Staying friend with ex's

ghcortez352 · 2018-12-11T06:52:50+00:00

No, it’s not a real friendship, it’s a degrading consolation prize for the party who got rejected.

KirthWGersen · 2018-12-11T10:30:53+00:00

Depends what you mean by friends.

I am friendly with all my exes. I continue to love all the women I have ever loved. Never had an unpleasant break-up. Most of them would have me back at the drop of a hat; some of them hit me up for booty calls.

They can give you amazing social proof. And some of them are very interesting to talk to; they bake me cakes, buy my kids clothes and do me favours. I reciprocate in my own way.

You never know when you might need a friend. Or a babysitter. Or a helping hand. I have a tendency to go for crazy women, so it is nice to spend time with emotionally stable female friends to balance things out!

Sometimes you just want a woman to watch a movie or go to an art exhibition with and not feel any obligation to perform in any way. It can be so relaxing. Sometimes you just need a hug and a chat. For me, a short-term sexual relationship can be a prelude to a long-term friendship. They can become like sisters, allies in your life. It makes me happy but then like people and I love to hear their stories.

But if you mean hang out all the time with a girl who no longer wants to sleep with you, when you do want to sleep with her ... that's just torturing yourself and it won't win her back. And if you mean driving her places, picking things up for her, listening to her problems, when she doesn't do the same for you ... no.

You need time to let the romantic feelings die before you can consider spending time together. If you are in the same social group, fine, be friendly, just chit-chat and don't spend too long with her.

olKoozii · 2018-12-11T06:52:54+00:00

Why would you want to do that..?

YslJames · 2018-12-11T14:41:31+00:00

If y’all not fucking there’s no point

Shittybillyall · 2018-12-11T07:28:54+00:00

Nope, shows you still have feeling for them. Why waste your time and energy? She's an ex for a reason, go slay some new pussy.

scanfan2022 · 2018-12-11T07:02:03+00:00

Nope.

pollsterblue · 2018-12-11T19:16:24+00:00

No. All you become is an old doll in her mental doll house. In there along with all her other ex's. Do you find that appealing?

martian94 · 2018-12-11T10:30:12+00:00

Would you drink spoiled milk?

BrutalMan420 · 2018-12-11T06:58:20+00:00

i dont see how anything could be bad so it must be good

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-12-11T13:25:20+00:00

Depends on if there is any potential benefit to you by doing so (hookups, social proof, etc) and, most importantly, where you are at with the breakup mentally.

CharlesChadworth · 2018-12-11T21:28:03+00:00

Dafuq would you do that for???

SemperPrimus · 2018-12-11T14:38:34+00:00

I think its not a bad idea. They can introduce you to friends, expand your social circle.

Title	Staying friend with ex's
Author	grifill
Upvotes	2
Comments	14
Date	December 11, 2018 6:49 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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