how low value you are compared to her. At 31 she wants a stable beta chump to settle for and you are seriously falling short in regards to her ambition. This creates a constant pressure in the relationship of you not achieving and her being "accepting", this creates a climate where she effectively can not respect you.

To the rest of the readers: You can not weasel your way trough life, you either rule and force respect or you stay a emotional teenager and complain about not getting to sit at the big boys table.

FinnianWhitefir · 2015-02-16T05:01:55+00:00

I don't think you are properly A&A. Your response is basically saying "Yes, you are such hot stuff that all us guys should fight over you and you are worth the whole world being destroyed". She asks because you feed her ego and make her think that all your friends want to fuck her.

You need to A&A more on the "Everyone wants to fuck me side". Some quick "Nah, we'll go to Frank's girlfriend's place. She's got room for all of us in her bed and we don't need to draw lots." will impress a "You aren't hot stuff and I can get it elsewhere" vibe.

I also think her saying that is incredibly disrespectful and don't get why it doesn't bother you a ton.

wizardgab · 2015-02-16T08:57:51+00:00

My response would be: "or we Just kick you out and my roommate and I take the bed. You can sleep on the couch.

HS-Thompson · 2015-02-16T12:27:04+00:00

Come on guys this isn't that hard. The key to a witty response is flipping her meaning of drawing lots from winning to losing.

The answer is something like "OK, guess I'll see you if I draw the short one."

And then move on. Jeez.

realdev · 2015-02-16T07:59:39+00:00

Wow, your response is extremely poor. Good god man. Are you guys LARPers or something?

So... is the shit test here her telling you she wants to sleep with your roommate?

RPmatrix · 2015-02-16T08:18:18+00:00

I could be wrong here but all the repetition of the same topic with the same people sounds like she's angling for a threesome, foursome or maybe moresome!

frequentlywrong · 2015-02-16T06:42:31+00:00

Let me explain something about shit tests. They are challenges. They are opportunities to display abundance mentality. An agree and amplify response means throwing it back into her face.

My reply: "It will be a drawing of lots to the death... kings will die, empires will fall, worlds will collapse into the void!"

At best this is interpreted by her as you being clueless of her intentions. At worst this is utterly failing her shit test because you are displaying the opposite of abundance mentality. That you will fight for her to the death.

What you wrote is agree and amplify of her words. Instead of destroying her challenge by responding to their actual meaning.

TattedGuyser · 2015-02-16T05:18:48+00:00

It's too bad she doesn't have a younger roommate (or does she?). "Ok, while they are in there with you, I'll have roommate on the couches with me" and watch the fireworks from there.

youcantdenythat · 2015-02-16T04:45:29+00:00

You answered that well, but I think the general consensus here is that if a girl mentions or hints at another guy, it should generally get ignored / cold shouldered. She will get the hint.

Title	Same shit test over and over....
Author	RedCupPaper
Upvotes	3
Comments	29
Date	February 16, 2015 4:32 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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