She conveniently implied a break-up before her week long vacation. What do?

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2018-10-30T03:47:07+00:00

It's over. Find a new plate.

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-10-30T04:21:57+00:00

She's deliberately keeping it vague so she can mentally check out of the relationship and not feel guilt for hooking up on vacation, but can also slide back into the relationship without having to explicitly "come back" after breaking up.

WildPhilosophy · 2018-10-30T03:55:01+00:00

First off, your behavior reaks of insecurity. Fix that, because it's gonna keep getting you into these situations whether with her or your next girlfriend. From what you described, it doesn't sound like she broke up with you, but she should have. Your insecurity is pushing her away and honestly you probably aren't going to hang onto this relationship much longer. If I were you, I'd act as if your relationship is over. Don't go date other people right away, you need to work on yourself and your insecurity first. Switch into monk mode before she gets back. When she gets back, your goal is to genuinely not give a fuck about whether or not she wants to be with you. If she does want to be with you, this is alpha behavior and she'll desperately try to get you to care. If she doesn't want to be with you (more likely) you're sparing yourself a lot of the pain and getting a head start on moving on. Either way, you're working on yourself which is what you really need to do right now. Stop counting on women to make you feel secure. That's beta as fuck.

markinsinz7 · 2018-10-30T05:45:23+00:00

Yes ur broken up with her.

She has already sucked 1 dick the first day her plane landed there .

Now she will proceed to take a few more dickings during this vacation.

Meanwhile when u don't message her for entire vacation she will wonder what happened and will chase u when she's back. Take her back but treat her like a friend with benefits. Use the fuck out of her for sex cause u know deep down she's a whore

CainPrice · 2018-10-30T03:20:49+00:00

You know exactly what's going on. Vacations without a significant other, especially at a resort where the only activities are drinking and sitting around in bathing suits, are for hooking up.

Mr_Queef · 2018-10-30T04:24:16+00:00

the thing is you're trying to hang onto something that isnt easy.

it's so obvious who's more invested in this relationship. I've been exactly In your position as well man. it's this feeling of how much you enjoy spending time with her and so you dont understand why she would rather not see you after drinks on the town when you wish you could see her almost every day.

I've also had the shoe on the other foot. a girl has wanted me to spend allll my time with her and she cant understand why I dont wana see her. the truth is...when I really think about it...is that I just wasnt that into her. she was more invested than me. I craved time alone. I hate to say it bro but I think this girl just isnt that into you. it doesn't matter how much patience you show in not seeing her you are always gona wana see her more than she does you.

one massive rule or TRP is to maintain a positive disposition when it comes to frame. you lost that when you showed your jealousy and insecurity. the thing is she didn't reassure you but instead sent you msgs that only made you feel worse even though she knows you're insecure. she left for a week and barely gave a fuck about you.

listen man. spark interest in her brain again. make her fucking hamster wheel spin. put stories up on insta and snapchat having fun. when she gets back from her holiday dont ecer msg her for another 3 days after she gets back. you need to show her that you dont give a fuck and you will find a girl who will invest herself in you. if this chick doesnt fight for you after her holiday then wtf are you doing man? next her because she sounds like shit anyway.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-10-30T11:31:50+00:00

None of us can read your gf's mind, so there's no way to know for certain what she intends. I can say for certain that if she hasn't decided yet, getting paranoid about her fabricating a reason to break up with you before her trip will not do much to increase her attraction to you. You already said you were the one that was initially at fault.

It takes two to tango. Take responsibility for whatever shit you did, hold frame, and don't come at her pointing fingers. Even if she does want to break up with you - so what? That's her choice. It doesn't really matter what the reason is. Learn from it, better yourself, and find someone else. Abundance mentality, man.

RedHoodhandles · 2018-10-30T12:00:55+00:00

So you were monogamous? This is a LTR? She grew an argument out of proportion to kind of end the relationship because she wants strange dick and you didn't have the balls to do it.

Since downgrading from monogamy to fwb/plate doesn't work imo and since you have to downgrade, there is only one logical consequence. The relationship is over. Hard next. She's dead to you from now on. Like she never existed. Delete all contact possibilites and move on.

You will think about her from time to time. Other women and time will help with fading her memory. GL.

iintrOOutroo · 2018-10-30T10:23:54+00:00

Is this a chick posing as a dude?

WoodWizzy87 · 2018-10-30T21:21:41+00:00

She’s banging Juan Valdez right now dude.....

Title	She conveniently implied a break-up before her week long vacation. What do?
Author	quantum_grape
Upvotes	1
Comments	51
Date	October 30, 2018 3:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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