Selfish Mindset

themostgianthorse · 2020-12-24T17:19:58+00:00

The question to ask yourself is - are actually being selfish or are you thinking you are selfish now that you are becoming more assertive compared to your previous self?

DLifts777 · 2020-12-24T18:34:17+00:00

Yep though at work you need to learn to tone it down, depending on what industry you’re in. If you’re surrounded by some meek people you will have to come across a bit more gentle, as it can scare the meek betas - remember you need those guys for promotion/payment.

A good thing to read is the 48 Laws of Power, ‘never outshine the master’ - in a workplace you need to understand where you sit in the food chain, if you’re too hard to work with you’ll get canned. As for women, you can never really be too assertive, tho don’t become some controlling douche

vazeline200 · 2020-12-24T19:01:52+00:00

Some great answers in here. I would say be more selfish. As selfish as you can be however don’t conflate being selfish with being cruel. Don’t go out of your way to hurt people or not help when your conscious is clearly telling you that you can and should. Other than that don’t let anyone waste your time and/or money.

AppropriateSale6413 · 2020-12-25T00:06:00+00:00

You should be selfish none gives a shit about you.

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cydestiny · 2020-12-24T18:29:49+00:00

Be self-aware not selfish, know your wants and needs, how to express them in the correct form and make decisions based on the limitations that the self-awareness bring.

I think you're already doing it.

Mr_Badass · 2020-12-24T19:01:46+00:00

I had this situation happen when I got medication for my Bipolar. Currently super stable. I used to be the biggest push over ever and had learned helplessness and wanted to please others .Now I'm stoic and selfish. I believe you might have been cured of learned helplessness and now more assertive of your own needs.

MazerTag · 2020-12-24T22:36:33+00:00

I think your postscript hits the nail on the head. As long as you can differentiate between doing what makes you happy versus doing mean things to hurt people, you're fine. I know there are all these aphorisms about "the road to hell," but intent is far more important than outcome in a moral sense. If you actively seek to hurt someone, you're a trash person. If you happen to hurt someone because you need reach your own goals, that sucks, but sometimes it happens.

Sometimes your goals won't align with the goals of others, so one of you will have to be unhappy if there's no middle ground. That's life. You need to fulfill your goals because you only get one shot at it. People who don't understand will have to get over it if their desire is to change you. That said, if you can make people happy and achieve your goals at the same time, that's the best outcome possible.

kclanton80 · 2020-12-26T00:13:24+00:00

I think selfishness is a key to manhood. Selfishness is growth.

Title	Selfish Mindset
Author	gotmilo11
Upvotes	5
Comments	18
Date	December 24, 2020 5:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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