The "Am i getting fat?" Test

vorverk · 2017-10-10T03:27:50+00:00

"No honey, you look beautifull". Then proceed to flirt with a hot skinny waitress across the bar. Dont say it out loud, just get that hamster of her spinning.

creating_my_life · 2017-10-10T05:47:47+00:00

It's a shit test, but not in the way you think. She wants to find out if you're alpha enough to drop her if she gets fatter.

Is she really getting too fat for you? Then your answer is, "yes." Nothing wrong with living congruently. And, are you REALLY ready to say, "hey, this isn't working out for me" if she adds another stone?

_the_shape_ · 2017-10-10T03:27:41+00:00

I like your responses, your frame, but let me see if I'm getting this straight here: you like her "chubby", but the "new belly" is proving to be too much?

If you're this forward with her, either tell her it's time to tone it down (gym), or leave her to be herself with someone else.

McDrMuffinMan · 2017-10-10T15:23:34+00:00

"you have a scale, use it"

Terdmuffin · 2017-10-10T16:12:47+00:00

When she asks that and you blow it off you're just condoning the behavior. The way the Convo is really going is like this

Her: I've realized I'm gaining weight, do you find this acceptable?

You: Yes this is fine and in fact I still find you attractive.

You've already dug yourself into a hole here. She obviously isn't getting the hint despite your efforts at covertly communicating your displeasure. Since you've been putting up with it (for months) when you do an about face she's going to make you feel like a jerk so be ready for that shit storm and also be ready to leave.

mrpoopistan · 2017-10-10T16:28:52+00:00

The deal is that she is getting noticeable fatter

I feel like this whole thing answers itself.

she felt the dread and she said she was going to start the gym (Wich she doesn't)

She is not feeling the dread if her weight is going up. Period.

I'm one of the worst forms of aloof/dread game a woman can experience (I often talk while looking around at other women, for example), and a majority of women I dated lost significant weight while they were with me. I never brought the subject up. It just happened.

she's eating like shit this new belly is not good

Outright tell her she's eating like shit, especially if it's obviously junk food. If she gets testy about it, frame it as, "Well, it seems to matter to you . . ." Make it sound like comfort. Plausible deniability.

Or, unplug a bit and see how she reacts.

batfish55 · 2017-10-10T10:39:03+00:00

No, those pants don't make your ass look fat. Your ass makes your ass look fat.

Title	The "Am i getting fat?" Test
Author	TxnyMontana
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	October 10, 2017 3:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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