Seeking advice. Soft nexted (/got soft nexted by) LTR of almost 2 years and haven't talked for days. Don't know how to handle what is to come...

hartke20g · 2016-03-24T14:49:48+00:00

She knows what she's doing. She's likely ready to dump you anyway, so if she contacts you bitching about you not talking to her, your answer will just serve to reinforce her resolve about dumping you (you don't even care to talk to me/you don't even know me enough to know that I want you to talk to me/etc).

Keep busy, lift, go meet new women. Ignore this one, she doesn't care anymore/is playing games.

UndergroundRP · 2016-03-24T17:10:47+00:00

You can't really get a "soft next" from an LTR. This is your LTR disrespecting you, and probably dumping you.

RPSnuggles · 2016-03-24T15:44:19+00:00

She is pissed because you aren't texting enough. As you shouldn't. She's wondering what you are doing and if you are hooking up with other people. The next convo will be all about how you're too busy to talk to her.

AFPJ · 2016-03-24T16:07:18+00:00

She'll definitely ask why I didn't even contact her and not talk for 4 days.

Well, she didn't contact you either - except you don't have to ask why: because she was on some strange dick.

No clue what to do here, but I don't want to hard next, at least yet.

There's nothing YOU can do. Whatever's gonna happen will happen regardless of how you react. Do yourself a favor: pretend you're single until (the extremely unlikely case) she contacts you again - and if she doesn't, good, you're legit single and can keep fucking hotter women. And if she does contact you again, your objective should NOT be "how do I get her back", your objective should be "she can forfeit all her power in this relationship to keep it or get the fuck out"

Basically, plate her. Any chick that plays bullshit games for an entire week isn't worth your time.

ApexScorpion · 2016-03-24T16:32:50+00:00

What were the arguments about? If it's something trivial she's probably looking for a reason to detach herself.

Do not beg her to come back. Let her have her space. She's no longer LTR material. Get used to it. She might gaslight you and say everything's your fault. Don't fall for it.

You've been together 2 years. I'm sure knows the program by now.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2016-03-24T14:21:38+00:00

Just shoot her a text and tell her to bring those red panties you like or something like that. If she tries to bring up the argument just ignore her shit test and act like she's a little girl. You're a man that doesn't have time to be arguing.

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